Most of my friends, female or male are over 35 and only half of them are married. Just look for a good guy and don't worry about finding Mr. Perfect. You chose wisely by not having a kid with a guy who wasn't a good person. Being a single mom is tough. If you have family you can live with and trust with your kids, it makes life a lot easier if you choose to go that route. Relax on the baby fever. Not being married and not having a kid doesn't make you a failure.
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Ironically being single without a kid is more desirable than the opposite. Don't think about getting pregnant. Focus more on how good he is to you, because you only want a kid with a man who is good to you
Also you're still young I notice more people at work having kids closer to 40 so just don't worry about it and just do things that make you happy. Try helping out family or friend if they have a kid to make sure you want a kid experience too
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Why not have a goal of being happy with someone more so than getting knocked up? Like I have a wife and 4 kids right now, but our relationship started to just have fun and help each other out in college.
Maybe open your standards and expectations some too, if you're single right now and consider poly relationships you'd be a unicorn and hugely desirable. If that's your fear, being undesirable, and having kids within two years, sometimes being stuck in a single paradigm with an inflexible goal can hurt you more whether you achieve it or not.
What if you are highly desired and knocked up tomorrow to find out it's puppy love? Personally I think that would hurt more than taking some time and a visit to a fertility clinic, but that's just me.If being a modern woman in Western society is hard for you, you wouldn't last 24 hours as a guy.
Also, almost all women are 100% single by choice. Your standards are likely insanely high and you refuse to lower them for a guy who might only be a "6.5 out of 10" instead if the perfect ten 95% of women all pine for.
Literally, if you were a straight man and saying all these things, women would be calling you an "incel" and blaming this on your "sh*tty attitude" and rubbing spit in the wound because you had the misfortune of not growing to six+ feet tall or looking like one of the Hemsworth brothers. Not to imply I agree with them, cause I don't. I'm just saying you have NO IDEA how much worse men have it. Women are entirely single by choice.same fir guys because im gonna die alone and i always get called creepy based on my looks,
at least girls are attractive to the opposite sex and u can probably get on a live strip website and recieive loads of compliments and donations, guys can't do that... dont take ur gender for granted, u probably jus never leave the house which is why guys dont seem to notice or be attracted to you., if u go outside trust me there's gonna be loads of guys thinking ur hot, even if they dont tell u, they think it in their head cos 99.9 percent of girls areYou are still young and there is a lot to live for. Trying to be in a random relationship that is not reliable to make yourself feel satisfied is the biggest mistake and the easiest way to hit the ground. life is a book already written. We know nothing of the moments which is coming in our path. Let’s live in the present moment. Never force anything. Just give it your best shot and let it be. If it’s meant to be, it will be. You'll have your own family, just be patient and stay stable.
My girlfriend was 32 when we started dating. She was childless and, obviously, unmarried. Luckily she doesn't want kids, which is great because I don't either. It's not that hard to explain to guys, just say that you haven't found the right one yet. That's all the explanation any guy needs.
As for your frown turn it upside down, you are still young & when it comes to being single you are not alone & there is nothing wrong with being single as well.
I have two friends that had their children when they were, 38 and 40. You still have time.
Try being an average man, it's like that for most of us. But you can have kids up to 35 not 30, and it's not like you have to have them, you could always adopt too if you really want kids that badly and are past 35, just relax and put yourself out there in public places
Well it's only depressing if you don't have some sort of fun with your life.
Yikes, you need a change in your mindset badly. The fact you stated isn't the problem but its your attitude about it.
I kinda feel what you mean. Dm me
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