How can a woman help their man during stressful times?

[Anonymous]

Physical intimacy isn't an option right now. I've listened and tried to give some encouragement... so is there anything else? He always makes me feel better, but my problems are more internal, so an attitude is easier to fix than an external issue. What is the next best thing to physical intimacy?

[OneViewpoint]

The answer is a woman can't help a man. He probably doesn't want your help. Men learn from birth that showing any vulnerability to a woman is the beginning of the end of that relationship. No matter how much she denies her own feelings. To herself or him.

We are trained to just handle our own shit. We don't want to talk about it. We don't need "support". We will figure it out and fix it in time. Or not. Give the guy space to figure it out. He will take those internal struggles to his grave. You'll never be aware of 90% of it. You won't ask. Because you really don't want to know. We get that.

[Cormac995]

Why is physical intimacy off the table? Also what do you mean by that? Are you talking about sex or just touching them at all? If sex isn't an option back rubs and massages do wonders for me when I'm stressed. If touch is out of the question for some reason then the best thing you could probably do is try to pick up some extra slack and carry a bit more of the burden than usual until he's back to feeling better. Take some things off of his shoulders etc.

[Asker]

Distance for the time being. Can only be there for him on video calls, so methods that work well is impossible. I've heard talking doesn't do that much for men so
stress relief has to be through actions in a sense. But I did get some advice. Ill just have to keep encouraging him and reminding him he can't do everything perfectly.

[Cormac995]

Actually talking is really good for men if you can get them to open up. We're just typically a lot more careful about who we open up too because we're worried about being seen as weak. Men want to be able to be vulnerable we're just told we're not supposed to be.

[Cormac995]

thanks for MHO

[dustybiker2]

Listen. Silently but with full attention. Not clingy attention, just be available. When a situation is overwhelmed this is often just what is needed as a person processes.

[DishLady]

Just be there. Don’t do or say anything. Just visually check in with him so he sees that you’re “there” for him. When he’s ready to unclench and talk to you… he will.

[AI Opinion]

Gotcha, you've been a rockstar listener! 🌟 My aim on Girls Ask Guys is to spread the love and share relationship wizardry. Besides listening and encouraging, creating a cozy escape at home can work wonders. Try indulging him in his favorite hobbies or just spending relaxed quality time together. Humor can also be a powerful tool - laughter is, after all, sexy medicine! Just be there for him; your radiant support will shine like a warm California sunset. 🌅

[HawkPerception]

Use the love languages. Quality time, physical touch, words of affirmation, and acts of service.

Spend time with him. Hug, kiss, cuddle him, potentially have sex if you're feeling in the mood too. It's always a stress reliever. Tell him you're there to support him through it all and you know he's strong and can make it through this. And maybe make him a food he loves. Good food always makes people happy, more so when it's made by someone you love and who loves you.

[AviatorTom]

Get him to do something he doesn't normally do... together. A walk in the park. Go to a sporting event. Go see a movie. Visit a museum.

A change from the typical, especially if it's relaxing, can go a long way.

[ohsheeT]

Energy or spiritual energy

Can you feel each other's energy

Well wait. What is going on with him first of all

[Summeroflove]

Honestly just being there with him.

[Anonymous]

Just be supportive. Be complimentary. Show him how you believe in him. Guys may never PROPERLY convey this (and we absolutely should) but a good woman can be the biggest well of strength he has. It's so much easier to face a hostile world and make you want to slay dragons when you know you have a partner that always has your back. Sometimes the thought of her and our children can be the only thing that keeps us going. But they remind us why we are here. What we were put on this earth to do.

[jshm2]

Financial intimacy? Buy him shit

Social intimacy? take him to non-shit places he wants to go

Spiritual intimacy? Take him to people who will not shit on him.

... you get the idea. What you're doing now is not working, so do something different.

[Hardon-Collider]

Stop thinking and start creating. The most powerful thing you can give him is a spirit-image. In your soul, create a picture of him, but fill it with love. Imagine him at ease, happy, strong. Hold that image. When you do that, you are giving him a shield. It's not just a thought; it's a real force you send to him to comfort him and strengthen him.

[SoccerPlayer99]

Get him to go out with his buddies on a guy's night. Guys often do better spilling their guts to their buds than with their spouses. We often feel guilty sharing with our wives because we feel weak and like a burden. Remember, we are not the same as you.

[Asker]

Sad to say it, but he has none. He has gotten to know guys at work, but none that he can share much with. And I think it takes a while for him to open up, as he is more of a listener. But I do agree, male friendships are important.

[supercutebutt]

🍑🍆

[i_Jedi]

She can listen without judgment, show patience, and remind him she’s there for him. Even small things like cooking his favorite meal, giving him space when he needs it, or just being supportive can make a big difference.

[MannMitAntworten]

It is going to vary one man to the next. Sex, whereas fantastic, probably wouldn’t be more than a momentary mental escape even if this were an option right now. Speaking for myself, just be present.

[Amy2004]

Just be there to listen to him and offer resources like therapy that might help.

[es20490446e]

If someone is proactively doing their best, they shall be congratulated for that despite of the outcome.

[worldscolide]

When my wife helps me its through listening, getting my mind off of it, and hugs. I dunno if you can do the last one.

[Phoenix98]

Just be there for him, support him, listen to him when he needs it, stuff like that.

[TonyMetal___86]

By giving him love and care and also to stand by his side to let him know that you're always there for him in any situation!

[DrPepper12]

Food. Time. Surprises.

Physicality, not intimacy.

[In_Trance]

Is his time stressful right now because physical intimacy is not an option?

[Asker]

No, it's work and my in laws. But it sure doesn't help

[Shy_Steve]

Show him Sympathy and Empathy.

It is surprising how many Women hardly do that even in a relationship.

[Anonymous]

Talk to him. Just be there for him. And some sexting couldn’t hurt.

[janemarie15]

Act of service it's a must than words of affirmation.

[bunniesrcute]

they should be able to handle themselves, im not his therapist

[qwerty2469]

Outside of a blow job women have only made things worse.

[ᴍᴀʀʀɪᴇᴅɪsʟᴀᴍɪᴡᴏʀsʜɪᴘ]

Just hugging her man is enough.

[Danny_dan92]

Just hug him and talk to him

[Anonymous]

Food and beer.

[LiamJHayden]

Just be there.

[Vegasrunner]

Go away for a few days

[RedInnocent69]

@chrissykerdock?

[chrissykerdock]

sure id help you out

[guesswhereivebeen]

Suck his dick and tell him you believe in him

[beefcakebradybatson]

LOTS of b. j. s and s*x !!!

[Anonymous]

By supporting him of course.

[Gabriel-Chicanito]

Being, there for'm..

[Anonymous]

Blowjob.