Husband made rude comments about my vagina, but he still wants sex?

[MissiJ94]

My (28F) husband (31M) were in a rather heated argument the other day and as I was trying to get my point across he switched topics in the middle of me talking to how he believes I am unhygienic because I dont shower every single day (but I keep myself clean in between showers every 2-3 days) and said that I "smell and taste bad and who would want to have their face or even fingers to smell like that." We've been together for 5 years and this has never been mentioned once before, I know my feminine health is important so I make sure that my situation is always situated after an exboyfriend said the same thing to me in the past (which I had told him about). But now a few days later he keeps trying to get me into bed after a half hearted apology telling me "the bigger part of my hygiene comment was & is that even when it's been a day or two in between showers I've still been happy to go down on you despite my overall issues with oral in general and I'm genuinely sorry for the way it came out." How does that even go with what he said? I'm just tired of thinking that there is always something wrong with me...

[WonderBell99]

I think your boyfriend does not like oral and feminine hygiene is important. You have to shower everyday, even if you’re skipping days, you should at least wash your armpits and vagina everyday. Also, the vagina has a slight musky, NON unpleasant smell. A slight smell is okay, but any foul or bad odor must immediately get checked by a doctor.

He could have told you that you need to keep yourself clean in a more polite way. Have a conversation with him and discuss your likes and dislikes about sexual stuff. It sounds like he does not like oral but is compromising for you to keep you happy.

[Anonymous]

I know that in a relationship sometimes arguments happen and that’s healthy to a degree and but also it’s not OK to say something that you told him in confidence, that he now says in a heated argument. Tell him to go get some help and that you’ll be waiting and that you don’t wanna talk to him until he does. Having your feelings hurt creates trust being lost between you two. Sorry doesn’t cut it anymore, he’s gotta go do the work and figure himself out. Can you send her stand body hurt you and it’s gonna take a lot longer than a simple sorry for you to get over this. He sounds like an escalating jerk. Better yet go stay at your friends place for a weekend we can figure himself out and see what it’s like to not have you because when you miss treats you like that that’s what’s gonna happen he’s gonna lose you

[crossdressingrihno]

You probably do need better hygiene. What he said was rude but let's keep in mind that he's been holding it in for 5 years and it was in the middle of a heated argument so I think he deserves at least a little bit of a pass. That said if you're still upset at him like totally understand and wouldn't hold it against you.

Honestly he should be more open about your hygiene problems if he notices it instead of waiting till you're in heated argument and it hurts someone.

[Anonymous]

Are you sure you are clean, take care of your body hygiene completely?
And so, try to use some nice decents for ur body.
And then, dress well.
After these even still he will try to complain, so there may be some other problems like he has some problems in himself.

Don't feel bad, u are a sweet woman, you don't need to be sad.
The nice part of this situation, he wishes you deliriously again and again. This is cute.

[Apple1996]

You should be washing down there at the very least once a day if not more like a few times a day. Gotta invest in a bidet or something if your not trying to full on shower so you can clean down there.

[love_conquers_lust]

Bidets are the shit. Punny.

[matchrestore]

My wife and I have bidets, and the one in our master bath even has a "feminine hygiene" mode. It's great for pre-oral cleanup.

[love_conquers_lust]

@matchrestore I haven’t done the hard math. But they are probably environmentally friendly too. It APPEARS to increase water usage, but if you use it correctly, it may actually save water in reducing the number of flushes you need to drain wads and wads of toilet paper. The never ending wipe movements<-You can cut down on the frequency of these by cutting HFCS out of your diet, only consume fructose in dilute amounts mixed with lots of fiber and water like in fruits.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like maybe he just doesn't like oral. The vagina naturally isn't going to smell great, and women have to be careful what they wash with as douching can lead to imbalances that can lead to infection, also scented products can lead to skin irritation. The smells of sex, are not always pleasant, but that doesn't mean it's unhygenic, maybe there was something else that was bothering him and he didn't know how to say it.

[MissiJ94]

I dont douche because its horrible for vaginas, but I do keep everything in order by making sure it's all washed properly. And I've been to the obgyn recently with a complete bill of vaginal health, I've also gotten so self conscious because of his comment that I've checked to see it it's TRUE myself and I gotta say I smell and taste very similar to the females I've been with in the past so I know I dont smell or taste bad.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

[Wubs3000]

You should probably take showers more than 3 times a week but sounds like he said a half truth while angry and exaggerated. He probably means it a little bit but also probably just doesn't like oral but compromises for you.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Try washing, at least that part a little bit more than just once every 2 to 3 days. I mean hookers wash before and after sex, there's a reason for that.

[Alwayreckles93]

Don't be surprised he is cheating on you with a much younger woman. That's a symptom.

[Kissskissbangbang]

Wow. Even if you did have an odor down there, he shouldn't have brought it up during an argument. That's extremely hurtful, petty and disrespectful.

[Andres77]

You should shower EVERY DAY.

[slatyb]

OMG that's ugly. How many children?

[ArtemisSilver]

Sounds like you should have better hygiene tbh

[serious_miss419]

If you can’t read her question then you shouldn’t answer it

[ArtemisSilver]

I read it and just because her husband is back pedaling doesn't mean it's not true. Also fuck you bitch, I don't recall asking for your 2 cents.

[Andres77]

@artemissilver
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[serious_miss419]

Her husbands temper and yours make a perfect example of men being ass holes and why women don’t want your kind

[Anonymous]

That is disgusting. You deserve better.

[scooogy]

Make him face your vagina literally 👿

[Guy13]

So what…

[Guy13]

He owns that scoot-scoot anyway.

[Guy13]

You can call him pencil ✏️ dick… or Igor the ugly penis…

[Guy13]

You ought to make him work for it though. It might be tim to exercise the always wanted to try kink🤷🏻‍♂️🤷🏻‍♂️

[Anonymous]

No one likes a stinky cooter...

[RuthlessAggression]

Yikes

[Iron_Man]

Talk to him about it

[Anonymous]

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