It’s probably an ego thing - Not letting you pay for things. My boyfriend is like this.. Frustrating to say the least
The only thing you can do is communicate it to him, tell him that you want to go to a fancy place, but you’re willing to pay for drinks and desserts and he can pay for the meal. Tell him it would make you happy to get drinks and desserts at a fancy place. It’s only fair.
Tell him it makes you feel cheap, and you would rather do X than that. If he can’t compromise on that, then it’s gonna be difficult, because he’s choosing his ego over your wants or needs. Which, paying for meals isn’t a bad thing, but to the point where it makes you feel bad, then it’s wrong.
I also want to bring up something irrelevant but drop my two cents in…. His spending habits, or his behavior about money. He says he thinks its better to spend than save? To me, that would raise red flags, because that’s very irresponsible. It doesn’t matter if he’s making a lot of money, or if he thinks saving money will go to waste if not spent… It’s just a bit irresponsible to spend it all rather than saving for a future, necessities, and emergencies…
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Well if he’s not going to pay for drinks and dessert, you have every right to order those things for yourself and pay for it with your money. Stop letting him control you.
seems like you have him need to have a conversation about this
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He needs to check his ego
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