No judgement please?

[bossbabe39]

Has anyone ever been in love with someone that's 21years older then them? He 61 I will be 40 in September

[libsaretards]

No judgement here. After 30 the experience factor does not matter.

However, I think this is a bad idea, especially if you want kids from him. Everyone focuses on a woman's biological clock, but guys have one as well. Beyond age 45 our sperm becomes less potent so there are more chances for blanks to be shot and for the few that work to result in birth defects in the child or some other weird diseases.

At that age he has lost most of his strength. Odds are you are stronger than him and men never lose their pride at any age. This might cause friction down the road if he has not learned how to accept that at his age younger women will likely be stronger than him. He is less likely to be able to protect you and that hurts a man as well.

Men's memories and brains wear out faster than that of women and we die earlier. This means, even with a man your age, you would likely outlive him. This fact amplifies when you add the fact he is in his 60s and most men die in their 70s. That would be 2 decades of life without him around and you as a single mom should you be able to have healthy kids.

Such a relationship would be unequal and to YOUR detriment more than his.

If none of this bothers you, then go for it and I wish you the best.

[bossbabe39]

I have grown kids and he has none my tubs are tied he is also married so it will never go anywhere but I'm having hard time letting him go

[libsaretards]

Him being married changes things. He is off limits and you do need to move on. Work on yourself. Ask yourself what is causing you to lust after a married man. That is a completely separate issue from your original question.

[bossbabe39]

I agree I didn't know at time he was married and had been for 40 years so I know that but iv obviously never been in love cause iv never felt pain like this

[libsaretards]

You've been in love. However, you are older now and that makes loneliness even more evident. It is not that the love is stronger. It is that the desire to not be alone is stronger.

[bossbabe39]

Very well said thank you for that. Definitely hit home ur right

[MTC29]

Yes, I was a very young man who fell in love with a much older woman.

In your case a 40-year-old woman and a man aged 61 is not even an issue, unlike a teenage boy (me) in love with a woman older than his mother.

[dustybiker]

No. Aside Harrison Ford (who would never be a reality in any regard)

[Pudsmucker]

I would say you are good to go. Don't worry of what people say. Is he cool with you. Do both want any children?

[DizzyAster2]

No, but there's no issue with that.

[EmmaMary]

No, absolutely not.

[VV3ZZY]

I'm sure its fine

[JohnK123]

Howd u two meet 🤣

[In_Trance]

I haven't