How do you support a spouse with Anxiety? Especially one who’s response to being overwhelmed is to attack you?

[Charliefretz329]

Am I right in assuming that it’s the man’s responsibility to be the pillar of strength for the family no matter the situation?
I don’t feel like there is any answer to this question

[Nigjt]

Well as they Man of the house we have to be the strong one in our relationship an make the Women face what is wrong with her an not allow her to get away with that dirt they love to put out but it the same time we as Men can not let them run us over by getting a with it to long where it will make us do something that is wrong in the first place.
So yes as Men of being a good Man we must be good leader's for them Women we want in our life's at all time witch seem's impossible at time's.
God Bless

[Charliefretz329]

Thanks and God bless you too

[Nigjt]

Anytime's my friend.
U can follow me if u will Please.
God Bless

[DonkeyDan]

You might find this a useful article.
https://www.thehotline.org/resources/abuse-and-mental-illness-is-there-a-connection/

[Charliefretz329]

Thank you. I’ll read it

[Charliefretz329]

I feel like a prisoner.

[DonkeyDan]

I know you want to stay with her for the sake of your daughter, but maybe it would be better for her if you didn't stay together. How does your daughter deal with the tension in the house?

[Charliefretz329]

That’s a good point of course. I’ll never have a good answer for abused spouses. The choice is literally between “frying pan or fire”.

But the abuse is verbal and rarely physical. Oh Jesus Christ look what I’m saying… no there’s no excuse for the bullshit. But little to no recourse for a man and his family to leave the woman who holds a financial and custodial monopoly on the family in the so called “free” country of the USA.

Like I said, I’m a prisoner. I’m literally counting down the days until my youngest child moves out on her own. Then my sentence is over and I’m free.

[DonkeyDan]

Or you could go on a family hill hike and mommy could have a little accident lol, obviously that's a joke 😏

[Emiliamazing]

In any situation, we always try to at least identify stress points for each other provide hopeful/not hurtful advice to aid in solving the problem. Sometimes there isn’t a good avenue to fix the problem but it’s important to let your significant other know you want to help them.

[Charliefretz329]

Thank you

[Emiliamazing]

Of course! This is an instance where significant others really should try and act as a best friend and not an impediment

[Emiliamazing]

I do my best to try and answer more serious questions too, that do not revolve around size 🤣

[Charliefretz329]

I agree!

And lmao 😂

[Emiliamazing]

One of the moderators and I talk about the weird insecurity that people can have on the sexuality page and I’m just trying to do my part to address what seems to be some very recurring themes and concerns. Sometimes it’s pretty funny though ( like balls smacking )

[Charliefretz329]

I think that sexually insecurities stem from a troubled sexual past. Sexual topics are deeply personal topics as sexual contact somehow touches a persons soul. It’s a very vulnerable feeling to be naked isn’t it?

[Charliefretz329]

And I agree with the ball smacking being funny lol

[Charliefretz329]

Also, I’m just as weird if not weirder than most with sexual desires, so I accept others odd thing most of the time

[Emiliamazing]

I think you might be right on the troubled past part. Can’t say that I wanna be naked around other people, but I’m very comfortable in my skin here at home :-). Oddly enough I’m not at home, I’m traveling back home today and I’m very much looking forward to being back with my husband and kids

[Charliefretz329]

That’s says a lot about your relationship when you’re comfortable naked around someone.

You’re lucky! I’m on the road for a month. I’m jealous

[Emiliamazing]

Holy cow! Travel safe. I’m usually gone about one to two weeks every month, I manage a division of the company I work for in a neighboring state. I’ve been gone all week and I’m looking forward to being home. I can’t imagine not being comfortable in my skin around him.

[Charliefretz329]

I travel randomly and I’m glad it’s not too regular!!! I’d rather be home with my kiddos

[Charliefretz329]

You travel safe too! And enjoy smacking your husbands balls when you get home! 😏

[Emiliamazing]

I’ll try not to chuckle if they are hanging low and smacking my front private parts!

[Charliefretz329]

Lol 🔥 🥵 I doubt he’d mind you giggling 🤭

[dustybiker]

It would be like living on eggshells. The attack is a self-defense. No easy thing to live with though. You do what you can without pushing them. It’s a choice to stay or not for your own well being.

[Charliefretz329]

Its the truth. The wisest old men i know tell me to not let it bither me too much and just libe my own life regardless.

[dustybiker]

Very smart advice

[dustybiker]

Oop. Thanks for mhg

[DaveToo]

We all react to adversity in our own manner. I wondered how my mother weathered the storm of losing her husband, (my dad), but I was thrust into the same kind of circumstance when I lost my wife. Those who have to will cope.

[nice-girl]

What makes her anxious? What does she want you to do?

[Charliefretz329]

No idea. I’m completely lost