What's most important to you in a serious relationship?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I voted “Love.”

I believe in the “5 Love Languages” concept (which came from the book of the same name)—which says that there are 5 basic ways in which people express & receive love, and that each person has one primary “love language” in which they most “feel loved.”

Note: The 5 “love languages” are:

Acts of Service
Gifts
Physical Touch
Quality Time
Words of Affirmation

As for me, I have a very big need to be understood & appreciated, because I believe (through experience with others) that I am sometimes complex & difficult for others to understand; and I like to feel that my love interest “gets me” and that she is sincerely interested in me.

And my primary love language” is “Words of Affirmation.”

https://www.5lovelanguages.com/

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/your-spouses-love-language_n_5a580310e4b0720dc4c5ab71

https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language

Which of the 5 “Love Languages”—Acts of Service, Gifts, Physical Touch, Quality Time, or Words of Affirmation—is your preferred way of receiving love?

Anthontcillio · Accepted Answer

I put sex. And you’re probably thinking typical guy answer but let me explain.
sex, love and communication are really what I care about.
If you don’t have a healthy sex live within the relationship then I feel like one party if not both will feel sense of neglect.: and absence of love. And this can cause communication problems because if you can’t communicate and fix this problem.. then doesn’t matter what is said between the two people since let’s face it.. actions speak louder than words

so yeah am I considered a pig to you based off this answer? I hope not since sex to me is more than just feeling good.. it adds a sense of security and confidence and trust within a relationship.. in my opinion. But personally I need touch to feel loved.. words without actions leave feeling neglected

dovendyret · Accepted Answer

Communication. There's no question about it.

Financial security is nice BUT not always actual - that's something you need good communcation for.

Sex is more than nice, sex is amazing BUT life can be a bitch and dry spells can happen - another thing that could cause issues without communcation.

Love, yes every relationship needs love - but to me love is a choice and not being able to communicate with someone can make that choice a lot harder in the end.

Religion/morality: Good communcation & open mindess can fix the religion issue: I'm a norse pagan and my husband is raised as a casual Muslim & then as a bit strigther Christian - he's now an atheist. Morality is a bit more tricky, I'd never date someone who didn't share my morals.

artstatues · Accepted Answer

Voted A
A relationship and/or friendship can't thrive or survive without good communication. Being able to have heart-to-heart talks about big issues, as well as open and honest communication about everything, including the little things (even, and especially, the irritating things) is vital to any healthy relationship.

Lack of communication often leads to we forming assumptions about other person or situation or event in life which in turn leads to misunderstandings. And misunderstandings will shatter any relationship/friendship.

AviatorTom · Answer

Respect for each other's opinions... basically accept who each of us is and don't try to change us.

Guy13 · Answer

Come hell 🔥 or high water 💧 on this Earth, I will be beside you. In other words, equally yoked and all things will be given unto you.

Кураж · Answer

Really odd results, did pink voters overwhelmingly miss the "love" option or is the stereotype that men are in fact more romantically inclined true?

For me, love and continued romantic as well as sexual attraction is an absolute must in a relationship.
That powerful, obsessive, possessive Bonnie and Clyde love experience is what is important to me.
If I'm not desired and found special on that level, then the relationship really has no point to me.

Communication, companionship, finances, those are merely things that facilitate romance, they are not the focus.

TRORT · Answer

Communication far exceeds almost anything in relationship.
Religious Beliefs, Crucial in not only for after life but also trying your children
Love for one another. Showing compassion, trust, honesty
Sex for stronger bond, and childbearing.
And Other... I don't know what to say...

DonkeyDan · Answer

Yes while all are very important in a serious relationships the most important thing must actually be love, I can have great communication in all my relationships, and I can have friends with benefits for sex, but if in a romantic relationship love is the key. If there's no love it's just a friendship.

Sour-rose · Answer

If anything, just talking with me is the most important of all. I don't need to come home and my girlfriend is just staring at the corner of a wall and don't say shi when I get home. And if I try and talk with her and she don't say shi, I'm gonna think she's possessed... or someone killed her and left her standing perfectly still on her feet for me to see her guts dripping out of her. (from the movie UNCLE, guy was K. O. ed and stood still perfectly)

That, and fine with me being me. :3

DarkCarousel · Answer

Respect. I feel like respect can cover all of these areas and lead to understanding and compromise in a relationship. It’s most important that my partner and I respect the beliefs, feelings, boundaries, etc.
Love should be right there alongside respect for me.

NathanDavis · Answer

of course it would be love for me, but... it has to be based on something genuine, to me that's the most important thing of all as of foundation...

that she's genuine about herself and about our relationship as well... if the love, the communication, the sexual desire, the trust... and the core of who she is and how she is are not genuine, (as well as me/mine) then our relationship would not be as serious

Anonymous · Answer

communication.. what's the point of love if you cannot communicate it to each other. Communication is not only verbal, but in general how you interact. If there are problems on any aspects of the relationship great communication is key to solve/make it better/understand each other in order to have an awesome relationship.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

The emotional connection aspect.

how you are so linked with each other, how you often say the same thing at the same time.

how out of a bunch of random possibilities, you both do or say the same thing.

scooogy · Answer

I'd say communication, but even with communication I lost interest in a woman, because she constantly looked down upon my job because it wasn't what I went to college for. What she doesn't get though is that 1. hardly anyone made it that far at my college, 2. covid makes it hard to find a job in that field (computer science).

