We dated for about a month+ (2+ months now) before he asked for space.
I met him through a matrimony app. He was totally into me & from the 1st date acted & stated he wants to be in a relationship (boyfriend & girlfriend - not just dating). It was going well for a month. After that we didn't see each other for 3 weeks. his job is hectic & he can be called to do OT so he usually only gets a day off sometimes. Top of that it's the evening shift. I have worked an evening shift for My job so I know how hard & depressing it could be.
So basically 3 weeks ago, he asked for space because he been feeling low & pessimistic, a lot to do with work. Before he asked me for space, for 2 weeks, when he did call me it usually ended in him being a bit upset. The time he did come to see after 3 weeks, he tired to cancel by switching to another day (which I knew he wouldn't get off & he didn't) I got upset & told him not to come if he didn't want to. But he said he wanted to & did but he sat there uninterested & he apologized and blamed it on allergy meds.
Anyways, when we discussed the space, he got upset saying he will still be my boyfriend & he wouldn’t be talking to anyone but he needs space he doesn't know for how long. But he said we could still text to ask each other how are you, which he didn't. I initiated all. I gave him the space but checked in 5 days after. The next day talking to a friend, I realized my mistake & sent him a text telling him after the space if he would like to start over. If not, then I'll move on. He said he would talk to me soon. I wasn't going to talk to him after that but 3 days later, I won these tickets to a show & asked him if he would like to join me. He had OT & couldn't make it.
Since then I haven't text him how the show went & neither did he ask. I waiting till next week Sunday to tell him, if he doesn't call or text about starting over, then basically his silence says it all & I'll leave him alone. Is it better I just leave it & not text him?
I met him through a matrimony app. He was totally into me & from the 1st date acted & stated he wants to be in a relationship (boyfriend & girlfriend - not just dating). It was going well for a month. After that we didn't see each other for 3 weeks. his job is hectic & he can be called to do OT so he usually only gets a day off sometimes. Top of that it's the evening shift. I have worked an evening shift for My job so I know how hard & depressing it could be.
So basically 3 weeks ago, he asked for space because he been feeling low & pessimistic, a lot to do with work. Before he asked me for space, for 2 weeks, when he did call me it usually ended in him being a bit upset. The time he did come to see after 3 weeks, he tired to cancel by switching to another day (which I knew he wouldn't get off & he didn't) I got upset & told him not to come if he didn't want to. But he said he wanted to & did but he sat there uninterested & he apologized and blamed it on allergy meds.
Anyways, when we discussed the space, he got upset saying he will still be my boyfriend & he wouldn’t be talking to anyone but he needs space he doesn't know for how long. But he said we could still text to ask each other how are you, which he didn't. I initiated all. I gave him the space but checked in 5 days after. The next day talking to a friend, I realized my mistake & sent him a text telling him after the space if he would like to start over. If not, then I'll move on. He said he would talk to me soon. I wasn't going to talk to him after that but 3 days later, I won these tickets to a show & asked him if he would like to join me. He had OT & couldn't make it.
Since then I haven't text him how the show went & neither did he ask. I waiting till next week Sunday to tell him, if he doesn't call or text about starting over, then basically his silence says it all & I'll leave him alone. Is it better I just leave it & not text him?
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1 y
My friend recommends that to not text him at all which will force him to at least wonder & maybe he will contact me & I would get closure if does end.
To be honest, to me he feels to be a genuine guy that is currently struggling in life and just isn't able to juggle a lot of things. Am I forcing myself to be blinded to everything.
FYI, he is an aquarius - apparently that explained a lot to my friend when I spoke to her about him.
To be honest, to me he feels to be a genuine guy that is currently struggling in life and just isn't able to juggle a lot of things. Am I forcing myself to be blinded to everything.
FYI, he is an aquarius - apparently that explained a lot to my friend when I spoke to her about him.
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1 y
The last time I texted him was 4 days ago.
