Boyfriend doesn’t wanna go to the gym or to church anymore with me?

[Anonymous]

Hey so just for context we’ve been together close to 5years now, he wants to start working out which I totally support! But I wanted to start working out as well I struggle to self motivate but I have a fear of the gym and going alone last time I went was 7years ago and was horrified of all the old creeps starting at me when I was a child!! So i asked if we could go together you know start improving ourselves as a team obvious i wouldn’t Hoover and I’d just do my thing while he does his and that way if anyone starts to get creepy I can run to my boyfriend but he said no way. Why? I thought couples worked out together grew together he also doesn’t wanna take me with him to church anymore with him. We went every Sunday for 3 weeks then he stopped he told me he hadn’t been going and then turns out he has been going just sometimes and he told me. I asked him why he doesn’t wanna take me with anymore as I enjoyed it and he said I didn’t seem interested. Every Sunday since I’ve been getting up early getting ready and asking him if we can go to church today he just doesn’t say anything. I feel like it’s messed up he doesn’t wanna bring me to church I thought he’d be eggar to help me learn more and be surrounded by like minded people. What the heck is going on?

[Marushka]

He might just want some time for himself alone. Some people are like that but he should communicate that

There could be something bothering him and he's trying to withdraw. Maybe he's ashamed of talking about it or doesn't feel comfortable showing "weakness"

There's also the possibility he's loosing interested in the relationship and trying to distance himself because of that. And of course there's always the possibility he might have someone on the side he sees

For a start try asking him about something to do together. Maybe there's something else you could both enjoy. If that's not the case you could first try to find out if there's something bothering him he didn't tell you about

[Waldoe]

he will leave you as soon as he finds someone new... sorry he is just stringing you along while he looks for the Next one