Im such a virgin and people know it, am I helpless?

[Anonymous]

Ok so let me start off by saying that im a 21 year old male who has never kissed a girl, felt boobs or anything like that. Not even seen a grown girl naked!
People always tell me i still have that boyish look and that i could pass as a 17 year old. Im by no means a short scrawny kid. I actually work out to stay fit but nobody pays attention to it :( and i hate it because my face is still young looking. Some people say i have girl features and kidish expressions but I can't help it and makes me upset. Even my mom tells me im still like her little baby and that I never grew out of my child stage.

I don’t get it! sometimes people just know im a virgin and ask me all the time if i ever had sex. I tell them no and feel so ashamed. I guess its my shy innocent personality and naïve character that yells VIRGIN!! out to people.

I still cuddle with my blanky back home, i still eat kid cereal, still bite my nails and play video games. I feel like i never grew up in spite of nearly being 6 foot. Do girls like guys like this? Im not even close to being a man but whatever, it’s the way I was born. How can I change myself to stop making people think im a little virgin and never kissed a girl? I like girls so much, have multiple pretty female friends who say “youre so cute and innocent”, and fantasize about them. I don’t want to seem so innocent especially when all my friends have surpassed the innocent stage and moved to bigger and better things like sex.

What do I do guys and girls, any advice?

[Rainbowkittycatss]

Hey I still sleep with my teddy bear ( and have a billion stuffed animals on my bed haha)!!! Honestly sex isn't everything don't be ashamed that your a Virgin because chances are that there are people your age (or older) that are still virgins :) plus it's nothing to rush into :D ( psst I'm a Virgin too). You have a life time to learn and grow with each experience you come across so take your time, and don't try to change yourself be you !!! who cares if you still cuddle with a blankly (may I remind you i sleep with my teddy bear), or eat "kid cereal (if it's yummy eat it the fun shapes and color is a plus lol), playing video games ( heck everybody does it ) , biting nails.. well I would personally stop that it's not very good. Being a kid at heart is wonderful but also be mature and responsible (This took me a while to write I'm very bad with giving advice haha but hope this helped :D).

[Asker]

Thanks for your reply. Means a lot when people take their time to right out what they think. Yes I know I shouldn’t change for the sake of people. But I honestly wouldn’t do it for them, I’d do it for myself because its uncomfortable people nailing you out in the street asking you if you're still a virgin out loud for everyone to hear. You know that’s very personal. I've also had people legitimately think im a virgin and say “well I know you’re a virgin so…” im like what the hell! Why do you do that :( I have feelings and I don’t want them hurt anymore.
If I were to ever get a girlfriend shed probably think im too clingy and run away after she sees how I still sleep with my little blanket. That’s part of the reason why I haven't had a relationship. I’m too paranoid of what they’ll think of my character.

[Rainbowkittycatss]

First of why do you feel that being a virgin is so bad? and I don't want to offend you ( although it might be offensive lol so I don't know why I even say "don't get offended" ) but it seems like you do want to change ( just a little.. Note I said little) because of the people around you. People will be stupid and ask stupid questions or assume things but don't let that offend you be a stronger person try not to let that bring you down where you want to change because of society. I mean change is good but please do it because you want to do it for yourself be patient and change will gradually come :) try talking to more girls, make excuses to talk to girls, if you don't like the fact that you rely on your blankly to much take baby steps to try to make it less sentimental ( Lol does that make sense) I mean obviously your not gonna go and throw it away and burn it, but don't rely on it as often as you do and if you do find a girl make sure she accepts you for who you are :)

[Rainbowkittycatss]

And If the girl loves you and I truly does she won't care about your character

[justbanANNAz]

imma answer this by talking about myself.

im a 19yr old virgin. 2 relationships. kissed by 1 guy, nothing more.
i LOVE disney
i have toys in my room!
i eat the same cereals now that i did when i was a kid
i still blow bubbles and buy happy meals
i scream at the top of my lungs and run around like mad when I'm excited

BUT
i take care of my health- working out, eating right etc
i dress elegantly
i use my manners
i speak gently

essentially, i am a woman with the heart of a child.
Who gives a fuck what they think of u? YOU ARE YOU! you b whatever the hell u wanna b.
people mock u for being a virgin? who cares?
you bite ur nails? … ok dont do that lol, just cuz of hygiene:P
u play video games? who doesn't!

point is.. b you, and never ever let what anyone thinks of u influence who u r.

