Can you get a guys interest even if he’s already in a relationship?

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I know this guy from work who I would like to have coffee with maybe in the future when I finish this internship. However he mentioned to someone at work that he already has a girlfriend - so that was already pretty discouraging. Sometimes we will have brief chats but I know it’s not possible to go any further at the moment. But I was wondering could a guy still be attracted or interested in you even if he’s already taken? That could mean something might come out of it later? Lol I never thought about this before but it’s tempting provided how easily relationships end these days. Any advice?

ohshee · Accepted Answer

Stop come on why would you even want s guy that is In a relationship
So this is what I see happening you go in you try to get this guy you guys a bunch of chaos between him and his wife he ends up staying with her then all the sudden you find the true love of your life then all of a sudden there's a girl just like you who ask the same question because she was your man so she gets all the answers she needs she pursues this man but he ended up leaving with her and where are you if you wouldn't have started with the first guy you wouldn't have ended out with nobody 500 billion guys out there that are completely single and you want one guy because why because you want to cause chaos I'm sorry I just don't see any t h i n g good coming from this and why would you look if you looking for somebody a nice guy I'm a nice guy I'm single you don't need any instructions to pick up on me all you have to do is have a beautiful heart you have to be happy you got to be smart you have to be a good lover you can't talk about other people and their crap and you have to be able to smile everyday

mobiusforniner · Accepted Answer

Yes, I'm married and a female coworker did this to me. She did it by cleverly observing what was lacking in my life and in my marriage and acting upon it. She also played on my "hero" instinct, by asking me for help. First, with little professional job related things. And as we became friends, it was with very emotional and personal things. Long story short, her methods were effective. I fell in love with her. But ultimately I knew it was a problem and I ended the affair.

That brings along an entirely different problem. Workplace relationships are great- when they WORK. But when they fall apart, it significantly damages your professional image and makes working together IMPOSSIBLE. She quit her job as a result.

I've not understood the evolutionary advantage in wanting another woman's man. The statistics are against you and he'll stick with his girlfriend or wife, leaving you heart broken. And I hope you at least have the foresight to know what the aftermath would be.

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

You're young. Why are you wasting your energy on a guy who's taken when there are so many who aren't? OK, he's a catch, but he's already caught. And this "maybe he'll break up in the future," thought is, again, such an incredible "maybe," it's like playing the lottery.

Get your mind off a fail and look at others in your neighborhood, at work, at the health club, the grocery, the park throwing frisbee, biking by. Invest your time where it'll garner you immediate possibilities.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Ig it can be possible, but the question is... Put yourself in his girlfriend's place. Would you like another girl hitting on your boyfriend? Ig not, right? That'd be an absolutely disregarding thing to do so, it's a lack of ethics and integrity. Don't be a homewrecker for Christ's sake. Everything that we sow we'll reap after. Be it tragic or jubilant. That's more one reason why we need to think twice about our actions before anything.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

If he would end a relationship that quickly to be with you, then when the next pretty girl comes along, he will just as easily leave you to be with her. . . right?

Anonymous · Answer

Don't put that "hope" in your head or think about the "what if's". When I hear someone isn't single, that's it, it's done. That's my advice, do the same. To me it's more about respect for the other relationship. Could they break up down the road? Sure, but you're going to wait for that in hopes of it happening? If a guy did this, you'd probably think he was "desperate" right? I don't think that and don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that about you, but I'm sure that's what many women would think. I'd just keep reminding yourself he's not available, and that's it. There's no "buts", "what if's", that's it, end of story.

sage2021 · Answer

You need to back off from this guy now. Forget your scheming plans that he will just fall into your arms If they should break up. And don't do things to cause them to break up either. He is taken!
He is physically and emotionally exhausted unavailable to you. Leave them alone and get your own guy. I don't think it's right if you are the cause if they break up and end up hurting his girlfriend because of you.
Leave them alone.

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

Why do you want to homewreck?

Also, do you realize you can have a platonic and respectful friendship, right? You don't have to make it a romantic thing. In fact, you shouldn't because he already has a partner - and ignoring that fact makes you disrespectful of this coworker of yours and puts you squarely in the wrong.

Again, why are you wanting to ruin his happiness? Why can't you just be friends?

idonotexist · Answer

😐😐😐 it was discouraging because he isn't available. You could wait until he is. You might be waiting forever so I'd say move on. Though if he even left his current girlfriend for you, wouldn't you be worried he would leave you for whoever asks him out in the future? That'd be a red flag.

Anonymous · Answer

So basically Your dream is to be a selfish homerecking slut with no morals... yea got it! Well he will leave his girlfriend for you and then when he's done with u, he will Find a respectful and classy woman to marry n bare his children, leaving you in the dumpster where you belong! Soo I say heck yea go for it ! 😊

serious · Answer

Unfortunately yes it is possible. However, depending on the guy and how ethical or moral he is as a person it can be very tough or in some impossible also.

However, in general yes it is possible to get a guy's interest even if he is in a relationship

Anonymous · Answer

Why you want be a whore and do that? Respect him if he has a girlfriend. I always see stupid women try flirt with my boyfriend in front of me. Stupid bitch will get a bloody face if they continue do that. Like are women mentally retarded? If a guy has a girlfriend BACK OFF STUPID WHORE! If you want a boyfriend find a SINGLE GUY unless you are mentally I’ll and don’t understand this. PERIOD.

Crankor · Answer

It's a uncontrollable thing that the more time you spend with someone the more feelings will grow for that person. Anyone CAN shift their interest but it's a matter of if they need or want to. If he is happy in his relationship then no he won't see it more as just a hang out.

amirhadadi · Answer

There are some people have no shame to make a relationship with who he/she has a partner. Maybe there are some reasons for some kind of people willing for that.
I believe some people just justifiy themselves. some people are very lustful and lust disables their brains.
And there are some people who enjoy having a relationship with married
and engage people, as well as destroying the lives of others.

KrisPW · Answer

Possibly, but I wouldn't want to do it on purpose. Any guy you can pull that way can be pulled from you as well.

UniquelyBasic · Answer

Yeah of course he can still be attracted to someone else while in a relationship. Dont wait around for something that may or may not happen.

TheLoneTerran · Answer

I dunno why you'd want to break up a seemingly happy relationship.

EmyyWolf · Answer

Yes you should. You know why? Because 99.9999% of relationships are due to fail and terminate at some point. The HodgeTwins said it.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah he can find you attractive. by the way you sound like a guy right now. I'm not saying you're a guy but this is literally how sound many guys think.

WhitneySnow · Answer

It can happen. Are there any signs he likes you that way?

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

It doesn't usually play out so well when you do that.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

My advice is have some common sense. Any guy who leaves his girlfriend for you, will just leave you for another girl.

Stevefiveo · Answer

Yeah, he can be tempted. It can't hurt to ask him for coffee. And if things don't work out with the current girlfriend, well then you're the first in line. All's fair in love and war. Good luck.

Vendela · Answer

Out of all the fish in the sea, you want the taken one? Mhm real classy. 🤢

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