So in short, my boyfriends ex keeps trying to call and text him, she’s previously invited him out. My problem is that my boyfriend won’t tell her to stop, yesterday she called and I asked him to call her back, see what she wants and tell her that he’s in a relationship now so stop contacting him, but he refused. He was so against it. They didn’t even properly date, more of just had hook ups and sex. In the end my boyfriend blocked her but I’m so annoyed that he’s refusing to tell her to stop, I feel like she won’t stop unless he tells her too. Am I being unreasonable? My boyfriend just laughed it off yesterday when she called and said that I was being out of order for having the hump.
Am I being unreasonable? I don’t see why he can’t just tell her to stop, and why he can’t do it in front of me.
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Update: my boyfriend finally realised how wrong he was and he messaged her to leave him alone and then blocked her. All is good now, thank you for all the responses!
My boyfriends ex won’t stop texting him! What should I do?
Lmao you're getting bamboozled 😂 I suggest just ending the whole thing before you get cheated on If he actually cared about you and saw you as his one and only, he wouldn't hesitate a second to call her in front of you and tell her to fuck off because he has you now, and that's even without you telling him to do it, he should do it by himself if he truly loves you
But if you're stubborn and wanna try sticking to such a bad boyfriend Then ask him to give you his phone and look through it If he refuses, dump him
I think you need to tell the guy to sack up, tell his ex they are over, and stop calling. If your guy still has another woman on the hook then he isn't all that interested in you. When men really love a woman there is no other, no side chick is worth ruining a good thing because he is invested, wants you and only you, and will go out of his way to demonstrate that to you.
Bottom line - he is not invested in you and does not care enough to end it with the other girl.
I don't fully agree with this one. I've got this guy still texting me, who is in a serious relationship and all settled down already. He's always been kind of trying to get me to bed, but not anymore. Now he just keeps contact in a harmless way. I don't seriously think he is at all interested in me anymore, he just likes to get some attention every now and then... even though I almost never reply.
Yeah , I'd be pissed too. He needs to respect your feelings and boundaries. He also needs to set boundaries with her too. He hasn't, so she thinks it okay to pester him the way she has been.
He's blocked her now, so that's as good as telling her to piss off. I'd just let it go now he's blocked her.
He probably did not actually block her. My guess is that they are still hanging out or possibly sleeping together. I also doubt she even knows you exist. Most women your age are not friends with benefits when another woman is involved. I'd leave him. He's totally leading you on.
She's 2nd pick. Why would he tell her to stop because if you and him don't work out she's still there? Also, clearly if your asking him to do so and it's bothering you and he's laughing it off then he's not that serious about you and/or her. If you haven't been in a relationship long enough that booty call may be worth keeping in his eyes...
IMHO, your being completely stupid by dating him knowing he has the got of past and is still in contact with this person. The moment he refused, is the moment you should have broke up with him. You think he's not still having sex with her on the side? Don't be naive and cut him loose TODAY! The reason why he does it is that he has NO. RESPECT. FOR. WOMEN. Or YOU. And you just let him walk right over you. He is never going to stop. Stop throwing away your dignity. No respectful person would do what he does.
"My boyfriend just laughed it off yesterday when she called and said that I was being out of order for having the hump. " WHAT? Drop the loser A. S. A. P. He wants to screw her and you at the same time to have power over you and her. There is no dating properly once you make it into a sexual one. He's only with you for sex, just like she was for sex. Period. That's what happens when you create sexual ties with people your not married to. Even if she is out of his life, he is still connected to her sexually.
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I'm going to say probably the truest thing here, and i'm sure others have said it before me. don't ask a question if you are not willing to actually listen and take action. so many people come for answers and ignore it for benefit of the doubt. please don't. i recently got out of an abusive relationship not because i was strong enough, but because he got arrested. not by me, though i was groomed and wrapped up in it all. it's too long of a story to go into.. but he triangulated me with his best friend, compared me to her, gas-lighted me about it etc. many guys have said it in the comments and i will repeat it for you because it upsets me to see anyone going through similar to what i did even if it's different. he doesn't respect you. he laughed at your feelings. that pit of pain you don't understand in the pit of your stomach is your gut feeling. it's basically a special power that no one knows they have because they don't trust it enough. I think he may still be involved with his ex. there is such a thing as emotional cheating. research, look out for the signs and get out before it can escalate. x
Oh dear, love may be blind, and you may wanna give it the benefit of the doubt; But at this point in my life, I can confidently affirm that that your boyfriend doesn't want to burn that bridge since he still has a vested interest in whatever she's got to offer, at the very least. Worst case, he's still bread crumbing her. Then again, it's just an opinion. Being real objective too. My final words, hit him with the ultimatum, and if he refuses to get the message across explicitly, walk out on his ass before he screws you over on more humiliating levels. Smh, men ain't shit.
