Are relationships supposed to be easy or hard?

Question

I've always heard that relationships take work...but how much "work" is normal before it becomes too hard?

If a relationship is meant to be, shouldn't it be easy?

A bit philosophical, I know, but I'm going through a pretty tough rough patch with my boyfriend and find myself second-guessing things sometimes.

What's normal?

Hannah591 · Accepted Answer

They do take work. You always have to consider their feelings, you need to have good communication, see them regularly and you just generally over think everything to do with them when you really want the relationship to work.

I would say relationships for the most part are very easy to keep when they're going good. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 months and things have been very easy because we get along really well and we're very considerate of each other. You're probably thinking we're still in the honeymoon stage, which we kind of are but I have had to have a discussion with him already over a problem we're going through; but it was a good discussion and we got on with it really well. I would say a relationship that's meant to be is very easy, yes.

Some people go for people they're not compatible with, who treat them badly and those relationships are harder to keep due to the stress, tension and negative emotions involved.

It depends on the people too I think. If you're two friendly, considerate, positive, always happy people, you'll probably have an easier relationship as a whole.

But even the easiest relationships can go through hardships and rough patches. It's a time for you two to work as a team to get through it and come out stronger. :)

BrighteyedAsh · Accepted Answer

There's a difference between a rough patch and abuse.

It really depends on what KIND of difficulties you're having. Mild annoyances and bad moods are one thing...but major disagreements...or mistreatment...is another. Remember...however it is...for the most part...if you stay...that's how it will be for the remainder of the relationship.

How do you still feel about him? Is your life generally happier? Tell us more about this rough patch...

UberTroll · Accepted Answer

C. Even the best relationships have their ups and downs. Ideally, a relationship should be full of happy moments and have a few struggles here and there. I think as long as your happy times outweigh the struggles, you're on the right track. But if the scale starts to tip and there are more problems than happiness, it's not working.

Gawesome · Accepted Answer

There's tons of factors. There's always gonna be some rough spots in relationships. Nothing is ever perfect. Look back and think off all the good/bad times you had with him. Does the good outweigh the bad? Or do you find yourself putting so much work its exhausting? Relationships are suppose to be about balance. It can't be a 3:1 ratio or else it's unfair.

There's also chemistry, communication, and respect. As long as you still like/love each other after a rough patch, you two are still communicating and most importantly, respect each other, then it should solidify your relationship further.

patoot10 · Accepted Answer

relationships are supposed to be easy .. why be in a relationship with someone if things are hard .. I know that sometimes things might get tricky .. but it should be easy to work it out .. that's how you and your lover should be .. compatible .. but getting devastated during a relation .. I don't think its worth it .. even at the beginning if you put a lot of effort to impress someone and get him/her to like you its probably not worth it .. if that someone doesn't like you for the least reason then he/she might like you for impressing them not for you ..

Anonymous · Answer

They should be like putting together a puzzle. Difficult at the beginning, sometimes challenging, but possible. And it gets easier as it goes. If it's impossible, it's not a good relationship.

Interesting fact, but if you and your boyfriend have been dating for 10 months to a year ish, then that's when they say your subconscious is deciding whether or not you want to spend the rest of your life with that person. Most relationships go through a rough patch at that time.

Yeahhbro · Answer

If it is too easy people will get bored eventually...trust me. Or one taking advantage of the other one.

If it is too hard, then people will tend to drift away out of frustration.

In reality relationships should be fun and easy with downs, where both of them compromise and get over the difficulties, support each other and at one time tolerate and accept the other for their qualities and deffects.

1diamond · Answer

Relationships have hard times the whole way through not just at first or in the middle or whatever. However the good points/times should out way the hard times. No point if a person is constantly miserable!

ixi10 · Answer

Relations are hard work but it shouldn't be difficult

harveykinkle · Answer

Someone once said that relationships should be 80% easy and 20% hard. If you're working at it constantly that's not a good sign! Some of the time wouldn't be too much though :)

wanderer83 · Answer

I remember watching a movie with Billy Crystal who plays a comedian in the 40's and all he said to the girl was, "And a polka dotted dress"

I guess that was romantic back then cause they ended up getting married and having children.

Anonymous · Answer

I voted C,  there will eventually have discrepancies along the way. It's up to the couple to over come the obstacles.

Anonymous · Answer

Do you love him, or are you still in love with him? It's okay if you don't enjoy his company anymore and really aren't into him.

Anonymous · Answer

They are supposed to be easy. Most people cling to the idea that there should be rules to it.

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