Do you think that being in a GOOD relationship should be easy?

Question

Ever had a good, happy relationship? Did it just happen or did you work to keep it going well?

Andres77 · Accepted Answer

After two divorces... I realized that the primary reason for divorce, the one consistent reason for divorce... is marriage.
It's two foolish desperate people wanting to be loved but not prepared to commit to the work necessary.
If people were more realistic in their expectations... not just of their partner but of themselves as well... there would be a lot fewer marriages and so a lot fewer divorces.

I can't take credit for finding my wife. She found me.
And I was broken. I wasn't healthy.
She recognized this and got me into therapy.
It made all the difference.
What man would readily accept his wife's insistence that he's broken and needs help?
One that was blessed with a truly awesome partner... and though my pride said "fuck you, there's nothing wrong with me" in my heart I knew that I'd never find another woman so wonderful and willing to love me through my darkness so I acquiesced.
It's not been effortless but I almost feel like I've been on vacation for almost all of it.
When you marry the right one... it should not be THAT much work.
Just my opinion.

bolverk · Accepted Answer

No a 'Good Relationship' takes work from both sides constantly.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I voted C "Yes, if it's a good relationship, everything should happen naturally and without any effort. That's why it's called a "good" relationship!" because this is 95% true. I wouldn't say that it all happens without ANY effort, but having been in bad relationships in the past that felt like ALL work, to being in a really great relationship now that requires VERY LITTLE work, I would say this is pretty accurate. From day 1, my boyfriend and I just totally hit it off. We just get each other, we treat each other with respect, and everything just flows.

Alwayreckles93 · Accepted Answer

I have learn that it takes a lot of patience. Now a days sadly people give up right away. My grandparents had been married for 59 years now. But my grandmother told me it takes a lot of patience and to be understanding.

ohshee · Answer

Well we would all love to have that fantasy of it being a good relationship but there are moments and times it's not going to be good you have to be honest with yourself he'll accept the faults of each other but no matter what type of relationship is it is you have to work at it even when you are in a friendship you have to work and for some reason I think those are a little bit easier but in a new relationship it's work it's a tough job sometimes
I've been in relationships before well we didn't have an argument for two years
But when we would have our first argument have that first argument how we set the tone we set the tone for all the rest of them if you're calm collected you communicate and you deal with it that's what you want to try to do
It seems like an argument there's always going to be somebody that throws out the first lie what you do that it starts going downhill from there that's why it's hard work you have to be on this no matter what if you don't want to argue don't do stupid things show that person that you love them each and every day sometimes it's hard because maybe I'll your day went and blah blah blah blah blah blah blah but no matter how good or how bad it is you're going to have moments is how you deal with those moments that will either keep you going first set you back

Phoenix-gb · Answer

Maintaining a relationship should require work on both sides, what shouldn't is getting into one in the first place. So many people play mind games and talk about "the chase". If you're metaphorically running from me, then that's a sign to me you don't want me, not my fault if you did and I walk away.

Once we've established that we both like each other and want to pursue a relationship together, that's when I'll put the work in and fight to keep it that way to the best of my ability.

Phoenix98 · Answer

I think that has more to do with chemistry.

On rare occasions people have such good chemistry that everything about the relationship down to how they communicate is so easy that it’s downright effortless. Even fights and disagreements.

If you ever are lucky enough to have such a partner hold on to them that kind of chemistry and person doesn’t come around everyday.

but even with that being said both people still have to put in the work and effort in the relationship and marriage. No relationship no matter how effortless or fairytale like is free of work, effort, understanding and patience.

Zenit93 · Answer

Who’s the arbiter of good? That’s relative in your question. I personally married a woman with very similar values, but entirely different ways to approach those values. We get frustrated at times, and have fought plenty in the past. I define our marriage as good despite it being a struggle at times because it’s forced me to grow in so many ways. We’ve learned through time to be more gentle and appreciate our differences. Our marriage was very toxic in the start though. If I dated someone so similar to me, I’d most likely be bored and be the same person I was years ago.

