Gaslighting is a form of manipulation that seeks to sow seeds of doubt in a targeted individual or in members of a targeted group, hoping to make them question their own memory, perception, and sanity. Using persistent denial, misdirection, contradiction, and lying, it attempts to destabilize the target and delegitimize the target's belief system.
Catfishes use these tactics quite often since they have no intent on actually meeting anybody offline. Their goal is to make you feel and sound crazy when they give you their excuses on why they can't meet. Some people fall for this type of manipulation but most of the time can be squashed by just going with your gut feeling that something just isn't right here.
So have you ever been or know someone who has been gaslighted? Share your stories below!
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- NEVER HEARD OF IT UNTIL NOWVote C
Most Helpful Girl
Next to guilt-tripping, this is my mother's favourite manipulation tactic.
My ex was also quite fond of it, so much so that it was his response to virtually every disagreement. Even something as simple as a difference of opinion over what to eat was met with, "I assumed that you would like my choice better because [insert long, convoluted story about incidents that never happened or did happen but were skewed in such a way so as to back up his claim]".
In the initial stages of our relationship, he would also question my memory during a lot of these disagreements. I figured (perhaps hopefully and idiotically) that if I met his claims with dispelling evidence and also went to great lengths to prove that I have quite a stellar memory in general (it's something I've always prided myself on), it would dissuade him from making these claims. Well, it did. But, instead of questioning my memory, he went on to questioning my sanity. :/15
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Most Helpful Guy
Yes but my girlfriend of the time. Face to face. I never wished her any bad.
In the e d i had to record our conversations to check if I was nuts.
This is not a word for word transcript but will give you an idea.
"So what happened to your car?"
"Some idiot ran up the back of me and nearly wrote off the car. Lucky it was still driveable and I could make it here"
"So what the hell are you telling me for?"
"You just asked me"
"Did i? Whatever your fuct up head is telling you again is it. I never asked you anything".
This went in until I ended up recording these exchanges and when i finally had the humility to play them with friends present there jaws were in the floor because she had been trying to sew the same seeds into a my friends.
Anyway dropped her off at the post office marked RETURN TO SENDER.0