Is serving a boyfriend meals or desserts on different ocassions overdoing it?

[Anonymous]

Meanwhile my mother thinks through his stomach is one of the ways to conquer him/make him fall in love faster (and I don't mean the sexual aspect... I mean actually getting him to commit), my father had a different opinion.

He thinks too much of everything is annoying and there is a possibility that he be feeling overwhelmed with frequent food or desserts brought to him. He also stated he might think it's all too good to be true. He thought I should tone it down a bit.

What do you think? Is it overdoing it or ok?

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My father thinks I'm overdoing my generosity with the food and desserts.

[slatyb]

So you are chasing him around with food, hoping that it will lead to a proposal? That won't work. Your father is right. Stop playing silly games. What do you want? Ask for it. How long have you been dating him?

[Asker]

for 6 months now

[Asker]

yes that's pretty it and we're not doing cohabitation

[slatyb]

Have you talked to him about what you want, what he wants for the medium term, say in the next year? Are you hoping for marriage? Children? Is he?

[Asker]

I've made it clear from the first month of dating that I'm dating with intention; that my purpose is marriage and kids, not cohabitation. He knows very well what I want.

[Asker]

He also knows I don't have all the time nor luxury to be dating for 3+ years, that I don't want my time wasted.

[slatyb]

Excellent! What's your decision date -- either we are planning a wedding or it's over?

[Screenwriter]

You mean you're just showing up with a meal or dessert? Randomly?

Definitely overdoing it. Unless he's coming OVER for dinner, there is no need for you to be a delivery service of ANY kind.

[Emily_925]

Are you talking about just cooking him nice food? That is like literally the most normal thing I have heard of, and guys love eating ncie food especially know. you can cook well I bet he loves it

[Asker]

yeah, when I have time I cook sometimes