My fiances ex won't stop texting him what should I do?

[Cwilliams2695]

My fiance of 2 years had his daughter and I too care of her for a year and half and then he ripped from me and gave her back to her mother because she was being so malicious and then now originally they only once in awhile talked for updates on his daughter but this past week she messages him every single day complaining about money and her mother and stuff nothing regarding their daughter I don't know 🤷🏻‍♀️ what to say to him because I don't like it and he will just call me insecure always does when I speak up and so I don't know what to do I don't trust them because our first 6-7 months together they were together while we were and he pursued me I don't know know and then while I was 4 mo the pregnant they would meet up wherever he was working he claimed they weren't having intercourse though now we been together 2 and half years and went almost 2 years with her out of our lives for her to be back now what should I do? They chat a lot now but never inf root of me I feel like there is something else going on

[PrettyPriya]

You need to sit down and talk to him. Yes, I get that you have voiced your opinion in the past but maybe you didn't go about it the right way. Try not to approach it negatively but constructively. Sit down and talk about how it is effecting your relationship.

Point out that the future is with YOU and not her. An ex is an ex and should remain there. If it is really straining your relationship for you, he needs to respect that. It is one thing to remain cordial and in communication with people, including ex bfs/gfs but not to the point they would be chatting a lot, as you mention.

I also think you seem a bit insecure. To worry that much about it shows that you are. He is with YOU and not her. You are engaged. I don't believe he would have made that decision if he didn't want to be with you. I'm also not saying it isn't possible there is something going on, but I doubt it. Then again, people are capable of terrible things.

I think you just need to communicate. Communication is key to a relationship and it doesn't seem like you two are doing well there. Best get that sorted or you are in for a long marriage.

[Cwilliams2695]

See the reason I fell the way I do about them talking is because he two timed me at the beginning of our relationship for entire first like 6 months and then cheated on me a few times while travleing on the road while I was pregnant with our child and he went and saw his ex I'm speaking on me than one occasion while we were together claiming he was visit his dad or had court but didn't and then she sent me photos of then together

[Cwilliams2695]

Feel

[PrettyPriya]

Where you engaged before or after he cheated?

[Cwilliams2695]

Before

[Cwilliams2695]

But ehy dies that matter we were in a committed relationship either way

[Cwilliams2695]

But why does that matter

[PrettyPriya]

I was curious because I would never accept a proposal from someone that cheated on me. To be honest, I wouldn't be with someone who cheated on me, engaged or not. You are enabling him. I'm not saying it is your fault he cheated. You are just saying you accept it by sticking with him.

I would have left him. I know it is hard with a child involved, but don't devalue yourself and cave to a cheater. You know what they say... once a cheater, always a cheater. How many more times will he do it before you call it quits?

[Jamie05rhs]

So you allowed yourself to be the "other woman" with a taken guy. That is how your relationship began. And now you're surprised that you have problems?

[Cwilliams2695]

He came to the state I live in for work he told me him and his ex split over a year before we met how was I supposed to know you act like everyone in the road is honest but his ex wasn't exactly an honest one either and was extremely toxic

[Jamie05rhs]

Oh, wow. So he lied to you the whole time, pretending he was single? I'm sorry, but if I were a woman, I wouldn't tolerate that nonsense. I would have dumped him a long time ago.

[Guy13]

Block... step back a little bit... think about terminating relationship over weekend?

[Cwilliams2695]

He lives with me if your saying block him

[Guy13]

Damn... on Lease together?

[Cwilliams2695]

No actually

[Guy13]

Well, there you-so your credit will survive. I could box-up and be out in 3 hours... take the food too ALL of it less 1/2 stick of butter

[spartan55]

You are going to marry that turd? Really?

[Cwilliams2695]

Ya I don't know 🤷🏻‍♀️ I love him he has changed over the 2 and half years we been together but maybe not enough seeing as there are a lot of things out of place that makes no sense currently

[slatyb]

Is he ignoring you to be with her?

[Cwilliams2695]

Him and her had no contact over the past almost 2 years untill she got there shared child back

[In_Trance]

Dump him.
That's sus

[Cwilliams2695]

See I thought the same thing but he opened up to me and told me everything about what she has been saying but I don think he should be there for her ti vent to given past events and it don't regard their child

[In_Trance]

If he's committed to you, he'd handle this properly... which is not happening

[Cwilliams2695]

Ya it's not

[ElementoP]

3some

[Cwilliams2695]

Hell no she is uglier than a head fence

[Anonymous]

Block her?

[Cwilliams2695]

Its hard to when its through his phone

[Opinion Owner]

Then just ask him to do it. Surely, he wouldn't say no?

[Cwilliams2695]

He doesn't even allow me to see it

[Opinion Owner]

I find that very odd.

[Cwilliams2695]

Unfortunately she has his kid so I understand that type of contact but not any other reason or way

[Cwilliams2695]

See so do I