What's the most important trait your significant other must have?

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What is the most important trait your significant other must have

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

That's a tough question because there are a lot of important things. Even "little" things.

I'd say patience is high on the list. People who criticize over little things will stress me out.

Right now, being clean and organized would be high on the list. Someone who was ok with helping with my stuff once in a while without flying off the handle about "the official right way" vs another way that works just as well. I don't want "a maid." But someone with a similar philosophy and who didn't just throw stuff around a lot would be a priority.

Right now I'm dealing with the consequences of two hoarders (and generational stuff) - trying to declutter, and try to sell stuff, or toss it, or donate it. It's taken hundreds of hours, and I'm not even halfway done. It's still overwhelming. Once this hellishness is over, I will hope that if I ever have kids, that I would never put them through anything like this when I go.

Someone who supports my dreams and interests.

Someone who doesn't spend like crazy - someone good with money. Money tends to be a huge thing that most couples fight about, so the better a potential spouse would be with not overspending or buying frivolous stuff; the better a woman is with saving (without being too stingy)... and if she contributed... the more likely we would succeed.

Whatever2929292 · Accepted Answer

Christian and morals and has to be a woman and of childbearing age. I think Christian/morality comes first and foremost

WonderBell99 · Accepted Answer

Trustworthiness.

I cannot, in my good judgment, ever consider dating a man who is not trustworthy. If he breeches my trust, out to the streets he go! If I tell him something, I don't want him going around telling his friends or people he knows what I said to him. It reflects badly on his character. If someone is honest and dependable, they also most likely have the traits I look for in a partner:

- empathy
- sound judgment
- kind
- respectful
- never unnecessarily aggressive
- assertive
- optimistic
- gracious
- good listener
- loyalty
- accountability
- emotional intelligence
- knowledgeable, but NOT a show off

I want someone I can depend on when I'm feeling down. I want a partner I can share my life with.

Emiliamazing · Accepted Answer

I think it must be trust. Kindness and patience are very important, but trust experiment. Whether you’re just dating or getting married, it is most important.
When you’re able to trust your partner, it is one less concern on your mind. When you bring children into the fold, should you choose to do so, it’s even more important because they are responsible for the lives of others at that moment.
having someone you can trust reduces many of life’s stresses

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Respect or love would be my two most valued traits

Espresso-Grande · Answer

Humility.  In the sense that he doesn't talk down to people, or look down on those less fortunate than himself  Loyalty is a given though.

Guy13 · Answer

Graciousness, soundJudgment, and fundamentally like yoked.. which does not mean think super analytically as I do…two of the same can drive off cliff in a blinded happiness

Rei13 · Answer

Honest/trustworthy is the trait that I value the most, I don’t feel like a relationship is worth it if that is missing. Other important things too

Starlight007 · Answer

They must be a genuine Christian cause if they are a genuine Christian then they will be everything I am looking for in a partner.

sage2021 · Answer

I guess we only get to choose one huh? Ok, I guess it would have to be a great sense of humor.

TAZERIONA · Answer

I'm going to go with good communication skills, good sense of humor, sweet, athletic, etc. I know you asked for one, but I couldn't just choose one lol...

behnam1999 · Answer

I want her to be tolerant of my defects and accept me just as I am and give me the chance to change myself.

Jadeli · Answer

If I do meet him, of all the important traits I want him to have the most imperative trait is loyalty.

WhereIsMyMind · Answer

Must have a good knowledge of a varied selection of music, and have similar tastes to mine.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

Breath.. I wouldn't date someone who wasn't breathing!

MCheetah · Answer

She must be a good and caring person. Any mean-spirited or b*tchy women won't be tolerated.

Adronicus · Answer

The ability to be a good mother, regardless of whether we have children or not.

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

Integrity. They need to be able to be honest and themselves. If they can't be honest, I can't date them.

Cowboy6666 · Answer

Should be loyal to me, should be honest with me, gives me daily blowjobs, kind, not racist, having longer hairs would be plus for me.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

On a shallow level.. ability to drive because I don't like driving much.  On a deep level.. ability to take no for an answer and not argue with me about it.

Minahh · Answer

I feel like I always change it but recently I feel like it's compassion. Being able to see the suffering of others and actually be willing to help.

JSmuve · Answer

I'd say compassion and empathy. Without that your relationship will be emotionally unsatisfying.

Tiptoetamm · Answer

Loyal, faithful, patient, honest and hard working

crossdressingrihno · Answer

They must be entertaining

Rebecka33 · Answer

Interest and kindness.

Pinay_ako · Answer

Loyalty to me

leah_steenz · Answer

Good communication skills

athlete_7 · Answer

Loyality. Which is non existant these days.

Iron_Man · Answer

To be loyal and faithful

JohnK123 · Answer

Kind cute smart fun t

anton_dee · Answer

Humour, appreciation, intelligence, down to earth

admles · Answer

Atheist, non smoker, and loyal.

Anonymous · Answer

Being masculine. That’s it.

hellomellow7 · Answer

Compassion

domenico07 · Answer

Sense of humor

Blackcosmo · Answer

Kindness/Empathy.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

Being a nice person.

Lucy68 · Answer

Kindness

SphynxUK · Answer

Humour

tomatotomato · Answer

Loyalty and responsibility for their own actions

Jamesshinobi · Answer

a Vagina. the old fashioned kind.

exitseven · Answer

Loyalty.

sheikalana · Answer

Must be consistent.

alance99 · Answer

Loyalty and honesty

Anonymous · Answer

Heart

Agape93 · Answer

Loyalty.

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly

soullicker123 · Answer

Intelligence

Leah_Monet · Answer

Loyalty

Anonymous · Answer

Good at sex

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