How do I get over a breakup that was caused by my own stupidity and move on?

[Anonymous]

We had an argument over the phone last month. I was drunk, stupid and said some things I really regret. The next day, I felt like a complete idiot and I apologised to her but she asked me for time and I was giving it to her but after 2 weeks of no contact, she blocked me on Snapchat without saying anything. I’ve spoken to her friend who said that when she spoke to her about the situation she apparently said “she was going to get back in touch with me” but then blocked me, only a few weeks later. I know I messed up, I have spent the last month feeling awful about what I did and I’ve been trying to make things right with her by apologising, giving her space and waiting to see if she will give me a proper chance to talk with her over the phone or in person to properly apologise and explain myself. Whether I deserve another chance or not is completely up to her and I respect the decision she’s made. I’m just struggling to move on and stop thinking about her and how much I regret making the dumbest mistake of my life because I didn’t get to apologise properly or get any real closure with her. Which has been killing me everyday for the last month. I would appreciate some advice on how to move on and go forward with my life because I doubt she’s ever going to get in contact with me again as much as that hurts to think about.

[Summeroflove]

It takes time. It’s grief let yourself grieve. You learned from something. Not everyone is meant to be and what’s meant to be will be. If you feel bad then you can reach out and apologize. But dont apologize to someone with the only intention of getting back together or getting something out of her. That’s not a legitimately a apology.

If you have talked to her and she isn’t interested in engaging anymore. Just leave her alone. Point blank. You done goofed…. Most people break up at some point or another.

Be honest. Do you feel deep down she’s the one? I ASSUME probably not

[bededazzle]

i feel for you. one slip up and everything can crumble. i have hurt people i love before too. it is very painful. exactly how deeply do you think you hurt her with what you said? some of what you said, while drunken and regretted, did it come from your true feelings?

how do you handle it? well, my friend, to a degree the only way out is through. it’sa good time to take care of yourself: eat well, rest, and try to do a good job at work etc. Realize that you are going to have to forgive yourself. The guilt is only useful is teaching you. When you learn, it is useless. Also, you’re young. That’s the time we make mistakes, and the most painful lessons are the most useful. If it makes you feel better, I’m a lot older than you are and I scare things up with women all the time. You don’t have to just say mean things to get a woman to not talk to you anymore! Anyhow, I feel for you brother. Learn, forgive yourself, and see the other things the future has in store for you.

[bededazzle]

*screw

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