What are your thoughts on compromises or sacrifices within relationships?

[Anonymous]

[LilyoftheLake]

Compromise shouldn't happen in a relationship. It usually involves leaving one side worse off. Rather, it should be approached from a "what's best for us" perspective, not what's best for each.

Then you come to a full-fledged agreement, not a compromise. You don't give something up, you each completely commit yourself to the good of the relationship, then see what that is.

[D_Bone_Steak]

That saying is over-glorified in my opinion. It's not always a good thing and can be very detrimental. I'm speaking from experience where the term "compromise" was only used so she could get what she wants. Basically with no benefit to me at all. I'm not saying it's 100% a bad idea... but damn.

It can be used for some straight-up bullshit... as a form of gaslighting, manipulation, and just greed. In my humble opinion, question a compromise harshly.

[OlderAndWiser]

Conflict is inevitable in every relationship and they cannot survive without compromise!

[1GoldTwins]

inevitable... It is inevitable, you don't just live your life now, you live alongside someone else, there will be changes and you need to work them out! Arguments aren't always a bad thing, it means you're growing.

[Phoenix98]

It's not possible to have a relationship and not compromise, bend or sacrifice in one way or another. It's gonna happen eventually otherwise the relationship will break because both of you are being to bull headed to think about each other and instead are thinking about yourselves.

But the compromises, sacrifice and bending should be mutual you should both be doing it just not one or the other.

[JayParris]

Compromise is good unless you're the only one giving up ground. Giving the other exactly what they want without getting anything in return isn't compromise.

[Smashingdoozy]

Compromises are healthy, depending on what they are. Sacrifices often lead to resentment

[Asker]

So, I do think both words are identical, at least to describe the same exact thing.

For example, pretend that you absolutely love eating a lot of twinkies, but upon getting into a relationship you find you cannot continue eating in such an unhealthy way for all sorts of reasons.

You find, to your surprise that while you’ve given up your binge eating of twinkies, the woman you’re with not only gives you more sex, but works out with you and eats well with you to facilitate an incredible lifestyle that you now enjoy more than when you were eating twinkies

Would you say that you sacrificed twinkies?

Yes

For whom? Yourself, your girlfriend, etc.

Would you also say that you compromised in your relationship?

Yes, also that.

You can kind of use both words.

[Smashingdoozy]

They're not the same thing. You can sacrifice something for many reasons other than other peoples feelings/thoughts/opinions, where as compromising is almost entirely based on a mutual understanding/agreement.

If someone is asking you to sacrifice something for them that isn't a compromise it's just being controlling.

[Asker]

Alright, difference of opinion that’s fine.

[NathanDavis]

to keep it simple...

compromise, yes...

sacrifice, no...

especially not sacrificing happiness on either or on both sides

[Guy13]

https://www.youtube.com/embed/k5uwtc63ZyA

No understand…

[midnightmoon05]

Part of a healthy, mature relationship. Without… one is selfish.

[Gent207]

It's the only way to move forward is to sacrifice a little and gain a lot

[HighValue]

Compromises have to go both ways, otherwise it will lead to resentment over time.

[FilmGuy93]

You have to compromise to make relationships work.

[AndrésC64]

If you aren't willing to make compromises or sacrifices, then you don't want relationship. You want to be a dictator.

[NeffexSelfMade]

not anymore

im correct they are wrong

end of story

[mooky06]

Compromises? Needed. Sacrifices? Damaging

[exitseven]

They are inevitable.