Should I be worry about my boyfriend female friend?

[Anonymous]

They’ve know each other since middle I believe. When we first started going out she constantly blowed up his phone always FaceTime For her anxiety/panic/depression. Also would FaceTime on the toilet while pissing.. wtf like how do you think that okay with someone’s boyfriend! She would always want to come hang but would want him to pick her up , one night she made him pick her up knowing he was going to drink and she has a car? That night my mom told me she saw her tap his butt he told me she didn’t, till this day I believe my mom. She would always ask about me after I leave like I was doing something wrong. For the past 4/5 months she been chill with bugging him but her last 5 messages to him from the month of February till march was “I miss you” nothing else. Does she have a small crush or some sort of unresolved feeling for him?

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+1 y

We have talked about it and he said he understands my concern cause he would be if the roles where switched. he asked me if he should mssg her if she likes him but I don’t want that to be a reason for her to not like me/him if it’s not true. So I told him to just let it be and know I’m uncomfortable and suspicious of her.

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+1 y

I’ve told him I’ve been in a similar friendships from middle to after high school with a male friend and at one pt we like each other. And also when one of my other male friends got a girlfriend I stop bugging him and taking no offense if he hadn’t called/mssg me because I knew boundaries and respecting there relationship and knowing as a female you can’t be just do certain stuff it’s just different when your opposite sex friends.

[chefsam]

You should be worried, she got feelings for him. If he hangs out more with her than with you, that’s a red flag. Sounds like she tryna get the middle of your relationship & start problems. If she wasn’t doing all that stuff and seeking less attention from your boyfriend, it be fine but she trying to have him think about her more

[Asker]

Luckily since we started dating we’ve literally been attached to the hips he’s lived with me till I moved in with him last December. He hasn’t physically hanged out with her since oct-nov I believe and it was with me both times at my house

[ShineBeauTAEfully]

I think that you should trust your instincts. You could try to talk to him about it, but that could end badly considering how close they seem to be. If you do talk to him about it, be very calm and try not to seem like you are trying to separate him and her, just let him know how it makes you feel. Have you tried forming a friendship with her as well? That might help.
I hope everything works out for you ❤️

[Asker]

I have tired both occasions when she came to my house but it seems forced but not in any bad way , for me we’re both very different except we smoke and I’m dating her friend. And with the things that made her sus during are first couple weeks/month of dating kinda put me off on her. I want to like her I really do 😭

[ShineBeauTAEfully]

I wish I could help you more ☹️
I have a lot of extremely guy friends, and when they get girlfriends, I always try to befriend them and give the new couple their space. She should be giving you two your space and stop doing some of the things that they use to do, like facetiming him on the toilet, out of respect for your relationship. I don't know if she likes him, but I am pretty sure she is jealous of what you two have, whether it is because she likes him romantically or just wants a relationship like yours. Another reason could be that she is afraid you will take up all of his time and she will lose her friend.
I'm sorry if any of this is not grammatically correct or doesn't make sense. I am half asleep lol.

[Asker]

So he decided to text an old friend who was in their friend group and she also believes that she has/had a crush on him with the “I miss you “ message she thinks it’s highly sus the FaceTiming. So should I tell him he just need to stops responding to the I miss you messages?

[Isismoonie]

Never trust female friends who refuse to have boundaries once their friend is in a relationship.

[Asker]

How do I tell my boyfriend that without sounding rude?

[Isismoonie]

Tell him that it’s hard for you to standby and watch and feel comfortable with their relationship since she doesn’t respect boundaries.

[Asker]

So he decided to text an old friend who was in their friend group and she also believes that she has/had a crush on him with the “I miss you “ message she thinks it’s highly sus the FaceTiming. So should I tell him he just need to stops responding to the I miss you messages?

[Isismoonie]

You need to explain to him that he needs to understand boundaries. Even to everyone else it’s suspicious

[Asker]

So I told him but I think it’s hard for him considering what I’ve told you. She now has offered him to work at her parents food truck should I tell him to just straight up text her that how’s she is with him makes me uncomfortable and if she could respect for some space/boundaries that be great.

[Isismoonie]

He doesn’t need to even put you in it. He should feel uncomfortable with it. How did he respond when she asked him initially?

[Asker]

Excited of course he sees her as his best friend but the things is she offered him not us and he told me she offered us both jobs.

[Isismoonie]

So he lied to cover her?

[Asker]

I guess to make me not upset. He said he deleted a message between them so i wouldn’t get upset and I told him I was more so upset he felt the need to delete instead of showing me. He never offer to shows me their messages to help me be less suspicious.

[Isismoonie]

Ask him how he would feel about this entire situation if the shoe was on the other foot. Either he gets it or doesn’t.

If he pretends to not understand, you go quiet. Don’t keep fighting him about this. You give him some space. Hang out with your friends and make other male friends. Hell get it then.

[Asker]

I’m going to talk to him tonight , I’ve also just talked to some close family/friends yesterday and they are all saying the same as you. I hate to do it but I don’t want this to be an issue in my relationship if it’s happening now it’ll probably continue on 😞.

[Isismoonie]

It will sad to say. She’s not going to have her boundaries and he’s not going to push for them.

[VikingWarLord]

All three of you sit down together and read the book "SEX AT DAWN" by Cacilda Jetha and Christopher Ryan.

In ten years from now, you and him won't even be together, you're too young for a serious committed relationship as it is any damn way. Read the book and expand your mind

[Nahid1707]

No, are you jealous or worried?

[Asker]

Worried about her not jealous I know he don’t like her like that.

[Nahid1707]

Okay good 😊

[Anonymous]

You should always be worried when it comes to men.

[Anonymous]

yeah pretty much and that is so weird