How Do You Know Your Partner Can Be Potentially Abusive?

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inspired by  they wish they were us , where her long time crush, the sweet boy the neighborhood is the killer.  It got me thinking... That unless and until we don't look deeply into how somebody treats when they're angry, we'd never know how dangerous they are

meetkitty123 · Accepted Answer

There are subtle signs.
Does he ever respond to an idea or action of your as thats dumb or what are you stupid?
This is often a major overlooked RED flag
How does he treat hired help such as a custodian or a waitress. Does he have an attitude or thats there job not mine sort of attitude when he made a mess
How he speaks about his mothers or other family members look for negativity. Putdowns
how does the individual reacts to all animals is he rough with them?
Does he joke about being so mad he could strangle something or when he is mad does he say he feels like doing something violent

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

Narcissist, controlling, jealousy issues, violent fits, breaks stuff, rude, makes you feel nobody else can have you or will love you… and you’re nothing without them

Bluemax · Accepted Answer

BIGGEST CLUE...

They brag about being violent. Even when they brag about how it was in self defense. The fact they feel compelled to tell everyone who will listen indicates to me they *enjoy* being violent. It's something I have noticed about most men who turned out to be abusive.

Second big clue. They want you all to themselves... every. waking. hour. They are suspicious the moment you say you are going out. WITH WHOM? HOW LONG? WHERE?

Part2603 · Accepted Answer

It's actually the easiest thing in the world. Serious question: If women are supposedly the more "emotionally intelligent" sex, how come they're always dating abusive assholes?

Kaneki05 · Answer

Well that's the whole point my kira I could be a Killer without anyone knowing hehe.

Freyke · Answer

Everyone has that potential. We only know if someone is actually abusive when they do something abusive or at least questionable. You just keep your eyes on those and don't let yourself be sweet talked to make you forget it.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

Listen to what that person says and how s/he is behaving, when drunk. When the social guardedness comes down, the true character gets revealed.

countrygirl8754 · Answer

I never seen it I will look into it and usually u can't tell until it to late to noticed and that what I'm scared of is being in an abusive relationship.

Hanrej · Answer

Watch how they treat the people they claim to love. Even if they're not abusive you can often tell if they put themselves first at all times. They're dangerous and can be abusive when you get into an argument.

RobEurope · Answer

They will train you to be a victim for them. Create unhealthy dependence. Constantly cross your boundaries. Until you feel you aren't allowed exist anymore.

anton_dee · Answer

Anger issues, trust issues, lot of jealousy, dominating...

IsoUser · Answer

Well a background check wouldn't hurt. But seriously in all honesty, how could you predict such a horrible thing?

Tstrbrainer · Answer

I have no idea. Maybe the way they handles tense situations?

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

When it happens. Everyone can be if you push them far enough.

Waldoe · Answer

I think everyone has the potential for violence if pushed far enough... Men and Women... luckily Men are tougher, so not as many Women go to jail...

QuietRunner · Answer

their criminal record is one thing

EnglishEuropean · Answer

Anyone can be potentially abusive.

Guardian45 · Answer

Trust your GUT. DON'T ignore red flags.

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