FriendlyDrugDealer · Answer

Communication is the foundation in any relationship. The ability to discuss thoughts, discover perspectives, share dreams, comfort pain, etc. It’s the center of love, sex, and the possibility of a future.

Grond21 · Answer

None of these answers give a full explanation. Because some of them are necessary for the relationship to not fail, but do not guarantee it working. Others are needed to build on this foundation in order to have a successful one, but cannot function without that foundation.

sissyalexa · Answer

I guess for me, communication, I'm not a very social person so if I'm with someone I want to know we can talk about a wide range of things without awkwardness 😊

SamIam96 · Answer

If communication is good, it is much easier to be in sync on most any topic. If not, it's just luck that the couple will have compatible views on any issue.

humanearth · Answer

Other

Its a mixture of everything you listed and then some

Its never just one thing

If you want a marriage to last 30 years or more like mine. Nothing is set in stone, and you/theirs/us relationship is always changing.

What you want when your in your 20s. Is not the same thing you want in your 30s, 40s, 50s and so on.

If you think you, things will always be the same. You will die a very lonely person

CrazyGirl2 · Answer

Definitely communication! Without that, you have no relationship… just two people hooking up every now and then!

silkjames · Answer

Bonnie and Clyde type Lovings lol got each other's back nomatter what the rest will fall in line I miss that once u find one hold on taught u probably will never find it again :)

skytatoe · Answer

Integrity, Communication, Effort.

Everything else will flow from that:
For me a woman who displays those traits is just plain hot, so sex is pretty much taken care of.
With the above you can find either a common goal or a compromise that will lead to financial stability if you don't already have it.

coolbreeze · Answer

Sex because without it the relationship will fall apart and the other person will either leave it cheat if they are not getting enough sex.

Apulu_3 · Answer

Communication because many relationships don't work out due to this only. Communication is very very important for a relationship.

Mark987 · Answer

Honesty for sure is number one.. if you don't have that it won't work. By your question and options I would say communication.. You don't want to be with someone where there is always a dead pause in talking...

innerman · Answer

You have to be at least as crazy as i am...  or as religious as i am, what ever things drive my life, at least share 70% of them we all looking for someone who’s demons play well with ours

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Love isn't what you should look for in a relationship, loyalty is.

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

First! Communication, second! Communication and communication

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Communication is the key & a weird sense of humor would do it for me.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Morality I cannot be with someone who thinks abortions are evil and all that none-sense.

lrina · Answer

probably compatibility, but i guess communication is similar.

noohair · Answer

It is my belief that a serious relationship can't last without satisfying sexual gratification on both sides, unless you are both too old to remember how to do it.

exitseven · Answer

I would say love. I cannot see continuing unless she really loved me.

AlwaysBelieving · Answer

For me, communication. Everything else listed on here doesn’t work without communication in my opinion

AndrésC64 · Answer

F, other. I think honesty is the most important, but I guess that could have fallen under your option A.

20yearsolder · Answer

I know you're looking for a specific thing but there is no one thing. It has to be a combination of everything

SAMI_DABBAB · Answer

Communication, I wish we solve everything that comes our way together

bklynbadboy1 · Answer

For me its love trust communication and respect followed by loyalty and yes in that order

Evilbunnyfoofoo · Answer

Treating each other as absolute partners, sharing everything, striving to make each others day better than yesterday.

driven159 · Answer

You have to start with communication if you don't have that the rest doesn't matter

Jessegirl1998 · Answer

Communication by far without it fail faster then stock market in the 1920s.

Nopename · Answer

it all happens in the relationship with beautiful sex

Darine123 · Answer

Loyalty, maturity , financial support, communication

RedBullRacingLemia · Answer

Love Trust  Commucantion

Waldoe · Answer

on those cold and windy nights, when everything goes Wrong... you don't need a foot massage

Heilelliotrodger · Answer

Monagamy , trust, sex, kindness, treating me like I matter

Massageman · Answer

If you have goo comm, the rest can be worked out.

RebeccaBI2000 · Answer

Give me communication. The rest will come

ItsMeElliana · Answer

communication, effort, love, loyalty

Zygum · Answer

Sincerity to commitment to the partner

Anonymous · Answer

She needs to touch me a lot

Passion_Devil · Answer

Commsss by a mile

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

Mutal respect

DaveToo · Answer

Honesty.

Aphrodite801 · Answer

Loyalty.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Communication

Anonymous · Answer

Communication

JesseJayNeak · Answer

Loyalty and honesty

XPhazonZero · Answer

Communication

Anonymous · Answer

Loyalty.

Wise4myage · Answer

A, B and D.

TrillXHippy · Answer

F: all of the above

Kurdistan1991 · Answer

A, B, C, DE

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