I have been in a relationship for over 5 years also and my boyfriend at the time did these types of things also. His actions of "sex chats", however, did progress into worse situations. I tell you this because I have somewhat of an idea where you're coming from.
You say you don't want to break up, okay. You need to talk with him about the things you know he does. I know you feel hurt and angry, but try not to do it in a confrontational or accusatory manner. Be calm and level headed. Some may disagree with me, but how can problems be fixed without communicating? There is always the chance he doesn't want to be with you anymore, and if you two talk make sure he tells you if he really does or not. Some people, not just men, want to have their cake and eat it too, that's just a simple truth. If he claims to want to be with you then you should stand your ground. Make sure he knows if it happens again then you're gone. If that's how you feel. Sometimes people don't know what they have until.it's gone, or almost gone. The bottom line is that I think you should have a very long, calm, mature talk with him.You deserve to know what's going on. You can't be expected to have all that resentment towards him, and act like nothing is wrong- he's not the only one that counts in your relationship. Good luck.
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You know what's the deal. He's a serial cheater. He may be great to you and if you're alright the fact that he will cheat (and probably move past just sexting) then go for it otherwise you know what's up...
Dump him. There is a difference between being possesive and being naive. It is awesome that you allow him to be him (most guys hate possesive girls) but you have to make sure he respects you 100% and if he is sexting girls while he's with you that is a big BIG no no.
I'm sure it's seems like the worst case scenario considering how long you've been with him and you live together, but a break up sounds necessary. If you trust that you can lay down the law (no sexting, flirting, cheating) and he will respect you then try it but it sounds like this is a relationship that will one day leave you extremely hurt or crushed.
Good luck! It sounds like, since you are on here, you've started down the path towards the break up decision (the right one)
I think the truth is... Your relationship is not what you think.
Yes he gave you a very precious gift, and that is lovely. But giving a gift is easy. It is what you do all those other times that is what counts. In other words, it is how he treats you on a daily basis that really tells you how he feels.
If you know he is sexting other girls, that seems a big problem to me. It is a big red flag.
If I were in your shoes, I would confront him and tell him what you want. It does not have to be an ugly confrontation, but a truthful one. You have to be prepared that he may very well say that he wants to move on. That will hurt but at least you know. Where you are today is that you have no idea and you are hurting and anxious. One cannot move forward when one does not know all the facts... which is where you are today.
I am sorry this has happened to you. I wish you well...
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This poses a lot of danger, my dear friend.
Sexting always lead to the most despicable act of unfaithfulness. Talk it out with him.
Let him know that you can't tolerate it any longer. If keeps doing it despite your talks, drop him off and move on. You'll only experience more pain ahead of your relationship, and don't be surprised if you caught him red-handed on the "act".
Please, let it stop now. Tomorrow can't wait. Do it now.
This can be the turning point of your relationship towards a much more fulfilling one.We all have a fantasy life, to vayring extents. it sounds like you have a good relationship--don't be too jealous of his fantasy life with unknown people online, that don't lead to any actual meetings.
We all deserve an area of our lives where even our sig. others don't intrude!Actually you know what you ha e given him too much liberty and way too much space due to that he is taking the advantage by use his time by exploring new operation but at Tuesday same time he dosent want to loose u as well so he behavies nice with u as well. But this is something which you are letting him do because if u confornt him properly and may be warn him then things might get on tract and ulyour relationship might come back on track. My advice to u will be love a person till an extremely its worth and in return u get the repsect but instead if u get neglected and cheated its better to walk off no matter how attached you. Nothing in this world is permanent.
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