A girl with no experience?

[theshire121]

I have been wondering lately if it is a turnoff to like a girl with no experience in the dating field (or anything whatsoever). Would you think there is something wrong with said girl? For example, myself. I have no dating experience and I feel like when guys find out they are put off because maybe they'd think there must be something wrong with me for guys not to date me or that I'm really picky... I just haven't had really any opportunities to go on a date. I have a lot of guy friends and such but this doesn't help at all. Is this having no experience a determining factor of why guys don't see me as dating material?

[OpenClose]

I have your same problem, actually. So I'll help you out from this side of the perspective.

When it comes to guys, at least my kind of guys I suppose:

As far as attraction is concerned, we're either attracted to you yourself or we aren't. Your status has little or nothing to do with it. Heck if you're a decent girl and fairly attractive, which certainly seems like you so far, we don't think any farther than that, because anything more doesn't really matter.

If you have no experience in dating, we don't think "hmmm, there must be something wrong with her, so maybe I should avoid her."

We think "Yay, single!"

But yeah, I certainly have your same problem. I have experience in dating, now, but in my first relationship, I was the girl's, like, 16th partner, and she still expected ME to "take charge". ugh.

But yeah, I know what it's like to be lacking in opportunities. In engineering/math/physics, we have incredibly few girls. And in places where there ARE many more girls, any sign of interest is basically "inappropriate", or in others "unprofessional". Too many rules about when and where it's okay!

But yeah, since you're on the other side of that, it may seem like there isn't a lot of appropriate situations. But for a lot of guys, you'll probably find they don't care when, where, or how you show interest. They'll only focus on the fact that you ARE interested, and find out if they are interested, too.

Good Luck, Ma'am, I'm sure you'll see you don't have much to worry about!

[markml]

Since when is being picky a bad thing?

Short answer to your question: No.

Now, you have to in some way let guys know that you're willing to date them. We're not mind readers. Having many guy friends can actually send a confusing message, because other guys see this and either assume that you must have dated all the guys you know or wonder why you haven't. Guys are more likely to assume you have a lot of dating experience if they see a lot of guys hanging around you.

You're almost certainly making the wrong assumptions when you presume that guys don't see you as "dating material".

It's not easy asking a girl out. The thought of rejection is not pleasant. Undoubtedly, there's some guy you've met at some point or maybe even still know, who thought about trying to date you, but didn't want to risk the awkwardness of you saying no. It has nothing to do with you being "dating material" or how much dating experience you have.

How on earth would a guy know how much experience you have anyway? As I said, not mind readers...

[jayhawkX]

It would not bother me in the least nor would I see it as a turnoff. If I knew this prior to a date it might make me go all out for a extra fun date, instead of the typical dinner and a movie.

Don't worry though, you'll be fine. Your opportunities will come. It's better to be patient then to rush.

[Longshot]

Not for me. It's a question of whether I am interested in her and not whether she has had one or 100 dates. By the way, you are cute!

[kheserthorpe]

For guys who want to date, no. They might prefer it.

For guys who want to hook up, they're likely to assume you are not DTF. And on the off chance they did have sex with you, you'd probably not be casual afterwards.

[DeepBlue]

You obviously only lack experience because you've chosen not to date. Most guys will be surprised to hear it if you tell them (and there's no rule that you actually have to). I don't think it will pose any problems.

[Aaronax]

That is one way to look at it, but on the other hand, a lady that doesn't have a lot of experience makes it easier on a guy that doesn't either, because he doesn't have to live up to your past experiences.

[girl_perspective]

LOL. Love the way guys think

[ba62009089]

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