Am I being too demanding of my boyfriend?

I was always the laid-back type of girlfriend, who doesn't easily get annoyed and doesn't cause the kind of drama that most girls do in relationships. I don't get upset over dumb things or little things. BUT there is something that does bother me in others, including boyfriends - lack of motivation to succeed. I always try to be very tolerant of others, I am super nice to everyone regardless of their level of education or career/job, because I know that not everyone can do as well or some people were just never given the opportunity. For example, my parents, both non-English speakers, worked in factories for years. I don't judge, because I know people often work very hard for their money.

When it comes to a relationship though, I become much more judgmental and intolerant. I don't know why, but I want my boyfriend to be an intelligent, independent man who has done well for himself. I don't mean that I want somebody rich or that I am looking for a sugar daddy lol. I have done very well for myself and certainly can support myself without the help of any man. But I want someone who is just as self-sufficient and someone who can be my partner, not someone I will need to babysit or support.

My current boyfriend is the sweetest guy ever, he treats me VERY well and is pretty much everything I have been looking for from the emotional side. But his immaturity and lack of motivation in life really is starting to bother me. He doesn't do well in school (he is still in college while I already graduated last year, he is 3 years younger than me). He has a crappy part time job, and he gets in trouble with his boss all the time, claiming his boss is a "douche." He loves to stay home and play video games and watch TV shows. I am just afraid that he might never grow out of this behavior. I have been very independent and self-sufficient since I was 14, because my parents didn't know English and had crappy jobs, so they couldn't really help me out too much. I worked since I was 16, did varsity sports in high school and was in various clubs, I was my graduating class's valedictorian for both high school and college, and I have stacked up many awards and accomplishments over the years. I am not saying this to show off, but rather to show that I have worked very hard for everything I have now, and I hate when other people think they can just "get by" and things will be OK. I feel like my boyfriend thinks I just "got lucky," and he seems to think that he deserves a job just as good as mine, even though I see he has not nearly as much motivation or drive to succeed. Is it wrong for me to think this way? That my boyfriend is almost like... "not good enough" for me? I don't want to think like that, I hate that I feel like I am judging him. I know that you are supposed to love someone no matter what, and I don't want it to seem like I can't accept our differences. Would you date someone you thought was much less successful than you? If you ever have, did it work out or did you break up? What can I do?
Am I being too demanding of my boyfriend?
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