Adam1978 · Answer

It should be easy to interact and get to know what the other person wants and expect and what they wilk give in return Then it's up to you to decide what effort your willing to put in to have that relationship. Easy doesn't mean free, it's just things you don't mind doing. If a relationship becomes a pain or a struggle it's not worth it, because then the other person clearly does not want it. Because they are making your life bad instead of improving it.

Ray1980 · Answer

Titles a really naïve view to have. Like anything worth while relationships are hard work; not to mention how hard it is to be honest & communicate. That may sound easy but it's not. Want something solid? Built it on a foundation worth building on; trust.

AZandrea · Answer

It's easier to be in a GOOD relationship if both parties are somewhat wise, because they know what works and what doesn't.

Of course I am not talking about people who "think" they are equally intelligent in all fields simply because they were good at school or at a profession.

Being book smart and street smart are completely different things.

PJH359 · Answer

I’ve noticed, in my experience anyway, that most women think a relationship constantly takes work/effort…while most men believe that it does not. For the most part I agree. However the notion of “work” should not include little things like offering a hand with shopping/chores, or small acts of affection like flowers or gifts for given occasions. This topic really requires a much more in depth response but in the interest of conciseness I may have over simplified.

Lliam · Answer

I voted E. A good relationship should be joyful, but it takes awareness and effort to keep it happy and healthy.

Conflicts will always arise between any two people. Communication and compromise are necessary. But in a good relationship where two people love each other, it doesn't have to feel like work because each other's happiness is the payoff.

RJJ33666 · Answer

I think being in a good relationship does make some things relatively easier to do, like spending time and making time for each other or showing proper boundaries. Stuff like this can become easier but like I said it only makes some things relatively easy. Their are gonna be certain things in a relationship that is a constant and is always gonna be a problem at some point, like if at some point their is a possibility of marriage, its a very tough choice and that is gonna bring up conflict.

Siren777 · Answer

E... No one is perfect nor any relationship is but being in a good healthy relationship surely feels better than a bad one. It takes two people putting in the work, communication, loyalty, compromise, love & having fun.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on who you are I guess.. I see various cases around me..
For me a relation never naturally developed into romance, even with some effort I am rather lost in it xD. Either I fit well with very few people or I do need to work hard on it.. I think it is a combination, but yeah, I am still to figure that out :p

Crankor · Answer

It's not about it being easy, it's about how accepting you are to make it work consistently. If it conflicts too much from your current lifestyle then that's usually when it feel difficult to maintain since you either have to change your routines or create a separate life almost to maintain it. In a way a good relationship is easy when it feels like what makes you both happy comes natural and is just part of who you are.

Iron_Man · Answer

Relationship are very difficult you go through trials and tribulations I lasted 7 1/2 years in my one and only long-term relationship and that was a lot of hard work and yes we did argue and yes we did have many great times.

DiegoO · Answer

From what I experienced (which was a toxic relation), I came to understand a relationship shouldn't be forced, or give you a constant feeling of struggle and dissapointment. I mean, you shouldn't feel the need to constantly trye to fit your partner's expectations. Expectation turns to be 1 with our values, so it should be easy to carry on a relation, if there are values in common.

Anonymous · Answer

If a relationship is that damned hard, you're forcing something that doesn't fit. Sure, there are gonna be rough patches, but if it's CONSTANT, then you're being a fool. Move on and find someone you're compatible with. You're supposed to be each other's peace, not their source of stress.

DaveJord · Answer

I have always said, that when two people get together they make it as easy as possible to be together. They find ways to make time for each other, contribute equally to the relationship, emotionally, physically and materially.

Nata2496 · Answer

They'll still be some things you can work on but if you have been smart and discussed things before getting settled down together, you will know you are compatible and have similar views so it should be easier to know how to handle your issues.

