My Ex being a two timer and playing myself and another female what should I do? Especially when I’m the mother to his child?

[Anonymous]

Hey everyone could I please. Ask for your help I have no idea what to do? So my ex partner has been saying since we broke up that he “just wants me to come home”. “That he loves me” But I’ve found out that he’s been lying to me and he has been sleeping with another women all the while asking me out for dinner + trying to work on “us” And telling her lies when we were out! Not telling her the truth, me neither I am so mad because how could he just play us both? After reading some messages this girl has started to fall for him which I explained that and he just cut her off apparently even though he said that then messaged her and deleted his texts 🤦🏻‍♀️ especially when I told him not to because that’s so shit!! Anyway should I message this girl and explain he’s played us both? I have no idea am I being to nice? Should I just leave it. Please help a girl out

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Thank you so much for your help and advise. I will most definitely

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Sorry ladies can I just ask how do I start it off I’m stuck on the first few sentences? Any help would be much appreciated? Thank you

[SueShe]

I believe it would be justified to warn this girl about the double life your ex boyfriend is living.

However, you don't tell us whether your ex informed her about him being the father of your child and to what extend he has painted you as a bad person.

You should tell her to be cautious about him because he does have a double life and that his fundamentally dishonest. Make her aware that she will face dire consequences if she gets pregnant as well because I am almost certain that he will not help both of you girls out financially.

His type of mentality is toxic and should be a red flag to any woman. He is definitely not mature and only sees objects for his sexual pleasure in women.

[SueShe]

Thanks for the MHO

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

I think it’s always good to be honest and disclose information about situations like this. It is not fair to her nor you to be played around like this.
Either way, I don’t think it will fix anything… She might leave or she might stay…

[Asker]

That’s what I was thinking, just for a bit of closure for either of us and I feel is girls should pick each other up not out each other down thank you again

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

I would agree with that. I think it would be best to say it just to watch out for each other. If you do decide to tell her, make sure to be kind, calm, and not try to come off as if you’re attacking her (because most people in situations like that would feel intimidated or defensive).
You’re welcome. I wish you luck.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

I would start off by saying, “Hey I know this is weird…” Then explain the situation (my child’s father is talking to me while he is also talking to you)…
I would try to say that you just wanted to let her know she that she isn’t left in the dark and lied to, if she didn’t know already.

[Asker]

Thank you so much for your help I really appreciate it🤍

[SnakeBoop]

don't even entertain him.
Message her if you really want to but if she's in love she'll probably think you're being bitter or something. concentrate on you and your kid

[Avicenna]

Yeah, let the other woman know

[Asker]

I agree, Thank you