He should have been mature enough to do that without you pushing him. He has to know your boundaries and based on that he will either respect you or... lie and see you both if he can. If its just sex, it will continue to happen. You should communicate with him about why it took him so damn long to do something. Maybe he just had to do it 1 more time with her... but wait he's still tapping that... your sharing a boyfriend. Basically don't have sex with him he needs to be mature enough to fast from sex if he really wants you. This is not knew... why are you looking at his phone you can't trust him. Now he's just gonna try to smooth this over. He needs to do more work than just say o we done, I'm sorry... nope that's too easy. He had to build trust but the fact that he told you that he was sexually involved with her says he is not a relationship type unless he is willing to be a friends for a long time then a boyfriend. Goodluck
Uh, nope! He's being disrespectful to you. He's probably not wanting to cut ties with her just in case you two don't work out. That way he can keep her on standby and go back to hooking up with her again. He could even be considering cheating on you with her if he hasn't done so already. Either way this is a selfish guy who is thinking only about himself. If he had any sense in that brain of his he'd tell his ex that he's in a relationship and happy and to leave him alone. The fact that he isn't speaks volumes. I'd dump his lame ass if I were you.
Well, if he loved you he would do as you told. If he knows that you are not okay with speaking with her. He would tell her to stop calling him and to stop contacting once and for all. He ignores you and laughs it off. Meaning he might block her for now!! But he can easily unblock someone too. My advice is to talk to him again, that what he is doing is not okay.. Especially since it was just for hooked up and sex only. That you feel uncomfortable that you guys still talk to each other. That he would not like it if you were the one talking to the ex. Try working it. If it does not work. There is nothing you can do.
I am good friends with some previous sexual partners I had. I still find them attractive but does not mean I will give into the desires. I know myself to be strong enough to not cheat on any relationship. I expect her to have the same kind of relationships too. To me if you cannot accept someone for having a past intimate relationship with someone they still talk to then that makes you insecure about yourself. Shouldn't you be asking yourself "why do I care? How does this affect me? do i trust my partner enough to NOT do anything?". If I had a partner who did not want me to talk to a friend, sexual past or not, then why are we even together? You do not have the right to control my social life. Even if we are dating or married. I do not ever do that to my partners. Bottom line is if you cannot trust the person your with fully then why are you with them?
Your boyfriend might be a nice guy, and he doesn't want to hurt this girl's feelings. Most men truly cannot stand seeing or hearing a woman cry. There's also the strong possibility, but he wants to keep her around in case he loses you. You said they were friends with benefits. So it's not like she was somebody he truly cared about. She might just be is fall back crutch. If she truly was a friends-with-benefits kind of girl. I doubt seriously that this is someone he's thinking of starting a relationship with. It might just want to keep her around in case the two of you don't workout. I would suggest to you, instead of browbeating him, and trying to force him to get rid of her. What you should do instead is knock his boots like they've never been knocked before. Make him forget about her with your body. Do it well, and do it often. But that's only if you think he's worth keeping around.
i would think something is up. and this is coming from a guy that's still friends with 90% of my ex's, but the difference is I tell all my friends and ex's that I'm in a relationship and ill tell them who it is if they ask and vice versa. i don't hide anything like that. it starts too many "what if's" and I got nothing to hide, so I make sure both sides know what's up. but if my woman told me to tell them not to call me, I would say no! not going to do it. not going to throw a friend away, that's is just a friend and nothing more. but I don't play sneaky shit either.
i think your insecurity is completely justified. if you've tried telling your b. f about it and he's does nothing then tell your closest friend to pretend he/she is your ex and save her number as your ex's number. make her call you/text all the time when you're with your boyfriend. when you're chatting giggle, laugh and talk stories your b. f doesn't know off. if there is something all boys understand is jealousy. after sometime it will drive him so crazy that he will tell you to stop chatting with your ex. tell him "i understand how you feel babe, i'll stop if you also stop chatting with your ex" there it is, problem solved. but don't ever let him know you baited him.
