How early is it to have sex after breakup?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I were toghether for 5 months and officially in a relationship for almost 3 months.
My boyfriend and I went on a break almost two weeks back and I broke up with him 2 days back as I had been ghosted by him for 2-5 days now. I used those two weeks since the break to get over him and definitely cried a ton. My mind is made up and im convinced mans cheated on me and the fact that he never treated me well made me feel like he used me and it was like friends with benefits for the most part of it.

I met me previous friends with benefits after 5 months today and we were considering rekindling our shi again but he is nervous that its morally incorrect and I should give it a longer thought. Me on the other hand feels ready cause my mind doesn't see it as incorrect given how my ex treated me. I also barely seen my ex once a week which was like fuck and go and thats my scene with the friends with benefits too so I don't know rn.

I do tend to feel guilty after sex but i feel like there is no reason for me to not move on given my ex ghosted me and unfollowed me like our relationship never existed.

[OlderAndWiser]

You may have some recovery to do from this break up, even though the guy was a shit, but. . . everybody recovers in their own way. Some people withhdraw, mourn for a few months, and then slowly return to the land of the living. Others jump right back on the horse and go back to dating; late at night, when they are alone, they may reflect on the break up briefly, and they deal with it in bits and pieces.

Your friends with benefits ex isn't the only fish in the sea and finding somebody new would probably be a better option. If you want someone to treat you better, don't put yourself out there to be some guy's booty call receptacle. Wanted to be treated nice? Act like you deserve it!

[Lliam]

This new guy is an idiot. What makes him an expert? Why does he think he knows what's best for you?
If he's not interested in satisfying your desires, find someone who will.

Time to heal, my ass. You've already done that. It's up to you and only you to decide what you want.

As far as I'm concerned, a person could wait one day or 6 months. There is no "correct" answer to that question.

[Anonymous]

Maybe take some time and don't do friends with benefits if you feel guilty.

Try something new like dating other women.

After my ex hurt me and ghosted me slept with my mom. I tried guys again and felt so guilty!

Next month I met a sweet wonderful woman and we had sex and I felt so much different!

[ShesRad80]

dont jump into anything you will end up regretting it. you need to heal a bit from whats happened emotionally. wait till you find someone worth it.

[Asker]

I spent 2 weeks crying in anxiety attacks and barely ate a meal a day; what more do i need to feel and heal from to get over him? mentally im done and i erased him. I dont even want a relationship anymore

[ShesRad80]

if you were really over it, would be a dead topic, you know? healing isn't about him, but you.
you said you tend to feel guilty after sex? so why not wait for someone you think is worth it? in the end its your life, i based my answer off your post.

[Anonymous]

5 months. I wouldn't even say that is enough time to really know each other so I wouldn't give a damn if they slept with someone else the same night we broke up

[BoopBoopBeep]

If I get dumped today it's on tonight. Game over means just that.

[WhitneySnow]

Don’t pressure your friend if he’s not ready for sex yet

[Asker]

i alr told him in not tryna push for anything; plus i see him like once a week anyways give or take

[WhitneySnow]

That’s fair

[Fireguy17]

I would say once the door hits him in the ass on the way out it's game on.

[MementoMori777]

You aren't gonna like my advice

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Whenever you want

[In_Trance]

Wait 12hrs