My boyfriend doesn’t want me going to the gym?

[Anonymous]

a few weeks ago I Told my boyfriend I’m about to go to the gym and get a trainer I gained 15 pounds last year and wanted to lose the weight before the summer time he told me he didn’t want to go because all guys ever do is go to the gym and try to find someone to sleep with especially trainers but yesterday he told me he was about to start going to the gym with his brother and told me he would help me at home to lose the 15 pounds I want to lose is that weird? Guys try to talk to me when I go outside anyway so what’s the difference

[Fireguy17]

Nope, not good behavior at all.
So ask your this, it is ok for him to go to the gym, where by his own admission guys there exhibit certain kinds of behavior patters towards females, yet you can't go because guys there exhibit certain behavior patters towards women.
Is there anything at all in his logic that stands out as being majorly flawed?
If you were going to cheat on him, not saying you would, I'm sure you wouldn't have any problem at all finding someone anywhere.
He sounds kind of controlling to me.
Myself I would not put up with that kind of attitude or behavior at all.
My advice to you is get out and find someone that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
It may only get worse.
My wife wanted to go to the gym, so I handed here my credit card and told her make sure you put it under my name, we get a fire department discount.

[Lliam]

He doesn't trust you. Trust is a cornerstone of love.
You can't keep someone by keeping them on a leash.

He may also be projecting. Maybe he hits on girls at the gym and assumes that you would take any opportunity to be unfaithful.

The last thing you want to do is let someone control you. You're not his property. Go to the gym and get a trainer. It he doesn't like it, too bad.

[Yucy_Gluttony]

A compliment because he basically saying that all the guys will lust for you, you are irresistable.
A sign of jealousy/insecurity. All you have to say to a guy's advances is 'no'. He doesn't realize that, it seems.

[PrettyPriya]

Yes, this is weird and very controlling. He has clear trust issues as well. You need to sort this out with him or things will only get worse.

Very immature to control another person from going to the gym.

[spartan55]

What is he, your Dad? Just laugh at him and do what you want. Sounds like he is projecting about guys hitting on women at the gym... probably what he does. The ones talking about and accusing you of cheating are usually cheaters themselves. Does he not trust you? Think you have the ability to say NO?
Tell your boyfriend to kick rocks.

[DavidRaul]

he's just being really conservative. Why wouldn't he allow you to go along with him to the gym? He wants to control you. Do whatever you want to do. Go to the gym , hire a trainer, and loose that extra fat.

[Luggit]

That sounds like he has control issues to me. You go to the gym. You're a very capable of handling own yourself as anywhere else you go. He's your boyfriend, not your parent.

[TommyMountainFigure]

That is a bit hypocritical is it not? Thinking you would go to the gym just to pick up guys, but not having a problem going there himself.
That is the perfect scenario of a guy who lacks trust. but enjoys power over his girlfriend.

[boggboss]

Meh another insecure guy that clearly don't trust u not to cheat if u went

[BarryLiverstone]

It’s weird. You should still get a trainer and let him know it’s what you want. How did you feel when he said no?

[Anonymous]

The trainers are known for that so he is right, and proper diet is best way to lose weight, exercise just burns calories and then you’ll eat more for energy

[exitseven]

If it is a male trainer I would be suspicious too.

[spartan55]

So I guess he thinks she is unable to say 'no' to some guy hitting on her?

[exitseven]

@spartan55 Maybe the trainer is really hot.

[spartan55]

@exitseven
Yeah... so what?

[exitseven]

@spartan55 I guess maybe I watch too much television.

[spartan55]

@exitseven
Look man, trainers are notorious for being major players, no debate there. But if I don't trust my girlfriend to stiff arm any dude trying to get with her? Then I wouldn't be with her.

[driven159]

he is insecure and immature

[Stevefiveo]

He is trying to control you. Run away.

[joeldalton]

He's being a bit too controlling. Go to the gym

[Luckycharms12]

Insacure he lose you to guy at the gym