How to do a basic background check in the girl?

[nikomarimo]

what to do when you want to know more about her, when you want to make sure she’s a good option, things to pay attention to

separate question.

what questions to ask to dig deeper without being too obvious.

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+1 y

i mean on the girl, like social media and things like that. obviously she can’t know, so she can’t easily change

[dynamicyandere]

I usually assess girls by having conversations and interactions with them and I observe a lot of things and take mental notes.


The deeper your conversations go and the more she opens up to you, the less she can bullsh*t. You can sense sincerity and you can sense smokescreens and walls the more you get to know someone. If you find red flags or dealbreakers, you can break things off. If not, you can keep going.


I usually just get to know a girl better and better and better and then break things off if there are any obvious red flags or dealbreakers.

[nikomarimo]

best answer so far, we only text rn so there is not much to do, but i know for fact she likes me and want to have a relationship in the future. she’s just quite a bit younger than me but is a good person so she will make a good future. it’s just this younger generation has its own things that i don’t like or willing to accept. i will keep moving forward, but not too fast. i will try to go at the pace where i’m able to figure her out more and more, shape her up a bit. also she will be satisfied since we are moving further

[dynamicyandere]

Thanks! Yeah, it’ll be a matter of figuring her out more and more and really understanding her and seeing how she ticks. Getting philosophical is also hugely helpful too if you get in conversations to see her view on life, relationships, morals, values, priorities, and those kinds of things. One thing to keep in mind though is looking for discrepancies between her actions and words. I’ve also been with a girl who knew exactly what to say but would never actually follow through with what she claimed to believe.

[Anonymous]

Check facebook obviously, but when you search her name... click photos instead of people, this will show you all photos she is tagged in.

Check for slutty photos and cheap attention whoring shit and make sure she isn’t a valueless whore. You can also use those connections to look through her friends pages and collect names...

then goto google and search those names, look for tiktok, instagram, and vsco accounts that might show you of she is a whore or not.

You can also goto vsco and instagram and search her name and see if anything comes up.

If her accounts are private, she will always have a dumb friend who has an open profile.

If You discover that she has an onlywhores account, drop her like the shit she is.

Attention whores will be easy to find online.

[jennifer_bloom]

Get a friend to do it with a fake profile or an unknown one.

[nikomarimo]

i already have all their social media. what do i have to pay attention to?

[jennifer_bloom]

Their friends, if a woman does not have ugly friends or poor friends she might be superficial, or if she does not have a single black or Indian friend out of hundreds, she might be racist, if her family (same last name) is not on her friends list, she might have a bad family life. If none of her friends are in her current city, it might be used purely for display or for conversation. If she does not have any same race friends, or attractive friends, she might be trying to eliminate competitors in dating.

[nikomarimo]

she has around 130 followers on insta and 50 close friends on insta spam. she posts a lot of pictures on her main instagram story. she has snapchat with over 200,000 snapscore, she says she talks to friends a lot

[Anonymous]

Invading their privacy is never a good option.

[nikomarimo]

i don’t want to invade their privacy, i know that girls do that for guys they like. they gather information that they might have not told them

[Guy13]

See if she and how does what she says she will do. Following through tells you much. Lots of observation...

[nikomarimo]

i already do that, trying to match the actions with words

[Guy13]

If you are too tight... question too much... then she'll know you are "stalking" her and likely get pissed and never trust you. You do not know until you know. Don't go crazy about it or she will detect it. You simply have to Risk and hold on for the ride... Smile a lot please.

[nikomarimo]

yeah i totally agree with you

[Guy13]

Good luck with it... Just Go For It BUT with both eyes open...

[nikomarimo]

thank you

[nikomarimo]

no pink glasses this time

[exitseven]

The internet can be very helpful. You can get info about age, residence, employment, marital status, children, and many other things that are helpful. You can also do a stakeout and watch her for a day or two. See if she already has a boyfriend,

[nikomarimo]

we have been talking for some time, she is a good girl. i don’t know why she does some stuff.

[Adronicus]

Hate me if you want to but I check the med's situation & her relationship with her family, how she dresses in public, character flaws, deception, her friends, ex's she's been with etc..

[nikomarimo]

i don’t hate you haha that’s a very good response

[Twalli]

You can look at her social media and, for a price, there are websites that can search for any mention of person or their family online where you can find out a lot more.

[In_Trance]

Why don't you just talk to her and get accurate information directly?

[nikomarimo]

you can do that, but girls that like you will usually fit their answers to make it sound better

[In_Trance]

So, third party potentially inaccurate information is the way to go?

[nikomarimo]

their social media is not third party. sources like that

[In_Trance]

Just don't be back here in months to come wondering why you have communication issues

[nikomarimo]

👍🏻

[Samantha_Kim]

There is nothing wrong with being obvious. Dare, be bold, ask her directly... show confidence