If a friend doesn't show you undivided attention do you start to feel insecure?

[lilyanony1]

You may be really attentibe to said friend maybe even treating them close to a partner. As you check in daily, talk about any and everything, consult them on decisions.
Perhaps you spend time doing a particular activity together...
But recently they are not as attentive and responsive to your communication, since they are busy? Life has taken over and are needed elsewhere? Maybe they respond infrequently to keep the momentum/communication going but they are still needed elsewhere.
Would this affect the way you feel about spending time with them?

[HighlyVolatile]

I never minded. I'm actually more like that friend on the delivering end than receiving end. I never thought it important that we hang out routinely. Sometimes I get caught up in other things or other people and weeks or months roll by without seeing each other. Then it's like, "Long time no see!" which is something I tend to say a lot and we hang out as though we saw each other yesterday.

I'm mostly a fun-lover and like having my share of friends as well as making new ones whenever I can. So I never thought of any single friend as someone I see all the time. Of course I have their backs if they get into a bad situation.

[lilyanony1]

It's strange really this person I'm friends with us like this.
He's pretty much a baby.
He needs constant attention all the time and the less I give him. The less confident he feels about seeing me.
His excuses seem to be getting more frequently. I would say its turning into a bit of a power struggle!

[HighlyVolatile]

That sounds kind of like a huge burden to me. I'm really more into fun-loving and easy-going types of friends. Every now and then my friends will have something bad happen to them like a bad breakup or something like that and I'm there for them. But at the same time, they're easy-going types so they usually bounce back not too long after.

I'm really not built for the constantly needy types of friends or lovers. They take too much out of me not because I don't care, but because I do.

[lilyanony1]

I totally understand and agree with that.
I think it's people that don't know how to be alone...

[ohshee]

Its sounds like the classic I've experienced something & given apart of me to this person maybe on line more than real life and they have moved on with out you. For me it's just life . Life is crazy sometimes and when we meet someone and start something with them you have 3 options the way this is going to turn out they've even written a poem about it..
It's called a reason a season or a lifetime and it's very true and it's beautiful

[ohshee]

Yeah ask Google what it is a season a reason or a lifetime

[menina]

First I would assume that I did or said something wrong but then I would understand what was going on.
I wouldn't feel insecure but I would question our friendship for a while.

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

I wouldn't feel insecure. Probably a bit annoyed tho. But I'd just have to understand that that's life.

[DonkeyDan]

Not really, everyone has family lives outside of their friendships and they should always come first, luckily I don't have that distraction at the moment.

[driven159]

If you are only friends, then it doesn't matter you're not the number one person in their life and they are not in yours

[IsoUser]

Any quote " Friend " you should be able to rely on in good times and bad that is the ultimate measure of a TRUE friend.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

If a friend doesn't show me attention I just feel down and usually let them go as friends