You are an option to him. Maybe a "safety" (same concept as safety school). He wants a relationship with her or sex on the side or having the variety of getting sex from two girls. If you are seeking an exclusive relationship be aware he isn't at the least and you are a backup at the worst. Of course he won't be honest about it because if its for the sex that will be cut off and he knows you might not stick around if you find up you are a backup. Its shitty but you guys are both so young and have so much to learn. See things as they are not as you wish they were.
Well... you are in the rights of being annoyed and by all means you are not jelouse you just want a normal relationship and not having to share him. Well i am going to say, either he tells his ex to stop bugging him, or you leave this relationship bc he can't have it both ways, unless thats what you want to do. I dont think he has much respect for you or any girls, very immature guy. I know, i would look at him and smile, then when he leaves, i will tell him dont ever return good bye, and delete his ass number, bc its not worth my time. But you are not being unreasonable, you are in the right mind to think that way about your boyfriend. Good luck on your decision. This is my own opinion and no one needs to agree with me at all.
There’s not something necessarily wrong with staying in contact with exes. Sometimes it is. Sometimes it’s not. The more important issue is whether or not it’s ok with you. You’re allowed to have your own hard limits. If that’s an absolute no for you, then you have to communicate that to him. If it’s equally important to him to stay in contact with his exes then the two of you are incompatible. You can part ways now amiably realizing that this wasn’t a good match. And you can bet there are other things that you haven’t discovered yet that will be just as difficult if not more so.
Looking at your question I also noticed how, in a lot of the wording, you are putting a lot of the blame towards her. That’s really not fair and is reinforcing an incorrect perspective for you. There is every chance that she has no idea that you are bothered at all by her contacting him. This is all on you and your boyfriend. And if I’m being honest, it sounds like you actually have been pretty clear and he’s dismissed your needs and concerns pretty condescendingly. You’re young! Move on and maybe both of you will learn something important from this :)
She keeps calling and texting? Thats a reply id lay it out for him as simple as possible if you want this relationship to continue then you need to address your worries before you can progress. As far as im concerned he's probably continueing to see and talk with his 'BOOTY CALL' he needs to answer that call infront of you see how that conversation goes! And honestly hell probably if doing something wrong he will act and talk so differently on the phone too her trying to send her a hint that someone is listening she probably knows he's cheating on you and doesn't care about it, she is getting what she wants
Ok. I'm gonna respond. Becuz if I don't this post will show up for all eternity.
Why is that anyway? Certain posts just won't go away. There's a higher power at work. I'm sure of it.
He still has feelings. He doesn't want to lose his friend. But he worries the two of u won't get along. I suggest taking her out to dinner. You can talk about your boyfriend. She might have some insight. I doubt she's competition. She just can't let go of the friendship, just like him. Feel free to ignore my advice.
This post won't disappear, no matter what I do. It shows up even when no one has said anything.
Anyway, I disagree. She should just talk to her. Find out what's going on. Forcing him to delete a friend is asking for trouble. He'll resent her for making him do it.
I read once that if you can't let go of something, u should take a photograph of it and then let go. It's a bit of a stretch, but maybe the texts are like a photograph? Something he once had, and doesn't want to let go of. Messed up? Yes. But not a reason to break off her current relationship.
Yes, because dealing with dramatic women is a huge pain in the ass for me and I think a lot of men. He tells her don’t call or blocks her. She flips out, next thing you know she’s knocking on his door, coming to his work. Sometimes women can be obsessive. Sometimes best to just answer and just kinda let her babble until she moves on. Is she psycho? Obviously there’s s reason he was only fucking her and not in a more serious type of relationship with her.
No, because I won’t date girls who are still in contact wit their ex’s. Not even just friends with them, for a variety of reasons. If their ex is anywhere in their life, I’m not. So I can’t blame you for not being ok with it. You’re with him, you don’t want interference from her. Also I’d be concerned about trusting him.
I think more details are needed as to why he allows this and doesn’t just completely cut her off.
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Your boyfriend either wants to ignore the situation is even happening by blanking it out and not dealing with it in my opinion. Or he still has lingering feelings for her. It's difficult to say. But I've had a girl in the past not ex try to contact my boyfriend and he's told them he's not interested and he's happy with me. If he can't say openly to this girl he's moved on them something is off. She's either an obsessed ex who you may need to tell to back off or she's hanging about for a reason. Only your boyfriend knows the truth. If he's being harassed he needs to say it.
