Isn't this super disrespectful (I'm going to dump him)?

[Anonymous]

We've been dating for just 5 months and I'm already feeling this relationship is a total waste of time. He has no other interesting conversation nor real ambitions except his sexual experiences, the interesting clubs and likes with his 2 past ex girlfriend and sexual stuff. Within me I'm thinking ''Omg not this again, why the hell do I even want to hear about your ex gfs.''

Then he calls an ex girlfriend's mother's (yet that girl has blocked him years ago) that works at his workplace ''oh my sweet mother-in-law'' even when I told him I feel that's disrespecful. In 1st month, he used to talk about interesting topics (science, houses and a bit of politics) and seemed like he had life goals. Then it's like his mask started coming off. He's different than how I met him like.

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How would any boyfriend like it if I talked about a past ex boyfriend and the trips he took me to?
Me: Oh honey when my ex boyfriend and I use to go to the beach, we had fun
I don't think any man would like that.

[Ευδεμονια]

I sincerely think he’s a big narcissist. It’s good between you two to have a good sexual entente and to be explicit (but there’s a limit at everything). But I think he’s passing every limit, also having his ex mother as a “mother in law” despite having his ex blocked him, is a very worrying and embarrassing thing, also for you. I can imagine your embarrassment and your disappointment in front of his narcissistic shows.
He built a mask to appear more “normal”, hiding these sides of him, but I think now the real him has come out. You’ll do the right thing dumping him, he has to learn to respect partners and that at the world doesn’t exist only him.

[Asker]

I'm dumping him today. The sooner the better. I feel the longer I stay with him, the more likely I'll be another one of those ''we've been together for 4-5 years, I want kids already'' story. I don't have too much time to waste.

[Ευδεμονια]

You’re doing the right thing, sure bounding to him with the eventual consolation of kids would make one of the thousands of unhappy families. I think you’re right to end all now soon, you’re doing a favour to yourself and maybe to him, maybe he can learn something from this experience.

[SeekingVirginWife]

You have a choice, Marry a dishonorable loser with a good heart.

Or Marry a Honorable Racist, Sexist with strong moral fortitude.

We don't live in a perfect world, You may have to make sacrifices or choose to be single for a long time. Finding a husband later in life is hell for women.

[Asker]

What guy I'm dating sounds like a loser already and I feel like he's going to string me along forever if I don't leave him. He doesn't sound like he has any life goals nor wants kids.

[SeekingVirginWife]

Then find a racist and sexist, they make better husbands.

[Asker]

Plus I feel that still staying in close contact with a mothers's ex girlfriend (a girl that even blocked you) and calling her your ''sweet mother-in-law'' is very disrespectful.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

He's obviously stuck on his ex and only his sexual prowess.

Unless all you also want from him is the sex and nothing else of substance (like a friends with benefits sorta deal), then he's really not worth your time.

It sounds like you want something more than what he can give you. That's okay. Leave him, or just switch to being friends with benefits if you still want the sex and can handle that, and then search for someone who will give you the sort of connection you're looking for.

Not everyone will be there emotionally. You have to leave behind those who aren't mature enough for you.

[Asker]

I'm dumping him today. Yes you're right, I don't want just a sexual relationship. Sex isn't everything and it shouldn't be. It should just be part of a real long-term relationship with goals in the future, such having kids.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Glad I could help. You can do this, and you deserve someone who will bring his whole self - not just his dick - to the table for you.

[LeeannaDD]

he's obviously not over his ex, but if you've been with him 5 months she's obviously moved on for a good reason. You should too

[TenkRealist]

I've had an ex just like this. She ended up cheating on me. Dump him asap if you know what's good for you.