You are both adults and although she's conserative I think she would still be understanding.
You said you would be ready to marry her which is a huge step and you should not even be thinking about that really because you two never actually dated so you don't know what she's like as a girlfriend.
Considering you're going to be thinking about this anyway I think it would be wise to be honest with her about your feelings with her.
Do NOT shock her with the ' I love you and I want to marry you ! ' stuff... that will for sure freak her out, independant of her being conservative or not.. ask her if she would consider being more than cousins with you, perhaps you could start seeing each other as more than that. She could answer ' no, we absolutely cannot because it is against my morals' - at that point you would say: ' I understand ' and you give her space and respect.
If she agrees to seeing you as more than a cousin then you could proceed with bettering your relationship as such but do NOT break down in front of her if she decides to remain ' just cousinly ' with you because that is when things get creepy.
And of course I advise you to stay away from her if she says she doesn't want to be in a relationship of some sort with you at least for a while in order for you to forget about her and stop seeing her that way.
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You say she's conservative, thinks that it's taboo to be with your cousin, and doesn't show any signs of her feeling the same way, like kissing you? I'd advise you not to say anything. It's more than just a random girl, it's your cousin - if she doesn't feel the same way, and from what you described she doesn't, it might get out to your family, and that might be a hard thing to get over - you or her.
My advice is to try to find a girlfriend who isn't a member of your family. If you really must tell her, try testing the water first, like asking what she thinks of places that make it illegal for cousins to marry, or did she know Charles Darwin married his cousin. See how she reacts. If it's negative, leave it alone. If it's positive, you might think about showing her your feelings. But I don't know if it's the best idea.
Don't do it.
As a general rule, if you were to make a baby with someone and it is going to look like Quasimodo; it is a bad relationship in some way.
Man, I can only speculate how much trouble such a relationship would bring. If you say she's conservative, even more so.
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i mean if you really feel for her I say go for it. But dude, could you imagine the consequences of such a relationship? I think in some places its illegal to marry your cousin
She's your cousin, I wouldn't pursue it and I wouldn't say anything. Its far more than just taboo.
You’ve gotta face this and just talk w her.
Say something like, “Hey, it so nice that we’re close again, and I want to ask you how you feel about it.”
And then hear what she says, and judge her interest in you and take it from there.Is she really pretty
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