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You kind of make it sound like she's the one pursuing your boyfriend, but we don't know if that's actually true or not. You also don't mention how long you've been dating him.
For one, I would never ask my boyfriend or anyone to block or stop talking to someone they know and had a past with. It's their choice, their freedom. I can eventually inquire more about the nature of their relationship and convey my feelings on the subject if I feel threatened in any way, but the only thing I can control is either I trust my partner or not.
Also, someone with a recent history of "friends with benefits" is hardly someone I would consider apt to be in a serious relationship, aka a quality guy. He won't cut ties with her because he doesn't even know what commitment is. They've never even broken up because they were never in a serious relationship to begin with.
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He blocked her twice then... lol. You just couldn't rest until he acted like the dick he is and treated his ex like a stalker, huh? You seem happy now, congrats. Just remember, what goes around comes around.
Stop talking then. You said what you had to say and you are reasonable. Take some actions now, ghost him for a montth without a notice, donr check on him just take care of yourself. he's probably openly keeping her on the side, to cheat or for his ego...
He disrespected you by pretending to block her but clearly hasn’t since her calls are getting through. For all you know, he could be the one reaching out and trying to cheat. You either talk to him one last time, discuss it like adults; ask him how he’d feel if you’d been still contacting your ex. If he laughs it off, dump him. He’s clearly a childish asshole.
Well your feelings look overwhelmed, your logic not. There must be a reason to not do it if you are his girlfriend, so my advice is to get clear if you would continue going out with him if he comes back with his ex or not and telling him in a clear and confident form. Thing is that his behaviour make you look as replace girl ( a girl who is chosen because he can't get his ex for a date) so you must be firm in that you aren't and that he can be in with you or not, but in anyway you will accept that role. ( In the case you wouldn't accept it).
No you're not. If he really wanted it to stop he could tell her to stop and, if it came down to it, block her number. I would talk to him about it and if things don't stop, end it. He is either still messing around with her, still likes her, or is trying to make you jealous. None of this is right and you deserve better. If this doesn't change, dump his ass.
If you're telling your man to stop communicating and responding with his ex, and he won't cut it out, he probably wants to still be in contact with her, and thats not good for someone that's currently in a relationship. He may be cheating on you through him texting her. But ask him whats going on, and if be diesnt tell you, ignore him until he does, or just leave him. You have a right to know
Cuz he is selfish and only cares about himself , do yourself a favor and dump him and find someone that makes you a priority , how would he feel if your ex boyfriend was constantly contacting u? Trust me dump his ass , ha doesn't respect you , you are just a convienence to him
Just imagine if the roles are switched, and it's your ex who keep on contacting you, and your current boyfriend knows about it but you still continued to contact your ex. Your boyfriend asked you to stop, but you didn't. Instead, you just laughed in his face and told him he's being a pussy about it. What would his reaction be? I'm pretty sure your boyfriend won't accept this behaviour from you. So why should you?
I mean if he blocked her and isn't receiving the messages anymore, what's the big deal? She's practically gone from this world at this point. That being said, on principle, I assume if a previous lover messages me that it's because they want to get together. Why else would they? Unless they want something important they left at your place, I can't think of any other reason.
Okay so this is simple. Do you think he’s not into you enough to slope off with this ‘ex’? Fine: there’s a trust issue and you should find someone you actually do trust.
Is he a nice guy who is just friendly with another human being and has no inclination to do anything but think of you and is in love with you then what’s the problem?
In these days of equality what’s wrong with being a friend with a female if you’re a male. He’s probably firmly in the ‘friend zone’ and we all know how difficult it is to get out of there!!
He is being manipulative, to a certain degree, as he knows hox it made you feel and kind of enjoying your reaction / jealousy. He is also keeping his options open, meaning he has no intention to cut ties with her. You have / had every right to react the way you did, in my opinion.
You are not being unreasonable, your boyfriend already knows he has you, so he is going for an ego boost. Give him a choice, remind him you are not just another option for him, you will not always be there for him if he is trying to squeeze his ex in. Ask him either make peace with his past and move on, or move out. You tell him you are not comfortable with this, if he does not understand the ex is making a ridge in your trust in him, he does not deserve you.