Yucy_Gluttony · Answer

NAW! You both need to put in the effort! But if you find your dream partner, you both will make it look easy, because you're a perfect match

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

I look at it this way.

You have two kinds of sports people. Those who are naturally gifted, and those who have to work day in day out to achieve their goals.
Both will get great results, just the naturally gifted will always have the edge. Same I think for relationships.
I kept looking until I found someone I really clicked with. We still have to work at it, but there is a solid foundation that will always be there, because it is natural not forced.

melanieeeB · Answer

Yeah it is easier, sure you still have to work on things but it's soo different from a bad one

kinggeorge007 · Answer

Wooow I wanted to see a different result, but I was disappointed

Star_88 · Answer

Ofcourse it should be easy but with some obstacles.  But if it's more hard then it's not the right one.

ChiTown33 · Answer

I think if you're with the right person it's naturally easier. But it will still ALWAYS require work.

es20490446e · Answer

I think that a romantic relationship is as any other relationship. If two people like and respect each other, and have an alike purpose, it should feel effortless almost all the time.

Irunya41 · Answer

I know it wouldn't be easy for me to have the relationship I would want and I think it's probably similar for everyone there's a lot you have o comprise and work on

Likes2drive · Answer

Good relationships requires compromise on both sides , sometimes everything false into place and works naturally but most times it doesn’t

AlwaysBelieving · Answer

I've never had a relationship so take it FWIW. I think a good relationship can be easy in the beginning. Maintaining the relationship (or even making it better) takes work.

Twalli · Answer

Not all relationships you work at will be good, but all good relationships require you to work at them.

dolemite89 · Answer

they should be to a certain extent, I've learned if u have to compromise a lot on big things in a relationship ur with the wrong person. as patrice o’neal said compromise just means one person in the room has to be unhappy.

Tina19 · Answer

Nothing comes easy in life it takes mutual efforts to make relationship work

Jelitha · Answer

I don't think it is easy to have a good relationship but you can have a good relationship You just need to be patient and be open and talk about your feelings when you are sad etc.

MelissaMarie9614 · Answer

I wanna say yes. But a good relationship takes time, work, and patience from both significant others.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I think all relationships on my part are up and down cause I always have streaks of bad luck

dragoblack · Answer

A good relationship is just best friends with romantic benefits and everyone doing their part in the relationship

TacosRAwesome · Answer

I don't think a good relationship is easy but the efforts seem to work.

douride2 · Answer

Both partners have to work at a relationship to make it good.

Shy_Steve · Answer

I reckon it should be "Easy-er", Probably not entirely easy but you should be enjoying your relationship more.

cookiecrusher · Answer

It is easy. Pick better men/women. And be a better man/woman for your partner, you are all they got.

Guardian45 · Answer

It's like taking care of a plant. It needs watering and tending every single day otherwise it whithers.

sp33d · Answer

No way. If it's easy, it's stagnant and that has a smell of complacency to it.

mollyyyy37474 · Answer

is there any moderators or whoever because i’m not able to ask questions. I deleted the app and even logged out lol.

Vick2828 · Answer

Yes. The only thing you should have is debates. Not arguments.

jimmy2 · Answer

There's up and downs in all realtionships those who can forgive and talk plainly will have a smooth time and bless each other

Nolletace · Answer

There are good relationships but there isn't a perfect relationship

Sam_The_Savage · Answer

Every good relationship has secret sexual relationship - Fuckboy.

Lynn2001 · Answer

Not easier but not so hard compared to what a bad relationship does

exitseven · Answer

It is a lot of work under the best conditions.

Shark_61695 · Answer

It should be... no idea if it is or not.

Anonymous · Answer

I've never been in a relationship.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

F. for honesty.

JesseJayNeak · Answer

E. Definitely

flirtatiousgirl · Answer

Voted a

hornyguyyyyuy · Answer

Maybe yes. It should

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