for context i like to dress in an alt style and i wear skirts and occasionally fishnets. i always wear shorts underneath my skirts and i don't wear these things to formal events. we were talking about Instagram and all the sudden he told me that some of my clothes make him uncomfortable and when i asked more about it he asked if id ever seen a hooker and i got upset because i felt like he was calling me a slut. he said he just didn't want people to get the wrong idea. before all this i was under the impression that he liked my style and had no problem with it. i tried to explain i dress like this because it makes me happy and i feel pretty in it. he said i was shallow and that he thought i dress like this because i want people to look at me. I've compromised on many things with him and i let him help me pick out my outfits but my personal style and self expression is not something i am willing to change anymore than i already have for him. i stopped posting any pics of me on Instagram, i let him check my outfits before i go out, and i don't wear some of my favorite things anymore because he doesn't like them. i feel like i haven't done anything to warrant this and im annoyed with him about it.pic of me in the outfit he was comparing to a hooker
My boyfriend compared the way I dress to a hooker and when I got upset he said he just doesn't want people to get the wrong idea. what do I do?
Ok first of all you don't even come close to looking like a hooker but I don't know if plaid goes with stripes This is what's really going on is your boyfriend is very insecure he doesn't want any other guys looking at you so no matter what you wear he's going to put you down on it if he can have his way he's going to lock you in your room each and every day so nobody can look at you it's called Puppy Love
You need to let him know that you're going to dress the way that you want to dress because that's makes you feel good you dress just like everybody else if guys look at you he needs to understand that guys are going to do that and you have to remind him that you are with him and that's the bottom line right there so smile if a guy looks at me it's a compliment and guess who's with me you are it's a compliment towards you see what you have to understand is you were like a 30 year old at your age and he still seven at his age you're much more mature than he is and he doesn't understand things you look fine you look beautiful but I'm still not sure if plaid goes with stripes
No, you don't look like a hooker, and that's the main thing. I think he just doesn't like your style of dress and it's going to be a sticky point in your relationship. By allowing him to choose your outfits that make HIM happy, it sounds like YOU'RE unhappy with the compromise, and why should you choose that? You're under 18 and there are plenty of boys to meet who will love how you express yourself. Consider your options.
That style is popular, cute, and acceptable. None of what you’re wearing looks like a hooker or what a hooker would even consider wearing. I think your boyfriend is simply insecure or jealous, it seems as though he doesn’t want you looking attractive or confident in what you’re wearing, because it will attract other guys. If he is name calling and say you look like a hooker, that’s a red flag, and you shouldn’t tolerate it. You have every right to express yourself with fashion, and you should let anyone (especially a boyfriend) stop you from being comfortable and confident in what you are wearing. I don’t suggest you stay with him, because he has already made those rude remarks, and he is controlling you in what you wear. That is not right.
Your boyfriend sounds stupid and insecure. You don't dress like a hooker. If he's embarrassed to be around you, then he clearly doesn't love you as much as you think he does. My ex boyfriend used to act embarrassed around me because of my hobbies and interests, and he turned out horrible. Get out before it gets worse than this, please lmao.
Being honest, he sounds very controlling and insecure in the relationship, not great signs. Being able to express yourself is important, and if it makes you happy then it's doubly important.
I think it's time to say that this is what you like, and you're going to wear it (including getting those favourites back out) and if he doesn't like it, he knows where the door is.
I agree it’s not right how he went about it, but men have the right to assess boundaries in a relationship just as women do. If something makes you uncomfortable in the relationship, the best thing you can do is mention it to your partner and settle on an agreement. I would feel pretty uncomfortable if my wife dressed provocatively at work or something like that. Just as she’d feel uncomfortable if I still posted shirtless pictures on social media. Only worrying about yourself and your freedom in a relationship seems like an optimal way to destroy intimacy and trust.
You deserve a boyfriend that supports you being you!… that includes how you dress, the TV shows you watch, your hobbies, and your insecurities too. Real boyfriends love you for who you are and not the fake you.
As first - you won't change your boy's opinion about your style, I don't like it too, looks like for little sad insta girls As second - if it's a problem for you, just break up with him
It is your choice to dress how you like and feel is the best style for you. He likely has some jealousy/insecurity issues and thinks guys will pay you extra attention.
You shouldn't be dressing like some slutty school girl at an anime nerd convention, it's not Halloween. You don't need to dress like you're trying to get everybody's attention, and you're going to get the wrong type of attention.
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