He only wants oral along with self pleasure but says vaginal sex hurts. Is he lying to me?

[Beckyshair]

I met him 8 years ago and he moved into my house. After the first year he started to show less interest in me personally but we were already living together. I didn't gain weight or change my career. I did however finalize my divorce. We used to have sex regularly and I mean almost daily so when he started giving excuses I began to question (in my mind) his loyalty. He was too tired, wasn't in the mood, he had a lot on his mind, had a bad day at work, etc. It turned into him not being able to have an oragasm when we did occasionally do it. Yet he always liked pleasuring himself on my chest or face along with oral. Sigh.. Eventually we just stopped trying anything else. So this past week, out of the blue, he let me know that having intercourse is painful to him. To me it seems more like another excuse. Am I wrong? I haven't really said much about it to him and don't feel the need to at this point. I feel like a roommate.

[serious_miss419]

If he isn’t maturely communicating with you and working with you on this, then somethings bothering him and he is failing on his side of relationship. If you’ve done all that you can, move on!
Not saying move on because of sexual reasons but move on because he isn’t communicating or trying to work with you on this. A relationship is a two way street and it takes two when there is good and bad times. Guys suck at communicating anyhow so don’t hold on to him too long if you don’t feel happy 😃

[laurieluvsit]

For the relationship, this sounds like a dead end street.

For the sex, if he is having pain, he needs to see a doctor right away. If he does have a solvable problem, maybe this will help resolve the sex issue.

[spartan55]

I've never heard a guy say that, ever. And why now? All of a sudden it hurts when it was fine before. Easy way to break that bullshit is to tell him to go to the doctor to find out what's wrong (of course he won't), then ask him what is wrong and give him every opportunity to tell you. If he doesn't, or if you don't like the answer, LEAVE. If it were me, I'd be gone already.

[Arieshyper]

Yep I said the same thing he is probably cheating and promising the other woman that she is all his.

[spartan55]

It could be, but don't make the mistake of jumping to that conclusion. Let everything play out and give him enough proverbial rope to hang himself. Maybe he's cheating, but that's not what is important at this point. His actions and bullshit about sex are.

[spartan55]

Thanks for the MHO

[TheMajesticKing777]

If he doesn't have that tight foreskin problem then I don't see how sex can be painful to him unless his penis is sore from too much masturbation or you are too tight to even penetrate but considering y'all had sex before that is most likely off the table, but who knows, maybe there's another logical reason, most likely an answer you won't find here tho

[Arieshyper]

Sorry I think he's having sex elsewhere and telling them he's not with you. You should make him an appointment with a doctor. Act very concerned like you think it may be prostate cancer. Go to the appointment with him. Then if he don't go or makes excuses get rid of his cheating ass

[MTC29]

While it may not be beyond the relm of possibility, it sounds like an excuse to me.

[Stevefiveo]

Yeah, I've never heard of that one. It sounds like an excuse. It is 100% his job to sexually please you. So, tell him to do his job or you'll find someone who can. Good luck.

[whirled_up_girl]

It's possible, he should talk to his doctor about it, if they don't know the cause maybe they could refer him to a urologist.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like BS to me unless he has a curved dick or some other condition

[Zealconsumesme]

Get the mallet and anvil ready, we gotta flatten out his sword

[BLP11520]

Something smells fishy to me? Since when is pussy painful? smh

[dudeinohio]

Yeah... sounds like an excuse to. me.

[jimmy2]

Sounds like it. Wow that a butthole

[Wise4myage]

He sounds very lame.

[Anonymous]

Yes, that sounds like a total lie. Move on.