What do you do if you want some loving but your partner isn’t in the mood?

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Do you try to tease them to get them in the mood? Or you sulk and leave them alone? Or kiss them and hug them because you love them anyways? And maybe next time 🥰

Serenity_87 · Accepted Answer

oh gosh i could just go on and on and on on this one!! This is my area a expertise right here haha due to many years of a dead marriage, i learned and tried everything out there, found what worked, didn't work, etc. All men are different tho.. and same with females lol some of my suggestions could scare certain females of while others would be totally up for it. If u ever wanna talk about this for real u should DM me ok? Oh, and different people have different love languages.. kisses and hugs and affection is for those with the affectionate love language. I think there are 6 or 8? Mine isn't affection, therefore... when my ex husband tried reaching out to me in that way it pushed me away further sadly. But he learned about the different love languages and that actually did help a lot in some ways. Find out ur mans love language, then u will know how to satisfy it.. thats my appropriate, public answer lol the true answer i won't even say unless u DM me and really wanna get into it k :) good luck

beebella · Accepted Answer

I'll just have to rub my own booty, I guess. 😔

Man-O-Metal · Accepted Answer

If a girl wants to get a man in the mood (now this is just me, so it may not apply to most guys), it's best to give'em some sugar. Touch him, rub him (like on his chest and thighs) while kissing his cheek and neck. Then either interlock fingers and hold his hand or place his hand on your thigh or waist. That's just what would work on me. Other guys are different and may require you to do other things for/to them.

Pudsmucker · Accepted Answer

To get somebody's attention I'd probably do a strip tease. Maybe dance naked in front of my partner. And if that's not working I will come over and massage her tits. And give her a long provocative kiss.

Daniela1982 · Answer

Just play them this song to get them "in the mood." That's what Grandpa used to do to get Grandma to start swing dancing into the bedroom.

Bailey0506 · Answer

I don't think there's anything wrong with trying to tease them to see if they end up getting in the mood. If that doesn't work, just hug and kiss them because I still love them anyways - I can wait until next time. However, if it's really bad and I need some release, I can always do it solo when I'm on my own.

HazyDaze63 · Answer

There is no reason to sulk over it. People are entitled to feel or not feel the same way as me at any given time. In a good relationship sex is as much about emotional bonding as it is about physical pleasure. If you are only looking for the physical aspect, treat it like laundry. It's a small load, just do it by hand.

VIVANT · Answer

Ehh sex isn’t lOving to me so no big deal… if I wanted to cuddle and they didn’t want to I’d just go away. it’s hard for me to initiate physical affection (not sex, sex is easy) so it’s unlikely I’d do so anyhow but if I did and they weren’t into it, I’m out. I’d probably feel humiliated for trying (not that I think there’s anything wrong with it objectively) and premed to them and myself I didn’t want anything anyhow — I was just trying to be nice. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

I can understand one or a couple of nights of not desiring sexual activity because sometimes we just aren't in the mood for it so I can handle that, but it can't be longer than that.

Withholding sex from your man or woman isn't for a extended time isn't right.

smilelots · Answer

show them respect and if you can talk about it, till we know how the other is feeling or going through we may come to the wrong conclusions.. that is why communication is very high of the list of what we both need to be able to do as partners and friends.

dynamicyandere · Answer

If they’re going through something stressful or if we recently had a conflict, then I focus on emotional support and cheering them up.

But, it’s not one of those things… I get them in the mood. 😉

NathanDavis · Answer

I know how to find all those buttons... but I also know that look that says "definitely, no" lmao...  and then I just act accordingly

VanillaSalt · Answer

I want it ima get it! I haven’t been told no in a while but generally I’m a good persuader. That being said there’s times she’s been adamant in which case there’s free porn everywhere.

melanieeeB · Answer

Mostly nothing sexual haha  in the last relationship, I just kept scratching his back or like going through his hair and just cuddle him, until we both frll asleep

LazerBean · Answer

Unless we are physically unwell we never refuse eachother and can always conjure up the mood.

Andres77 · Answer

Try to determine why and fix the problem.
Her mood tends to get better or her cramps decrease in intensity when she cums so I'll give her oral and expect nothing back. If she snaps out of it, fine. If not, I'll wait for tomorrow.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I assume by "loving" you mean sex?

I will settle for a kiss.

And if she doesn't want a kiss, I will settle for a hug.

And if she doesn't want a hug, I will just give her puppy dog eyes and sulk away. 😔😌

Kittykay_45 · Answer

Back massages lol get some smelly good lotion start at the shoulders and make your way down. But make sure the back massage is worth it cause then it becomes a known trick and won’t work. Get candles to add effectiveness points

Faith18letsgo · Answer

I usually tell them explicit things I want us to do to each other, tell them about a sexy dream I had, or ask them on a date.

MrPickles13 · Answer

Honestly I would just kiss and cuddle with them and even offer to do something nice like cook for them or draw them a bath or give them a massage for no other reason but because I cared about / love them.

EaterPeter · Answer

Let's try to make it personal 🙂 what would you do?

Dnice1 · Answer

I'd cuddle with him then once he's calm I'll touch him in ways to get his engine going or just place his hands on my boobs.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

I’m a man, so i masturbate. Everything else is a crime of some sort or another.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

I put on porn and wack off... she can watch, or get in the mood.

AviatorTom · Answer

I don't force things. If I am really in need, I take care of myself.

Jerre · Answer

My FWBs and I always text one another so I always know who is in the mood and who is not. Rarely is a friends with benefits not in the mood for a good fuck.

Avadarling · Answer

Tease them to get them in the mood most definitely yup yes

Luopio27 · Answer

No means no, or sexual assault charges. This is the reason we have porn and ability to masturbate.

TotallyAlmost · Answer

Go find some place quiet and rub one out of course.

driven159 · Answer

can't make someone thats not in the mood and if you did it would not be good loven

DevinAM · Answer

Any physical contact, such as hugs would have to do for right then in that case.

Bratsondanielle · Answer

For me personally I go to a bar and hook up. We have an open marriage

Agape93 · Answer

Wait until they are or call someone over who is in the mood.

bootieclapper9000 · Answer

you are always horny lol

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

I'm not fussy. I start without 'em :D

spartan55 · Answer

Excuse myself and go break one off.

dudeinohio · Answer

I just go without and am understanding

ChiTown33 · Answer

Not get loving I guess. 🤣

DudeDiligence · Answer

That's what porn is for.

Vinni89 · Answer

Start with a massage and get to business

wiltonaimes · Answer

Like what answer do you want? Rape? Seems pretty self-evident one respects their wishes

Xtendable · Answer

Kisses and hugs - anything is better than nothing

nawtee_me · Answer

Masturbate, masturbate and more masturbating

jimmy2 · Answer

That when you find a way or relive yourself

dolemite89 · Answer

find another whale to walk through 😝

Slim57 · Answer

I keep trying usually

JakeS00 · Answer

I guess to bed lol.

genericname85 · Answer

just jack off.

Hulk30 · Answer

i just keep it movin

Zolly99999 · Answer

Get another partner 🤔🤔🤔😁😁

Rahul8124 · Answer

Kiss hug and more...

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