He works all week, I see him everyday for a few hours after work. Last month he had been working overtime so I didn’t get to see him as often. Then this last two weeks he went back to his regular schedule. He told me his friends invited him to be part of a basketball team so he has been going to practice with them after work. During those hours I wish I would be spending time with him and feel upset about it because I do miss him. But then I see he is having fun based on the things he posts on social media and my unconformity dissipates thinking that at least he is having fun, that he is having a good time doing what he likes and feel selfish for wanting to be with him.
Guys: Is it selfish that I want to spend time with my boyfriend everyday?
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D_Bone_Steak | 1.8K opinions shared on Relationships topic.
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It can be annoying. I had to delete my wall of text I wrote you because I found myself just bitching about my wife. What's annoying? Sometimes I got shit I got to do or want to do, but she can't entertain herself. I'm like her only source of entertainment.
I would suggest getting a hobby or getting a task done that you've been putting off. Is it selfish? It can be... Would you be like my wife and start pouting because I want to hit the weights for 65 minutes instead of just eating and shopping (the bullshit she wants to do)?
It's not selfish and kinda sweet and hopefully he appreciates that you let him spend time destressing from work. You should find something of your own to do, alone or with your friends. You wouldn't notice the time so much and have things to chatter about with him. He and you should spend quality time together at some point in the week though. If he doesn't want to, we might ask if he cares.
I'm very sorry to hear that! Boys can be... insensitive to our less obvious needs. You aren't being selfish - at least, not unreasonably so. Have you maybe considered going to his practice with him, even if it just meant sitting on the sidelines? Or arranging some sort of daily meetup?
It's not selfish. In fact, a guy likes hearing that. And I'm sure he wants to be with you all the time to. But, he wants give some of that time to friends and other life activities. Your wanting to be with him all the time isn't wrong. Maybe you can find other people and other things to keep your mind off of it and fill that time you're not together?
Because you're emotionally entirely dependent on your boyfriend. You need to have a life beside your relationship. Also, spending some time apart is very healthy for any relationship. I can 100% guarantee you that what you're currently wishing for, will cause major issues in the long run. He'll feel smothered by you and you (unless you are insane) will sooner or later realize that your life is very incomplete.
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