Is it better to forget about finding love?

[Anonymous]

[Cynicaldreamer]

Absolutely!

... and by that I mean stop looking for it; let it find you. The more you "look" for love and happiness, you'll just get frustrated and upset. Just take my word on this. I used to be that person tried nearly everything to find a relationship! Nada.
And every fail attempt, friendzoning, or guy that shot me down just made me bitter and spiteful... to the point I just decided, "Screw it, I'm taking a break from trying to find someone." So after the last fiasco a few years ago? I took a hiatus. It was only supposed to be a little while, but it turned into years... oops, lol.

My point is, don't stress over it! If you find the right person, it's going to happen. But when you get to the point where it's no longer fun, stressing you out, or you're miserable? Take a break. It doesn't have to be forever, but just until you feel like you want to try looking again- or as I said, maybe the right person will find you when you stop trying so hard.

[sage2021]

Just when you don't care if you find love or not BAM! She will show up. I guess that's how the universe works. I know it sounds crazy, but give it a try. Once I decided to not date any guys for a year. I took the year off!!! I did meet someone after the year was over. I was at Applebee's having some hot chocolate with my neighbor. There he was. He came over to my table and we became a couple for s veral months. Then as life would have it he ended up moving to another state far away from me for a job he had to take. I still didn't care after he left.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Maybe?

Just live your life. Focus on building yourself up and you will find people attracted to you anyways.

I think it's unappealing when all a man focuses on is "finding love" but he doesn't even know himself. You can't love someone else if you can't even get your own life together.

[Yucy_Gluttony]

It can be better to perhaps not actively look for it but just focus on yourself and if you're achieving stuff, growing, others will notice. Self growth is very attractive

[dustybiker]

You really can’t look for it. You have to stumble across the ones that really touch you.

[DermalPunch]

No, you should actively seek it out.