How to stop worrying that I'm infertile?

[snackthatsmilesback]

I have a wife and child. Recently I've been having irrational fears that I'm actually infertile. I know I could go and get tested and "be done with it," but doing so would show outright that I don't trust my wife and risk ruining our relationship if it turns out I really can't trust her. Plus I know my brain and even if the test says I'm fertile I could still have lingering suspicions about the baby. Getting tested would NOT fix the problem, in fact it would probably just make it worse.

I love her and our baby and there is NO reason for me to have this fear except my fucking brother putting the idea in my head this past Easter. My wife and I have talked about it and she said she understands if I do get tested but hopes I don't feel like I need to. She's never given me reasons to doubt her.

I feel horrible I can't get the thoughts out of my head and they just keep getting more intrusive since the baby has been born. Even if it wasn't mine I don't think I could leave them. Getting tested would do absolutely nothing but hurt. I need to stop thinking about it I just don't know how.

[Graci_e]

Even if you’re infertile, the baby can still very likely be yours. Infertility doesn’t necessarily mean you can’t have a baby at all, it just means you have a very decreased chance.
Being completely sterile is another thing.

If you’re this worried and you’ve talked about it with your wife, just go get the test. Explain to her it’s just an irrational thought you want to put to rest.

If getting the all clear on the test doesn’t help, seek therapy. This honestly sounds like an issue that needs to be talked through with a therapist to me.

[sheikalana]

Is the issue here about you thinking that you're infertile or are you fearing that the child might not be yours? If it is the latter I know a lot of men who fear that too including my husband. I even told him that he could do a dna test once our son is born if he's still panicking about it. Tell your wife about your fears tell her this is nothing against her is just your brain playing games.

[FactsRULE]

Buy a microscope with at least 400X magnification. Do a bit of googling to do the count (s), learn to recognize good motivity, identify and count irregular vs "good" sperms.
Seriously its quite easy.
I remember in college we were looking at our own saliva in class and a girl could not recognize some sperms and we all burst out laughing when the Prof said "it's a sperm"... It was mine..

[kinggeorge007]

I think if she approves (as you said, she does) get a paternity test. (Not a fertility test, because child is already born and you can be infirtile after that).

And go for counseling just after the test

[Anonymous]

Why do you think like this if you have no reason to? What did your brother say that made this big of an impression on you? Anyway just get a paternity test (not a fertility test) and be done with it before it hurts your relationship and attachment to the baby. Either that or see a psychologist.

[snackthatsmilesback]

I don't know, things have just been going too well. I'm not used to it. And he's just pointing out things that don't mean anything but all together they sound bad, like we were using protection when she got pregnant—but that happens all the damn time. I think seeing a psychologist would be better probably, shit I haven't seen mine in over a year now I should check in anyway you're right

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't worry about it, it took my parents 10 years to have me and my sister, 6 years to have my sister and 4 years to have me, they both thought they were infertile, so it turns out medical professionals can be wrong. I've heard of that happening with other couples too, nature has it's charms about it sometimes.

[bootieclapper9000]

do not get into relationships look into the
redpill mgtow

[snackthatsmilesback]

I'm already way in bro. I'm asking how to not be paranoid not how to leave, thats not even on the docket.

[bootieclapper9000]

there is no way
either get out

or stay paranoid

[snackthatsmilesback]

No, that's bullshit. I'm not paranoid because I'm in a relationship, I'm because my brother is a fucking cuck and he's trying to revenge-sabotage me. He should gtofw that would definitely help.

[bootieclapper9000]

relationships are fake
women are prostitutes

IM TELLING YOU THIS CAUSE I LOVE YOU

these fuckers out here do not give a damn about you
BUT I DO LOVE YOU

I want you to be safe
so you do not go through
what I went through

sorry bro but women do not love men in general
that is reality

and its a sad reality
but I accept it

[bootieclapper9000]

you should also

[snackthatsmilesback]

Bro I've been through it, I've had nasty girls and nasty relationships. I went my own way. I just met a woman going the same way—she's real and so is our relationship. She's no better than I am but when she does shit she tells me. That's one of the hardest rules we have.

[snackthatsmilesback]

I appreciate your concern and everything thanks for caring and trying to help, but my problem is not her. She has done nothing wrong in this scenario this particular problem, is just mine.

[bootieclapper9000]

alright you are red pilled on women

be careful okay brother
ill trust you

[snackthatsmilesback]

Thank you 💙

[Graci_e]

Do you love me?

[EmmaMary]

There's a very simple solution to this... Agree on having a DNA Test, this would then categorically, unequivocally prove this one way or the other... Problem Solved.

[Jamie05rhs]

Get tested. It's better to know the truth.

However, keep in mind that it may be a possibility that you were fertile before the baby was born. (Though I don't know this to be a fact, so ask your doctor.)

[Smashingdoozy]

Why would you have to get tested for infertility to see if the baby is yours? Just get a DNA test

[Mahmoud_Madyan]

You don't need to make a fertilie test, you just need to see psychologist!!

[RuthlessAggression]

if you have a child, why worry about being infertile?

[snackthatsmilesback]

Exactly it doesn't make sense

[noohair]

Sounds like your brother is hurting you with his comments. Why is he doing this?

[snackthatsmilesback]

Prolly cause he's a dick and I cucked him in jr high. We aren't friends.

[Anonymous]

No one says you have to tell your wife. Stop bullshitting to yourself.

[Anonymous]

As someone who recently found out I am infertile, I would want to know right away. I did impregnate two women years ago, who aborted. Now it's not an option.

[KrakenAttackin]

Get a home paternity test for your baby, problem solved.

[crossdressingrihno]

Go get counseling

[serious_miss419]

It’s not worth worrying over.