[name-bons12]

u dated , we never even hugged a girl :( because we are ugly

[Asker]

Well I don’t like it when people mock me of my virginity. That’s very personal business they’re digging into. that’s also a lack of respect and when people have no respect for you then that’s when you need to change your ways. Im obviously doing something wrong here.

[justbanANNAz]

@name-bons…. breaking hearts or ending up with a broken heart isn't any better than not getting hugs=/

@qa: i totally understand. i think people who do that r rude and fools anyway. ok woaaa there… when people have no respect for you thats when u need to change ur ways? WHO THE EFF SAID THAT? lol!
thats not true at all! it all comes down to context.

example: if I'm a slut and I'm proud of it of course ill get no respect and ill need to change…. but I'm CEO and people dont respect me simply cuz they dont like me or envy me, then no way in hell do i need to change… haters gonna hate, seriously. no matter how amazing you think you are. someone will even end up hating ur awesomeness…do ur own thing man, FTW!

[dreamingincake]

Sex is sex. It will happen when it happens. Don't compare yourself to other people. Move at your own pace. If you want to change things about yourself, then do it. Nothing's in your way. Make changes where you see fit. Not everyone is having sex. There are a lot of people in their 20's who are inexperienced. Its nothing to be ashamed of. Just make some moves. Ask a girl friend to set you up with someone. Join a dating app (like Tinder). Ask a girl you know on a date. Your resources are at your fingertips, but its up to you to take advantage of them.

[AnimeDreama]

There is nothing wrong with being a kid at heart! Those are the best kind of people because they still know how to have fun!

I am 18 1/2 and still cuddle with a blanky

I still eat kid cereal - Cinnamon Toast Crunch!

I fucking love video games!

I bite my nails

Point is, many people still do what you do! Don't be ashamed!

[Asker]

Its much different when you’re a guy. People have so much expectations of you especially when you start to reach your older years (21+). You’re 18, still a teenager, its more appropriate for a teen girl to do those sort of things. I feel so out of the loop it’s not even funny, that’s why I want to change. I don’t feel comfortable in the position im in anymore. I guess accepting who I am is the first step but it’s very difficult.
Btw, my blanky is from when I was a toddler. I still caress it and hug it so tightly. I naturally put so much sentimental value in it that if someone were to rip it, I’d probably run away and tear a little. I doubt its like that for yours :/

[AnimeDreama]

I still have mine from when I was a toddler. You shouldn't put so much stock in what society is appropriate for a man. Society is full of shit. The only thing that matters is how you see yourself, not the way society sees you. It's because society so looks down on and degrades people that still have the heart and mind of a kid that we are not able to accept ourselves and be happy with who we are.

[Asker]

I agree with that. But you’re gonna live a difficult life if you don’t run with the flow. Once people see a small shift in normality they freak out and start pouncing on you. You cause a rift, they will tear you apart. Pretty pathetic how it is.

[AnimeDreama]

Just be yourself and ignore what everybody else says. Going with the flow is overrated anyway.

[sadsadboy]

hey man sorry to tell you this but i'm a virgin too so i can't really advice you on anything but don't worry man
plenty of people r still virgin and beside you have nothing to worry about, if those female friends of yours says that you're cute then you have a chance. have you even tried to ask them out
ps. i too have a blanket i cuddle with and i still watches cartoons

[Asker]

I haven't tried. Theyre real sweet girls and good friends but I don’t think they would ever be interesting in having a relationship with someone like me. I guess I could try. I know one of them does have a crush on me but she’s a little clumsy so I’m not sure if we’d be a good pair you know.

[sadsadboy]

hey man you should give it a try,
who knows you may really like her when you got to knw more about her or. you can find a girl that you have a crush on and start dating her. step out, be brave, experience things, love someone for real
and don't just do this for sex, when the time comes you will have sex
it's ok that you're a virgin, take things at your own pace don't be pressured by your peers and do something foolish
and as jwilliam13 says, 85%. bro u got nothing to worry about
well good luck

[kheserthorpe]

Eating cereal and having a blanket don't make you less of a man.

Thinking you're not a man makes you less of a man.

You're 21. Stop feeling like you need to try so hard to not be a kid, and just be you.

As for your looks... post a pic yeah i know i know, just do it. I suspect some scruff might help you a lot.

[jwilliam13]

Dont worry man, about 85% of the people in the world are virgins at that age, so u r on the winning side. :)