Have him change his number. If the ex pops back upon that phone then it’s likely he gave it to her and wants to remain in contact. I don’t know if they are really good friends after a relationship because that happens. A sexual relationship only is something totally different. If he only had a sexual relationship with her then I’m fraud I smell a fish. Changing your number can be a big thing but it’s relatively small especially to keep someone close to him that loves him the way you do. He should respect the relationship he has with you being that it’s far more than a sexual one. If he is unwilling to change I would quietly prepare to leave without notice and without intent to return.
Hiding the fact he's in a relationship is wrong. He seems to be trying to keep her in reserve should things with you not work out. Be honest with yourself. Is he worth this drama? Would you be better off finding someone who's honest and straight up and cares about how you're feeling?
If he blocked her without telling her why he was likely scared to do it. It isn't unreasonable of you. If they bumped into each other every once in a while at a store and talked for a few minutes and you responded this way you would be unreasonable, but that isn't the case
I can't believe you so annoyed you posted a question. I was with my boyfriend and he found another girl kept texting her even when I said to stop. he talked to her in front of me. everything was clear that he was looking for benefits from both of us. I started pulling away that's what I was forced I hatethose days.. I started managing myself instead him. after an year he got married to her and now regret and text me. but I am not available neither then nor now. choice is urs. Its unfortunate it is happening with you. but try to focus on you only.. take care.
He still talks to her. If it is so annoying why won't he just tell her to leave him alone? Think about it sis. She knows about you but is still comfortable enough to call an text someone that is taken. I'm thinking when you guys were dating he told it wasn't serious with you. Hung out a few time and now you're here. Getting mad that he won't tell her to leave him alone.
Honey, womanizers are there to be friend material or many kinds of temporary enjoyment material. They are obviously not boyfriend materia at all. He is saying as if you are over reacting, but it's just an act for his own benefit. He knows what he is doing and how you feel. He understands everything. However, he is not on your side because he values his own sexually thrilling enjoyment than you or your relationship, and This shows that he is a womanizer. Get out of that terrible relationship.
Is he accepting her calls and replying to her texts? If yes, then that's a problem. If no, then I don't understand why you want to compell your boyfriend to talk to his ex. He may not want to have any further contact with her, and that's something you have to respect.
You’re not being unreasonable. If I were you I’d seriously have a talk with him and get to the bottom of why he’s refusing to cut all ties with his ex. Any man who’s loyal to his current woman most likely won’t hesitate to ditch any girl who threatens his current relationship; it seems like he’s not doing that at all. And as your boyfriend he should be respective of your feelings about this, but his behavior seems to say otherwise. Don’t, under any circumstances give him any ultimatums, because that would most likely lead to arguments. Just simply talk to him, get his perspective on things and see if you two could come to an agreement. I’ll leave it up to you to decide what to do from there. Good luck love. :)
Maybe you will try to ask him why he don't wanna say "goodbye"to his ex? If he don't want to answer, ask what is stopping him and say if he will not stop doing all this shit until the end of a week or smth like this. You find a guy who will thinking and care about you. I think all that he doing to his ex now is disrespect to you. Don't waste your time and nervs at him and his crazy ex. If I we're you I would let him go because he doesn't respect my wishes. Don't think too much about this relationships just talk with him
In short, get to the bottom of what's going on between them and ensure and be sure again and again that there's nothing more than "conversation" between them. If so there is you might need to consider moving on. Also in a sensible manner you could also try having a three way relationship with them. If that doesn't work, you need to start focusing on you and move on and move out.
If he can't tell her to stop or tell her to stop in front of you, this may mean he may still want her in her life. You're not being unreasonable. You don't want to feel like a third wheel and that's entirely understandable. May seem hard and argument provoking, but call him on it and ask if he still has feelings for his ex. This isn't going to be pretty, but there's ultimately a reason why he's taking the position he is in and being "non confrontational is not an excuse
Sounds like he's trying to keep her on the line. If he made it a point to say to you that he's not going to do it and gave a real reason like she's a close friend and you have to accept he has female friends. Then I'd get it. But him just saying you're overreacting and blocking her number with out saying anything is telling me he wants to keep her around in case, or he likes the attention and wants to maintain that.
You are not being unreasonable, but he does have his own life. If he loves you he's respect what you ask and tell her to stop calling daily, and texting daily. If you think you could handle him have a normal friendship with his ex, that would be a compromise unless you'd like to have every bit of his time devoted to you, but comprise with him.
