We dated for about a month+ (2+ months now) before he asked for space.
I met him through a matrimony app. He was totally into me and from the first date acted and stated he wants to be in a relationship (boyfriend & girlfriend - not just dating). I liked him to and I am not the type to talk multiple people at once unless it's just an introduction. If I feel it might go somewhere I stop interacting with others. It was going well until after a month. He stopped coming to see me. The first two times I told him not to come because he only had one day off in that week. The third he said he didn't want to waste the time. He lives about an hour drive away (he would waste three hours - same reason I gave him the week prior because I wanted him to stay home and study so he can get a better position at work) and his job is hectic and he can be called to do OT so he usually only gets a day off sometimes. Top of that it's the evening shift. I have worked an evening shift for. My job so I know how hard and depressing it could be.
So basically three weeks ago, he asked for space because he been feeling low and pessimistic. He wanted to get the day shift but people at work are playing favorites and one of his coworkers was moved to the day and he just sad about it. Before he asked me for space, when he did call me it usually ended in him being a bit upset (maybe I was the reason). The one time he did come to see me he tired to cancel by switching to another day he said he knew he would get off (which I knew he wouldn't because that his busiest days and he didn't get that day off). He did come the day we initially planned because I got upset and told him not to come if he didn't want to. But he said he wanted to and did but he sat there uninterested and he said he was sorry he had taken allergies medication.
I met him through a matrimony app. He was totally into me and from the first date acted and stated he wants to be in a relationship (boyfriend & girlfriend - not just dating). I liked him to and I am not the type to talk multiple people at once unless it's just an introduction. If I feel it might go somewhere I stop interacting with others. It was going well until after a month. He stopped coming to see me. The first two times I told him not to come because he only had one day off in that week. The third he said he didn't want to waste the time. He lives about an hour drive away (he would waste three hours - same reason I gave him the week prior because I wanted him to stay home and study so he can get a better position at work) and his job is hectic and he can be called to do OT so he usually only gets a day off sometimes. Top of that it's the evening shift. I have worked an evening shift for. My job so I know how hard and depressing it could be.
So basically three weeks ago, he asked for space because he been feeling low and pessimistic. He wanted to get the day shift but people at work are playing favorites and one of his coworkers was moved to the day and he just sad about it. Before he asked me for space, when he did call me it usually ended in him being a bit upset (maybe I was the reason). The one time he did come to see me he tired to cancel by switching to another day he said he knew he would get off (which I knew he wouldn't because that his busiest days and he didn't get that day off). He did come the day we initially planned because I got upset and told him not to come if he didn't want to. But he said he wanted to and did but he sat there uninterested and he said he was sorry he had taken allergies medication.
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Anyways, when we discussed the space, he got upset saying he is still my boyfriend and he wouldn’t be talking to anyone but he needs space he doesn't know for how long. But he said we could still text to ask each other how are you (which he never did call or text.. all text started by me) So I gave him the space but checked in 5 days after to see how he was doing. The next while talking to a friend, I realized my mistake that I made that might have pushed him away and sent him a text telling him
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if he wants I would like to start over with a second chance after he done taking his space. If not, then I'll move on. He said he would talk to me soon. I wasn't going to talk to him after that but then three days later, I won these tickets to a show and asked him if he would like to join me. He had OT and couldn't make it.
Since then I haven't text him or told him how the show went and neither did he ask. I was thinking of waiting till next week Sunday to tell him if he doesn't call or text
Since then I haven't text him or told him how the show went and neither did he ask. I was thinking of waiting till next week Sunday to tell him if he doesn't call or text
