I hate my job, and I need to leave, but it would likely be the end of my relationship?

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My job should be a dream job, but changes in management and some horrible new coworkers have made the job unbearable. We have had multiple people quit in the last year because of how toxic it is. My job is also pretty public facing, so I get a lot of hate online. This all stems from poor management but I have become the face of the team and a lot of the hate is directed at me and I even received a death threat.

I recently had an opportunity for a great new job, that is in a similar field and is a significant pay bump but it would require me to move across the country. I know I need to take it if I get it, my current job is slowly killing me and I can’t remember the last time I was happy at work.

I have been dating my girlfriend for about a year and she would not be able to make the move for a variety of reasons, main reason is that many of her family members are not healthy and she is basically responsible for their care. My girlfriend has slowly been declining in mental and physical health since we started dating, which has also added to the stress I am under. I have tried everything I can to help and encourage her, but it’s just gotten worse.

I can’t seem to escape drama anywhere: work, online or in my relationship. I love my girlfriend, but she has medical crisis after medical crisis and it’s only gotten worse. It seems like she is at her lowest low, and quite frankly, so am I. She knows I have been interviewing for these jobs, but I am terrified that if I leave it will just cause her to spiral even further. I am so unhappy at my job that I have come to the conclusion that I need to leave at all costs. I guess I just need advice if people have gone through something similar where they moved for a new job and it ended the relationship?
I hate my job, and I need to leave, but it would likely be the end of my relationship?
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