Do you think you should disclose to your spouse you were diagnosed with a mental illness?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Bad idea  When people know your Weakness they will always prey upon it consciously or not. The mind will always find a way to Prey upon weaknesses

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yes, when the time is right. Not straight away in a new relationship. You may need his support and understanding. And it shouldn't be a big secret.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Do you think your spouse should be honest and candid with you?

Finchie40 · Answer

Yes so they can prepare themselves to be a punching bag , Being with someone with mental illness is a very hard relationship , My ex wife has PTSD and anxiety and depression, I thought I could handle it but it just got worse and worse through the years , I always had a question mark over my head wondering if what she was saying was real or if it was just the mental illness talking , it was like she had this little demon living inside her that came out from time to time to attack me and belittle me and criticize me , she would get distant from me and said things they were so fucked up to the point I would walk away , the second I walk away she come chasing me back and start loving me again , stupid me would take her back feeling bad for her because I knew it was mental illness but sadly I really never knew what it was cuz little by little all the negative things she said to me started sitting in me and I would hold it in until I couldn’t hold it anymore and then I would snap on her and make it clear that I am not her ducking punching bag , as time went on she started withholding intimacy and affection from me and making excuses as to why she wasn’t in the mood , if I initiated sex I would get turned down so I pretty much waited for her to come to me , It was abuse , but I put up with it until the day I busted her having an affair with a co worker and that was my final straw to end it , The girl I am dating now is showing very similar signs as my ex and I am at my witts end , why I end up with these mentally Ill girls is beyond me , I am starting to feel like I have mental illness , because I don’t care anymore , I think love is a myth especially nowadays , to many people are selfish and only really care about themselves , I am at a point in life I just want to feel wanted and appreciated , someone that will make me a priority like I do them , someone that will stay loyal like I do for them , but in today’s time I think that’s now a thing of the past.

VanillaSalt · Answer

Women look at weak men poorly. Any weakness and they take advantage of it. Men avoid mental women like a plague. Should we for the relationships sake? Yes. But if you ever want to find a good partner you should solve your mental issues to a manageable point then never speak of them again.

caring__1 · Answer

If you start withholding information that might impact him, he'll feel you're OK with him doing the same. Double standards never work out well. If you feel the diagnosis was incorrect, share that information with him, also, along with your reasoning for believing it was incorrect. Would you want him to withhold the fact he has an STI or children with other women or a criminal record?

Table4YTwo · Answer

Mental illness can be hereditary and if you want children then its likely the kids might end up with your illness.

I am Autistic, I make it aware on the first date as I do not want to a liar.

If I had kids with a women and our kid ended up autistic but non-functionally autistic I would feel terrible because odds are it would be because of me.

DonkeyDan · Answer

If you can't disclose something like that to your spouse, then they should be your spouse.

mermaidcancermoon · Answer

Going into a relationship lying is just a means to a dramatic end. If you can't be completely vulnerable with someone, you're not meant to be together.

AviatorTom · Answer

A person should share major events and situations that happened before they knew each other, with their spouse. That includes any medical or mental issues.

Anonymous · Answer

It's a major thing as far as getting to know them, or a major thing that affects BOTH of you. It's not something to keep to yourself. I get maybe being embarrassed or whatever feelings are involved, but a major thing you don't keep from your partner.

Guy13 · Answer

He probably already knows that you’re 🦇 🦇 💩 💩 Crazy by now…

Blueeyes81 · Answer

Yes, but the chances are they already know. Mental illness is not easily hidden.

annabananna · Answer

I think it developed intimacy to tell each other personal things about yourself. I tell my husband everything. He even knows embarrassing things and habits I have that I’d never tell anyone.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Yes! 100% categorically, yes. You owe it to you partners to let them know what they're getting into when they date you.

Anonymous · Answer

yes, keeping such a secret from one you have dearest is probably not good emotionally. I certainly don't want a relationship where we do not share our downs.

Anonymous · Answer

If it even exists. Way more often it's false diagnosis. In fact I don't believe mental illness exists, it is only a symptom of a bad lifestyle or a social problem.

aazzvv · Answer

Ofc, you should. If your spouse has truly loves you , he never leaves you. Otherwise he just need one excuse to go.

BeMuse · Answer

That's something to talk about long before you get married...

crossdressingrihno · Answer

You should but you should also disclose this information in a way that isn't stupid

Jadeli · Answer

I mean he needs to know. You are married for life's sake.

sheikalana · Answer

Of course! You both live in the same house and have to deal with each other.

TexasRed95 · Answer

I mean I'm open about the abuse I suffered for years from my father and how it has affected me. I'm an open book.

Gary888818 · Answer

Spouse as in already married? Lol probably should have disclosed that way before tying the knot. Wow.

jahaims · Answer

For sure. If you can't be honest with your spouse you shouldn't be with them

Minahh · Answer

Definitely. You should feel comfortable enough to talk about that with your partner.

wolfunknown · Answer

Communication is the key to happy relationship

exitseven · Answer

Yes, I would like to know if she was crazy.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes, cause I have mental illnesses

ArtemisSilver · Answer

No it's better if you keep secrets

OddBeMe · Answer

I just hand it off to another personality.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, of course you should.

dudeinohio · Answer

Absolutely

driven159 · Answer

never hide anything

jimmy2 · Answer

For sure

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