You wanna lose 75% of that weight in a short time but don't wanna do the work by going regularly. Ya, I'd be mad too. Way to be committed laaaaaazy. He's probably noticed the weight but didn't wanna say anything but now that you wanna lose it, he wants you to lose it because he's secretly losing his attraction for you.
You don't have to go to the gym to lose the weight. You can go on a VERY strict diet of 1500 calories or less and you will lose weight. I'm 5'6" 165 lbs and I'm on a strict 1800 calories or less keto diet and there is no signs of losing muscle.. just the fat around my waist. The only exercise I do is push ups
He's trying to be supportive.
He probably knows people usually need motivation to go to the gym.
And well if you really don't want to go to the gym with him then just tell him that but kindly.
Like "sweetie I really really don't want to go today. I just feel bad. Don't try to make me go.
Tell him just what you told us. Let him know that you appreciate his support and encouragement, but feeling pressured is stressful and ruins the experience for you. He's your boyfriend, not your personal trainer- it's not his job to nag you about it.
Girl I wish had someone in my life like your boyfriend to push me to reach my goals. I don't think he'll be mad at you but you did bring it up and giving up is just not okay it'll sound like you weren't commited
I mean, I don't think it's whiny to expressing yourself unless you're actually... whining. Just let him know that you want him to motivate you and not pressure you, that's all.
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tell him that you appreciate the encouragement but that you want to take this challenge on, on your own. and basically explain what you said here, that you are worried he's mad if and when you don't go to the gym when he suggests
Tell him you appreciate the encouragement and you know he's trying to be supportive but you'd like to take the initiative on your own.
I'm sure he won't be mad if you don't go, he's just probably trying to be supportive and doesn't realize it's annoying
He is ashamed of you but he is too modest to tell you that... He loves you so he isn't gonna give up... That's why he is trying to get you in shape... If you don't shape up he will probably leave you sooner or later
He probably only wants to help you & doesn't realize how he's coming off. Just talk to him & keep in mind that he's probably just trying to help you become a better you
Tell him that you appreciate the support but you need to do it on your own. And if and when you need help he will be your first call.
Just tell him that you know that he means well by trying to get you to workout but it feels more like pressure than support and he'll back up a bit.
There's nothing whiny about simply telling him that you'll think about it but would appreciate if he didn't make you feel pressured into it.
Next time he asks reply "do you really think I'm that fat". Then refuse sex for a couple of days and he should learn his lesson
That's 9 bloody killograms lol Honestly I'd break up with you if you let go yourself that much.
Being in shape is about discipline. If you're not happy about your weight, yet you don't do anything about it... it's going to come off as whiny no matter what
If you don't go, he might stop being attracted to you.
You are the one who brought it up, he might just be trying to support you by making you accountable.
he cares about you and your health
May be how you look in gym wear gets him going
he'll leave you soon
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