Is he losing interest in me?

[Anonymous]

Okay so I know this is petty, but I can't help but notice that my boyfriend used to send me a lot of things, like gifts and snacks. And whenever I even mentioned I felt like eating something he would immediately get it for me or get it delivered to my house.

But since the past few months he has stopped. I don't know, like everything is good we are fine, talking okay but he just doesn't send things anymore?

I thought I was being paranoid so I deliberately have been mentioning that I really wanna eat blah blah or that I'm hungry and he doesn't do it anymore?

Keep in mind there's no money problems, I know he has money, he's going out with friends and eating out on almost daily basis. Is he losing interest in me? Answer honestly, why would he stop all of a sudden?

[mydadsbuyingmilk]

Think of it as like marriage. First few months u guys get along so well that he buys you things and says sweet things and u do the same but as the time passes now u know that u have him or her u won't feel the pressure of impressing them. That doesn't mean that he doesn't love you tho. Its just you guys getting used to eachother. Another example, imagine u meet with a new person you obviously try to be more kind to them because u want a good first impression right? now think of a person who has been ur friend for a long time. U can be more chill when u’re near them and u dont have to act extra polite or anything but u still love them

[Asker]

you're right but its been more than 2 years since we started dating and he just completely stopped outta nowhere.. if it was just for making an impression wouldn't he just have done all of that for a few months and not 2 whole years?

[mydadsbuyingmilk]

uh you should probaably discuss this with him. Dont talk about the food thing directly but say like “hey is everything okay? I feel like you’re being off for a dew days.””

[IMuser]

The simplest answer: he is valuing his time. The initial spark where he used his time and other resources to gain your trust now has been exhausted because he believes that you trust him now.

If you are assuming that he should keep his behaviour up, you are in for a disappointment. The reality of relationships starts after the honeymoon phase.

[Asker]

but why after 2 years? If it was about gaining trust wouldn't it have stopped a long time back?

[IMuser]

(please add full details when you ask a question)

Call him and tell him straight. This is the best way to ask

[spartan55]

Perhaps he doesn't feel appreciated. What have you done to hold up your end of the relationship?

[Iron_Man]

How far does he live from you. how often do you see each other

[Asker]

Used to see each other every day in college, but now not as much bec of vacations. He lives like 45 minutes away.

[Iron_Man]

Not to bad keep trying

[Wise4myage]

Have you asked him that question?

[Asker]

No, I wanted a second opinion before I stir up an unnecessary argument

[Guy13]

You getting fat?

[Asker]

Haha, not even slightly