Help, Is it ok to play video games with the opposite sex?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend loses his shit whenever I play video games with my son (he is 18), his friend who is 17 and this guy I met playing COD, who is 24. All gaming and conversations are open and never hidden from him, yet he is so mean and does not want me conversating or playing with the 24 year old, without any good reason. These guys crack me up so I do laugh a lot and they send memes in chat that make me laugh. My boyfriend got pissed, went on my name and told the 24 year old that he needed to stop. Then he deleted the messages. My gaming friend was so confused and thought he offended me. I only knew it happened because the friend wanted to know why I was upset. I was shocked. Why would my boyfriend feel the need to go on act as me and be rude?
My boyfriend played games with all of us, he was always included. I have never private messaged anyone, hid anything, or kept anyone a secret. I have not lied or did anything wrong. All I do is play games a couple hours a week. I have tried talking to him and it doesn't help. The guys I play with don't understand his problem either, especially since he can read and hear what happens during our conversations while gaming. A little back story, my boyfriend lied to me about several girls including a girl he played games with. He hid a lot from me, including about his ex. Is this why he is acting this way or does he have a legit reason for his behavior? I am literally not "allowed" to have any friends or conversations with anyone of the opposite sex without him being an ass to me and causing so many issues that I either give in to his demands or argue with him. Matter of fact, he is sitting across from me right now drilling me about what I am doing and who I am messaging.

[SueShe]

Get rid of this selfish character and utmost toxic person.

Show him my message and tell him that he should shape up or ship out. We are no longer in the 19th. century where guys told their wives how to live, what to do, whom to see and how many breaths they were authorized to take every minute.

If you are subjected to him with your free time, I can only imagine what kind of constraints he is subjecting you when you are not gaming.

Tell him from me that he should seek the immediate assistance of a psychiatrist (not psychologist) to help him with his sick jealousy. This type of person is the one that will ruin your social life and impose his at all cost so he can control you 24/7.

[Asker]

Yeah, I lost a stock trading partner because he was male and my boyfriend was so mad he was literally shaking and beyond upset, all because the trade partner and I messaged each other when we received alerts. It got so bad I had to quit.
I have only stayed and tried to work things out because we have two kids together. But this has gone on long enough and I am exhausted from the constant restraints and walking on egg shells. If I take any selfish, if I do any kind of typing on my phone he asks questions. Many times while I am on my phone he will come up, peek around my at my screen, if what he sees doesn't upset him he will kiss my head and walk away.
I have zero friends and this pandemic makes everything worst for me because he is laid off and constantly around me. Last night he refused to go to bed until I went to bed with him just go get him to stop hounding me. I asked him why he acts like this and his only response is, "That's what couples do, and I want you go come to bed with me."
Thanks for your reply!

[SueShe]

I am sorry for what you have to endure and hope you can find the person that you deserve.

Have you tried counseling because the way he behaves is not a normal behavior from a person that is psychologically stable.

My belief is that he suffers from some past issues that he is not able to be master of. He is imposing his will on you as a way to display his insecurities. You owe it to yourself but mostly to your children to correct this situation.

I hope you can find your peace and wish you all the best.

[girlnow1]

You’ve done the right thing in keeping conversations open and including him. If the conversations were private and shady and disrespectful in some way then he would naturally get suspicious.

Sounds to me from what you’ve wrote anyway his own behaviour has made him feel this way. He knows how he operated when he was in your position

[spartan55]

He is projecting big time. He may be cheating on you.

[JosyJosy]

Of course it is. If he's jealous of that, he's insecure. I'm a gamer, my partner has to deal with this too but he doesn't complain

[Anonymous]

Playing video games is fine. its more about what else is going on if anything

[Avicenna]

Yes, it’s OK. People do that all the time

[Avicenna]

You nredctp set boundaries for this boyfriend. You don’t want a control freak.