My boyfriend doesn’t make the bed - I’m mostly always the one doing it. It drives me insane because it’s so easy! You learn to do it when you’re like 5! So when I came home today and shock horror the bed was still left as it was this morning, I was livid. I even reminded him to do it (like his fricking mother, I know). Is this guy every going to mature and make the bed or should I cut my losses and leave? It’s a simple thing but it’s symbolic of other issues we have, like him not being able to stop his video game to pop to the shop for me (which is literally 30 seconds away downstairs). I’m just noticing a lot of mannerisms lately that suggest he forgets about my needs and focuses on his own. I ended up going to the shop myself for the can of cold coke I needed in this heat. He knew I’d had a b*tch of a commute home and yet he still made excuses for not being to get his work-from-home ass off the couch: he had to keep playing to get to a point he could save the game. Does any other woman feel unattracted to their partner when they play video games? Cos I do. I’m always second priority when it comes to that damn thing :(
Oh well, that's just how he is. No one's perfect, and once you get into a relationship you need to know and understand it.
Before getting into one, would be nice to ask yourself if you're okay with this person's imperfections. If you can be okay even with their bad habits.
Now, you need to decide if he's not making his bed and playing video games is something that you really can't stand or not.
But knowing that everyone and in every relationship will have imperfections, and your partner will always have some habits that will annoy you.
I get annoyed sometimes by even some of my parents habits lol.
Living with someone is bound to have lows and highs. It happens to the bests.
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What you see is what you get. Never assume anyone will change for you. Making that assumption will only lead to frustration and disappointment. Often, we overlook issues when a relationship is new, yet when the newness wears off, these overlooked issues become major irritants.
You say he learned how to make a bed when he was five. Were you there then? Could he not have learned at five that mom preferred making his bed, so it was done her way? He is showing you his preferences and priorities. You expect him to respect your preferences and priorities and then minimize his preferences and priorities. I'm not declaring either one of you right or wrong. I'm saying the two of you are just different. If the differences rub you the wrong way, then this isn't the relationship for you. I don't care how much you want your cat to bark, it's very unlikely to happen.
If he's in your age range then he won't change; those patterns are locked in. Imagining that you can change him, either by pleading or nagging, will only lead to anger and frustration... for both of you.
So you complain about how terrible he is, but you haven’t left. It’s less than likely you are going to make changes to your life that will help you not whine anymore whether that be leaving him or conversing with him - no offense. Why am I saying this? Because you want to complain to strangers instead of voicing your issues to him personally. That’s a first sign that more than likely you aren’t leaving a relationship that is making you miserable.
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YOu should get used to that because after you marry it is not going to change :-)
Do him a favor and leave. You’re a jerk and he deserves better.
Dump your boyfriend and date me.
Bye bye 👋 boyfriend is my advice
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