Why don't a lot of you man up and be real and honest?

[Anonymous]

If you don't want to communicate with a person, why not just say it and not make excuses. Y'all make it hard. I don't even want to open up anymore... and men be wondering why I be looking so mean. Now I really have a reason to be detached and nonchalant.

[shoeboxcerealcard]

Stop generalizing. I know you aren't but change your wording.
If you were a male people would be calling you an Incel right now.

You are in harmony with the men you let into your life. We can't blame other people. Even if it is their fault. Losers blame others for their misfortune and you're not a loser. Learn how to become a better judge of character.

If someone is distancing themselves from you they are really doing you a favor. Run from that person. They are telling you non-verbally who they are. Start picking and stop wanting to simply be picked.

[XXTruthfulOgrexx]

Men aren't wondering, we just don't care. If someone is exhibiting behaviors such as being nonchalant and detached, we just figure she not interested and move on. That simple.

If this is happening with the majority of men your having experiences with, sorry but your the common denominator here.

if your being approached but meeting them with a wet mop or bulldog personality, why would they want to communicate at all?

[Asker]

Well they stick around when I am nonchalant and detached…. but the I am interested and want to really get to know them, they want to run.

[Serkee]

I'm not sure why people do that, but it's not just a guy thing. It's pretty common with both men and women, it's one of the reasons I'm scared of relationships.

[9in_Serpent]

Not sure what the context of this is but i think most people who dont want to be honest are afraid of being to blunt and hurting the other person’s feelings

[jahaims]

Why don't you qualify for a quality man? It's up to you to let in the people you want into your life. Pick better

[Asker]

I have and the shit don’t work

[spartan55]

@asker
Of course, it's not your fault.

[Asker]

@Spartan55 I really do not in the mood. I honestly have a lot going on. I have tried many times. I have given up many times, stop looking to see if it works. When I do meet a person things be good and they go down hill…due to miscommunication and misunderstanding and me misreading a person…it’s my fault shit turn up side down. I really thought would be different, but it turn the same. Texting is my worst enemy because I rather speak on the phone or in person.

[SotiCoto]

"Be real and honest" she says... while marked Anonymous.

[FunkyMonkee]

I can't really BE more honest.

[Akam93]

I wonder that myself.