How do open relationships work?
Couples in open relationships want what they get in a traditional relationship such as marraige, kids, home, companionship, love etc but want to be free to f*ck other people. Usually these relationships don't last, how can they. Eventually feelings get hurt, jealousy occurs or feeling for someone else causes a split.
Men will cheat with other women when the opportunity arises but when women do it they are looking for a new partner better than thd one they have.
Open relationships... really, just say we are friends with benefits but don’t tell me you love me and 3 other guys
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We're not open sexually but she has her friends and I have a few.
Communication is so vital. Knowing that no one else is a threat to the joy that you have with your partner is absolutely critical. Understanding that no ONE person throughout your whole life can meet ALL of your needs is just basic practicality.
But your partner should have a sacred and secure space. So communication will help you find the boundaries. I gave my wife (then fiance) all the freedom in the world, and she took full advantage of it. Lots of stories there. After our wedding vows we've both been faithful, even though she invited a friend and we had three FMF threesomes. Fun. I'm not interested in any more. To be fair I offered that I'd be okay with a MFM threesome when she wanted...7:years ago. She hasn't taken me up on that yet. We'll see.
I love her, she loves me. Some bodily fluids and grunting doesn't change our love. Flirting and witty banter doesn't change our love. That she is my priority... that will always be, but she can't do EVERYTHING... nor can I for her. But we do so much for each other. Our boundaries are no physical contact with anyone, ever. We are the priority for each other... and if we have time to chat with others, so be it. But we'll both drop the chat to answer any call.
It's not perfect, it's worked for us. My wife does enjoy hearing about what other women want. I enjoy knowing that my wife is found to be very desirable by so many men... and she chooses me every day. I don't control her, she controls herself, as do I.
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Honesty.
For example: I have a friend who is polyamorous and his girlfriend slept around with his best friend. He didn’t care that she slept with him, he just cared that they were sneaky about it and pretended they weren’t having a good time with each other.
Never been in one but that's easy. Faithful means remaining loyal and steadfast. Is is not loyal if both of you have agreed upon terms that suits your needs and are sticking to it? Therefore if you've both agreed to been open then that is loyalty between each other and by extension faithful.
It's all about the verbal contract, just like in a regular monogamous relationship. The rules get set, so just play by them... otherwise, YOU ARE CHEATING. For instance in a swinger relationship if private pillow talk isn't allowed, then texting in private is obviously going to be a problem... and if that problem goes undiscovered, it will just get worse and worse until it does.
Usually you have a set of rules on how this works for you. Usually you can date or have sex with others and it's not cheating. I am in one with another woman. We spend all our time together. If she is busy with work or school then I can be with someone else if I want.
Because there's a difference being in an open relationship is different than friends with benefits because you actually show the person love and not just friendship you just love more than one person it's just that's just how it works it's polyamorous lifestyle!
I have no idea how that is done in a male female relationship. What happens when the girl says "Guess what Honey? We are pregnant!". Do they break open the champagne and chat about whether it was the black guy or white guy or the Asian guy... wasn't he a little terrier!. Well I suppose we'll have a nice color surprise at the birth.".
An Australian Prime Minister contender (who failed) claimed that when his wife decided she was lesbian, she ended up divorcing him because he got more girls then she did. So divorce was just out of jealousy on her part. So maybe wife swapping is the answer to maintain a stable open relationship.
Gay guys seem to routinely do this without a problem but then neither of them are going to get pregnant.
Rules. We have a semi open relationship as We have a “third” that we have threesomes with.. our rule is we are allowed to have sex one on one with the “third” but that’s it. Neither of us actually have yet!
Isn't the purpose of open relationships like permission to not be faithful to your partner? But like tell them about it or something?
I never understood these types of relationship. I personally think they are doomed for future failure and instability. I think it may be fun, cool, hip, and daring in the near and maybe intermediate future, but long-term they will not last.
In an open relationship, you and your partner agree that it's okay to have sex with others, and you always make sure that you come home to your partner.
With communication and understood boundaries. I don't care if you're 10/10 perfect, if she says no to you, the matter is settled and you can take a hike. Same in her case.
We are faithful because of our trust in each other
“Faithful” takes on a different meaning in open relationships. A couple needs to establish new terms that entirely replace the boundaries governing “infidelity” as most of us understand it. Too many circumvent that conversation or short-change it entirely. Without that conversation in full, open relationships are as doomed as traditional relationships when a third and/or fourth party gets involved.
It’s not something I would ever do but I believe there are rules.
Falling in love is probably one of them.
We have a pseudo open relationship where we date someone together. Trust and communication go a long way and everyone is happier for it. It's wonderful.
u They don’t even if you call it open it’s still cheating
Communication is the key here. While I am not in an open relationship. Communication is the backbone of any kind of relationship.
An open relationship is communicating with your partner that you're dating and having sex with such and such person. In other words theirs no secrets. It's not about being faithful.
They don't. Humans are not psychologically wired for it.
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