Ex is suddenly ignoring me but we have a child together. What to do?

My ex and I have a 8 year old son together. A month ago my ex gave me the speech he doesn't want a relationship and can't commit to anything speech. He had been under extreme stress and I believe our relationship was one he could end so he could focus in the other stresses in his life.
He said he didn't know what the future holds etc but for now he wanted to be on his own but stay close friends.
My ex would contact me at least once a week to see how I am etc this lasted for approx 3 weeks then he asked if he could catch up in person.
I agreed as I missed him and our son had not seen him ( my ex had not asked to see him). When we met up his brother was there and was happy to see us etc.
my ex said all the right things and we ended up hooking up.
When we parted he said he would be in touch. I didn't hear from him for 3 days but was not worried as I knew he was busy and I was busy too.
In the 3rd day I was in an accident involving a semi truck and I messaged him to let him know about it. He ignored the message even thou he was active online.
The next day I sent him another message to say his Son and I are Ok in case he opened the message I sent the day prior.
My ex opened it and said he was glad we were ok and he was sorry.
I didn't ask him why he was sorry I just assumed it was because he hadn't opened my previous message.
I sent him a follow up message after he had replied to me to get no response again. That was a week ago.
I still love my ex and want our family back together but I am confused why he was first in contact and after we hooked up he is ignoring me?
Should I just walk away?
Is it likely he now doesn't know what to do since he ended the relationship and then was the one who made all the advances leading to us hooking up?
How do I handle the situation as we do have a son together and our son deserves to have his dad around but his dad is ignoring me? Oh I have never used our son as a tool and never would.
Thank you in advance


Most Helpful Guy

  • I think that he's completely unsure about what he wants. Everything is too confusing and I think it's confusing in his mind too. But I do think he's wrong. If he doesn't want anything with you or if he's unsure about you, it's up to him, but he should really see his son and care more about him.


Most Helpful Girl

  • It sounds like this man has other things on his mind. You have to step back and let him find out on his own if the grass is greener where he is looking. You have to stop pursuing because as long as he sees and feels it he is not going to come running. He has responsibilities towards his son, but you can't force that either. You have to let him see the errors of his ways on his own. You can only inform him of his son's needs and leave it alone there after. If he is not stepping up to that then that should tell you what kind of man he really is and then you take legal steps and remove yourself from it. My ex-husband abandoned his children I told him what his kids needed and I informed his family he nor the family stepped up so its in the hands of the courts and Im not thinking about it. To this day I know he knows he screwed up but thats on him and not me and I refuse to live unhappy because of him. I will hold my head high, and be happy for myself, my children, and my sanity. Love him from afar and love yourself unconditionally. He at this point is showing you he can't accept your love and is not willing to return it. Let go and focus on you right now and just stay quiet and watch. Be sure not to jump either at any of his request or insinuations.


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What Guys Said 2

  • You are the victim of break up n hook up society.. Feeling So sorry for u...:/

  • He HAS to stay responsible for his child.


What Girls Said 1

  • Eww what an ass. Doesn't even ask about his son. When he did meet you both he spent that time sweet talking you into bed instead of grovelling apologies to his son for not seeing him these past weeks. Didn't even panic like a normal parent when his son was in a crash.
    Whatever, don't need to beg him to be a parent but at least make sure he's financially responsible if only that.


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