When it comes to dating, I don't think people should trust a person who stays in contact with their exs. Had an ex girlfriend who did that and I tried to trust her, dumb move lol.
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Your boyfriend is part of the problem. You gave him mature advice to give her closure and tell her that he’s now in a relationship, things are done plain and simple. That shows that you have patience for what’s going on and trust.
But he blocked her which although can be immature (depending on the scenario) it’s also a clear cut signal it’s over. But she’s not handling that rejection too well.
But something sounds fishy about this. I think your boyfriend is enjoying the power trip of being sought out by multiple women. He also might secretly like seeing this get under your skin (and I don’t blame you). Or he things being a dick to her will keep her in his back pocket.
If he can't understand that there is a block button on his mobile, and or that he even answer them let alone reads and responds to them, tells me he has more respect for her than he does you, and that unfortunately speaks volumes on his behalf. Bad volumes if you kmow What i mean
See, it's his relationship with the other person. I understand you want him to abandon her; but you can't influence someone else's relationships. If he pays no attention to your protest and goes on talking to that woman, you may be sure he always keeps a few women around. Which is good for him but not for you.
She’s not being unreasonable... i would be ditching this guy. She doesn’t want him having anything to do with his ex. An ex is an ex for a reason MOVE ON
Not going to lie... if this we me and it was a new boyfriend, I would just leave. I feel like if a guy is really into you & he senses someone trying to get with him, in my experience... the ones who care let her go WITHOUT me saying anything & the ones who don’t, keep them around
I would tell him that he’s a jerk tf.. why would you not tell ur ex to leave you alone especially if ur in a relationship. That’s disrespectful to you! If he was still constantly letting her text him then we would break up. That obviously mean u miss her and u still want her if ur not even gon let her leave u alone. But that’s just me 🙂
you need to respect everyone's right to be themselves, even if you don't like what they are doing or not doing. state that you feel insecure about the situation, then take care of your daily routine. Don't spend your time changing people. change yourself if needed. That may mean accepting him at a lower level than you want him to be- such as a friend whom you respect.
Tell your man to shoot you her # then call her and tell her "look you stupid Bitch I ain't the one you want to be fucking with and neither is my man now if you try to get at him one more time I'm going to fuck you up I don't play like that you fucking Tramp." then hang up on her don't give her a chance to respond..
There are many possibilities. 1 Either that ex is trying ruin your relationship with him and getting revenge. 2 Your boyfriend is making you jeleous. 3 He regrets and wants her back as girlfriend. 4 He wants her as a friend not as girlfriend. 5 He is still confused to decide who is/was better as girlfriend. 6 He wants to get rid of her but doesn't have the guts to tell her straight as she is acting like a friend.
Beware. My ex girlfriend's ex boyfriend kept calling her. Her excuse? They raised a family together. The kids weren't even his. I'm single now. Easier than competing with someone's ex. Another excuse? They weren't "doing anything." But I'd rather she fuck him and get it over with or go back to him rather than this side relationship. I obviously wasn't good enough.
Walk to the bathroom with his phone in hand, stand over toilet drop it and go 'oops it slipped'.
Or you could message her and find out what's going on. Part of me thinks if you talk to him about it he'll be like why are you nagging me? Or why are you jealous?
If he's a good boyfriend he won't respond. If he does it's time for you to run SPRINTTTT!
Yes, you're being unreasonable. He's your boyfriend, not your pet. You don't get to take control of all his relationships with anyone else. Nr does he get to do it to you. He's establishing boundaries. "I will go this far, but you are not in charge of my relationships or my life. I will not feed your jealousy." If he let you walk over him, you'd kick him to the curb as a wimp.
I think if he is trustworthy he must talk infront of you.. thay can be friends but why to talk secretly.. and if you dont trust on hi just leave him and tell him that first get over her and than talk to you.. only if you are not in anyother relationship..
If he’s blocked her then let it go for now, if it continues or he begins talking to her again then tell him straight up, I don’t think you should be talking to her because she does not respect our relationship. His reaction is your answer
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I think, first thing you should do is make him realize how bothered you are by this. Then, make him block her or at least ask her to stop messaging him. If he doesn't do that then you should re-consider your relationship cause I really don't see a reason why he would hide that he is with you from her.
Just tell him to delete and block her number and then wait a couple of weeks if he sees her behind your back then dump him. I had the same thing happened to me with my ex girlfriend and she got engaged to him behind my back. But yet I still love her and want to marry her.
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