Have you ever been ‘gaslit’ (gaslighting) before?

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What was your experience like if so? Gaslighting  is a form of psychological abuse where a person or group makes someone question their sanity, perception of reality, or memories. People experiencing gaslighting often feel confused, anxious, and unable to trust themselves. The term gaslighting derives from the 1938 play and 1944 film  Gaslight , in which a husband manipulates his wife into thinking she has a mental illness by dimming their gas-fueled lights and telling her she is hallucinating.

petitedollbabee · Accepted Answer

For sure. My folks were masters at gaslighting me as a teen.

When I told my mum about my rape that happened when I was 14, she said are you sure you’re remembering correctly? When I said yes, she said are you sure you didn’t just consent to it and then regret it after? I said I’m sure I didn’t consent. She still believed that I was making things up.

When my dad kicked me out of his house when I was 15 because “teenagers can’t have depression, stop being an attention seeker”. He didn’t talk to me for a year after kicking me out. These days when I mention it to him, he says it never happened and that he never said those things. Yes… he did… my sister had to pick me up from the street after he kicked me out, I was standing in the rain crying with my backpack soaked.

meetkitty123 · Accepted Answer

Yes unfortunately I have been a victim of gaslighting probably began as early as the age of two or three and continue for a long time. It was done by my mother. She constantly was trying to convince me I was being abused by many different people. With certain people I was able to fight off her attempts but with other people She managed to brain wash me. It took intense therapy to descramble my false memories and to find the true repressed memories. I caught her once trying to do the same to my 2yr old child and I threw her the f#ck out my house. We have a very rocky relationship.

JustinTheGreat · Accepted Answer

Yes. I had a friend who I had to cut off because he was a pathological liar. Every word and story out of his mouth was a lie, and it’s not like he was a good liar either so it was very obvious.

He would gaslight and say things like “Oh remember, we had this conversation and you said this” like bro I NEVER said that. And even if I said I didn’t remember he would insist and keep going “yes you did. I remember you saying it”

I couldn’t tell if he knew he was lying or if he genuinely believed his delusions…

goaded · Accepted Answer

Are you kidding? I'm in the process of being told that the FBI and the CDC don't know how many homicides have been reported, and that a state with twice the numbers of another really has fewer homicides than the latter.

Sour-rose · Answer

Unintentionally, I think. My mom tried to do it when she was on a tantrum. Talkin' shi that wasn't there. Like tomatoes I was usin' for a salad claiming it was there since morning, or how we communicate when one walks in the house. And now today, she probably don't remember that. Soo that might be close? Or she's acutally getting "there".

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

I had more than one ex do it to me. One I think of right now, when I would try to talk to him about him not meeting my needs and so we could work things out. He would often say "I'm sorry you feel that way, you need to work through it." deflecting and trying to make me think I was the problem.

That was just the beginning, because everything was often similar to that.

In the end I did realize I was the problem, I was putting up with too much of their shit.

melanieeeB · Answer

Yeah yeaaars ago, I had some guys claiming I was crazy and making me question myself or "friends" do the same but in the end I was right and spot on about their stupid games they were playing.
With time I learned to trust my gut feeling and learned to not get myself fooled in that way again.

Xbrb483 · Answer

My mom gaslighted me all my life since I was a kid to the point I had depression in my teen years. She continues to do so and says the abuse she made me endure is all in my head. At least I've been free from her since I was 16 when I came to live with my grandma. People, if you are being gaslighted or suffering any kind of mental or physical abuse please GET OUT! That was the best decision I made in my entire life. It was very hard to leave everything behind, especially my pets ( I got to visit them from time to time when she wasn't in the house and would spend my day with them) but I'm glad I did it. I'm 27 now, and I know I'm only alive because I got out.

fonduegirl · Answer

For ex. People on this are pretending that misgendering isn't that awful, and the kid needs to get over herself.

420Rachel · Answer

I'm pretty sure everyone has at one point or another. And I also believe we've all gaslit at one point or another 😂

menina · Answer

Yes, I've been gaslit by my parents many times, especially by my mother. She's always doing that to me. She thinks I don't know but I know exactly what she's doing.

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

No.

ElvenMr · Answer

Yea, it happened a few times, but i would rather not talk about it.

Lyndsielee666 · Answer

You already know my answer to this so 🧍🏻‍♀️

beebella · Answer

I don't really want to talk about it, Doug. 😭

Smashingdoozy · Answer

Many many many different times

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes I've been gaslit before

llorando · Answer

No i have not been gaslit before to my knowledge.

moonpie89 · Answer

I don't think so

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