What do you do if you want some loving but your partner isn’t in the mood?

[Pinay_ako]

Do you try to tease them to get them in the mood? Or you sulk and leave them alone? Or kiss them and hug them because you love them anyways? And maybe next time 🥰

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This isn’t a personal question 🤣

[Serenity_87]

oh gosh i could just go on and on and on on this one!! This is my area a expertise right here haha due to many years of a dead marriage, i learned and tried everything out there, found what worked, didn't work, etc. All men are different tho.. and same with females lol some of my suggestions could scare certain females of while others would be totally up for it. If u ever wanna talk about this for real u should DM me ok? Oh, and different people have different love languages.. kisses and hugs and affection is for those with the affectionate love language. I think there are 6 or 8? Mine isn't affection, therefore... when my ex husband tried reaching out to me in that way it pushed me away further sadly. But he learned about the different love languages and that actually did help a lot in some ways. Find out ur mans love language, then u will know how to satisfy it.. thats my appropriate, public answer lol the true answer i won't even say unless u DM me and really wanna get into it k :) good luck

[bananathunder]

haha good answer ;)

[beebella]

I'll just have to rub my own booty, I guess. 😔

[spartan55]

I'm sorry what? 😳

[Guardian45]

Ask for help!😂

[Fuentes]

Or you can hit up Fuentes I'm only 35 mins away I think if theirs no traffic lol

[Man-O-Metal]

If a girl wants to get a man in the mood (now this is just me, so it may not apply to most guys), it's best to give'em some sugar. Touch him, rub him (like on his chest and thighs) while kissing his cheek and neck. Then either interlock fingers and hold his hand or place his hand on your thigh or waist. That's just what would work on me. Other guys are different and may require you to do other things for/to them.

[Pudsmucker]

To get somebody's attention I'd probably do a strip tease. Maybe dance naked in front of my partner. And if that's not working I will come over and massage her tits. And give her a long provocative kiss.

[Pinay_ako]

Do a Magic Mike! 🙌

[Pudsmucker]

Absolutely

[Daniela1982]

Just play them this song to get them "in the mood." That's what Grandpa used to do to get Grandma to start swing dancing into the bedroom.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/6vOUYry_5Nw

[Bailey0506]

I don't think there's anything wrong with trying to tease them to see if they end up getting in the mood. If that doesn't work, just hug and kiss them because I still love them anyways - I can wait until next time. However, if it's really bad and I need some release, I can always do it solo when I'm on my own.

[HazyDaze63]

There is no reason to sulk over it. People are entitled to feel or not feel the same way as me at any given time. In a good relationship sex is as much about emotional bonding as it is about physical pleasure. If you are only looking for the physical aspect, treat it like laundry. It's a small load, just do it by hand.

[AssholeNumberOne]

HAA!

[VIVANT]

Ehh sex isn’t lOving to me so no big deal… if I wanted to cuddle and they didn’t want to I’d just go away. it’s hard for me to initiate physical affection (not sex, sex is easy) so it’s unlikely I’d do so anyhow but if I did and they weren’t into it, I’m out. I’d probably feel humiliated for trying (not that I think there’s anything wrong with it objectively) and premed to them and myself I didn’t want anything anyhow — I was just trying to be nice. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I can understand one or a couple of nights of not desiring sexual activity because sometimes we just aren't in the mood for it so I can handle that, but it can't be longer than that.

Withholding sex from your man or woman isn't for a extended time isn't right.

[smilelots]

show them respect and if you can talk about it, till we know how the other is feeling or going through we may come to the wrong conclusions.. that is why communication is very high of the list of what we both need to be able to do as partners and friends.

[dynamicyandere]

If they’re going through something stressful or if we recently had a conflict, then I focus on emotional support and cheering them up.


But, it’s not one of those things… I get them in the mood. 😉

[NathanDavis]

I know how to find all those buttons...

but I also know that look that says "definitely, no" lmao...

and then I just act accordingly

[VanillaSalt]

I want it ima get it! I haven’t been told no in a while but generally I’m a good persuader. That being said there’s times she’s been adamant in which case there’s free porn everywhere.

[melanieeeB]

Mostly nothing sexual haha
in the last relationship, I just kept scratching his back or like going through his hair and just cuddle him, until we both frll asleep

[Guardian45]

I'm sorry.

[melanieeeB]

For what? Lol

[Guardian45]

I just thought that you would feel extremely frustrated. I would.

[melanieeeB]

No sex isn't everything in life and I rather cuddle and also it was not that often the case but sometimes you're stressed and just not always in the mood and that's okay

[Guardian45]

I'm hypersexual, so that wouldn't cut it for ne.

[melanieeeB]

Ohh okay I understand

[LazerBean]

Unless we are physically unwell we never refuse eachother and can always conjure up the mood.

[Andres77]

Try to determine why and fix the problem.
Her mood tends to get better or her cramps decrease in intensity when she cums so I'll give her oral and expect nothing back. If she snaps out of it, fine. If not, I'll wait for tomorrow.

[Jamie05rhs]

I assume by "loving" you mean sex?

I will settle for a kiss.

And if she doesn't want a kiss, I will settle for a hug.

And if she doesn't want a hug, I will just give her puppy dog eyes and sulk away. 😔😌

[Jamie05rhs]

Or, we could just do something else together. Lol

[Kittykay_45]

Back massages lol get some smelly good lotion start at the shoulders and make your way down. But make sure the back massage is worth it cause then it becomes a known trick and won’t work. Get candles to add effectiveness points

[Faith18letsgo]

I usually tell them explicit things I want us to do to each other, tell them about a sexy dream I had, or ask them on a date.

[MrPickles13]

Honestly I would just kiss and cuddle with them and even offer to do something nice like cook for them or draw them a bath or give them a massage for no other reason but because I cared about / love them.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I put on porn and wack off... she can watch, or get in the mood.

[EaterPeter]

Let's try to make it personal 🙂 what would you do?

[Pinay_ako]

I’d sit on his lap facing him and start kissing his face and make out with him. He won’t resist that

[EaterPeter]

He better not 🙃

[EaterPeter]

Thanks for like!

[Chazmatazz269]

I’m a man, so i masturbate. Everything else is a crime of some sort or another.

[AviatorTom]

I don't force things. If I am really in need, I take care of myself.