People always tell me i still have that boyish look and that i could pass as a 17 year old. Im by no means a short scrawny kid. I actually work out to stay fit but nobody pays attention to it :( and i hate it because my face is still young looking. Some people say i have girl features and kidish expressions but I can't help it and makes me upset. Even my mom tells me im still like her little baby and that I never grew out of my child stage.
I don’t get it! sometimes people just know im a virgin and ask me all the time if i ever had sex. I tell them no and feel so ashamed. I guess its my shy innocent personality and naïve character that yells VIRGIN!! out to people.
I still cuddle with my blanky back home, i still eat kid cereal, still bite my nails and play video games. I feel like i never grew up in spite of nearly being 6 foot. Do girls like guys like this? Im not even close to being a man but whatever, it’s the way I was born. How can I change myself to stop making people think im a little virgin and never kissed a girl? I like girls so much, have multiple pretty female friends who say “youre so cute and innocent”, and fantasize about them. I don’t want to seem so innocent especially when all my friends have surpassed the innocent stage and moved to bigger and better things like sex.
What do I do guys and girls, any advice?
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Hey I still sleep with my teddy bear ( and have a billion stuffed animals on my bed haha)!!! Honestly sex isn't everything don't be ashamed that your a Virgin because chances are that there are people your age (or older) that are still virgins :) plus it's nothing to rush into :D ( psst I'm a Virgin too). You have a life time to learn and grow with each experience you come across so take your time, and don't try to change yourself be you !!! who cares if you still cuddle with a blankly (may I remind you i sleep with my teddy bear), or eat "kid cereal (if it's yummy eat it the fun shapes and color is a plus lol), playing video games ( heck everybody does it ) , biting nails.. well I would personally stop that it's not very good. Being a kid at heart is wonderful but also be mature and responsible (This took me a while to write I'm very bad with giving advice haha but hope this helped :D).
Thanks for your reply. Means a lot when people take their time to right out what they think. Yes I know I shouldn’t change for the sake of people. But I honestly wouldn’t do it for them, I’d do it for myself because its uncomfortable people nailing you out in the street asking you if you're still a virgin out loud for everyone to hear. You know that’s very personal. I've also had people legitimately think im a virgin and say “well I know you’re a virgin so…” im like what the hell! Why do you do that :( I have feelings and I don’t want them hurt anymore.
If I were to ever get a girlfriend shed probably think im too clingy and run away after she sees how I still sleep with my little blanket. That’s part of the reason why I haven't had a relationship. I’m too paranoid of what they’ll think of my character.
First of why do you feel that being a virgin is so bad? and I don't want to offend you ( although it might be offensive lol so I don't know why I even say "don't get offended" ) but it seems like you do want to change ( just a little.. Note I said little) because of the people around you. People will be stupid and ask stupid questions or assume things but don't let that offend you be a stronger person try not to let that bring you down where you want to change because of society. I mean change is good but please do it because you want to do it for yourself be patient and change will gradually come :) try talking to more girls, make excuses to talk to girls, if you don't like the fact that you rely on your blankly to much take baby steps to try to make it less sentimental ( Lol does that make sense) I mean obviously your not gonna go and throw it away and burn it, but don't rely on it as often as you do and if you do find a girl make sure she accepts you for who you are :)
And If the girl loves you and I truly does she won't care about your character