Have you ever been with someone or met someone who treats you hot and cold?

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They act like they want you in their lives but also one day act like you’re the worst thing and they don’t want you… But you like or love them but they treat you like an option or only when it’s convenient for them…I have and it was bad. It was a blow to my self worth lowering myself to someone who won’t give me the same. Adios!  Share your experiences if you have and how you got out of it 😃

PinkCloud7 · Accepted Answer

I have. It wasn't romantic, but a horrible friendship/roomate experience. It was my roommate- he would be all about living together, hosting game nights, etc, super friends mode one day, then blamed me for making his girlfriend uncomfortable the next, say he wanted to break up with her one day, then go out of his way to make her welcomed at the house we lived it.

The constant whiplash was sooo confusing and disorienting! I actually moved out before it was my time. Wished I could have done it sooner.

tweety487 · Accepted Answer

Hell yeah and I kicked his ass lol.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

For two years, I dated a girl who was a great match for m with this one exception. Sometimes, she wanted a boyfriend and she was attentive, affectionate, and a good girlfriend. But sometimes, it seemed that having a boyfriend was a low priority for her. She didn't do anything awful but she neglected me and I felt unimportant. If she had been consistently caring ad attentive, I would have proposed. But she wasn't, and I eventually broke up with her.

Middleman · Answer

Yes totally, and it hurts when it happens.

I had known two great (male) friends or besties in my life, one I knew from primary and junior school and another that I met at a 2nd secondary school when I changed from state school. When I started the state secondary (where my 1st friend had went) I found to my disappointment he treated me very badly as like as if I was a total stranger. He would make fun of me in front of his new classmates etc. Here was someone who a few years earlier, would invite me to his birthday party or barbeque. So I totally disowned him - and subsequently never spoke for years. The second one acted in similar manner. We were totally fine as friends during and the 3rd and 4th year of secondary. When we got to the 5th, he just became totally distant one day. Afaik I'd never done anything that would upset either of them yet that was what happened.

Ευδεμονια · Answer

I have, I crushed on a girl a lot of years ago, she seemed very sweet and shy… she went to my school and we spent time returning home together. I liked her a lot but it turned out she was a real sicko since after some time she left out her sweetness and started treating me and others like sh*t, without any reason. When I realised she was acting strange I tried distancing but she returned sweet… only for few days, so she restarted giving sh*t to everyone. It was a real sicko, lucky me I comprehended the situation and I distanced me when I was still in time.

Finchie40 · Answer

Yes , my Girlfriend and my ex , both have Dr Jekyll Mr Hyde syndrome , One minute they love the shit out of you then the next they hate your fucking guts , like a flip of a switch , I constantly walk around with a question mark over my head on whether I am being Loved or used , it’s the craziest shit but some how some way I deal with this shit and I don’t know why , My thing is I will tolerate it until I get cheated on, if she cheats on me that’s my final straw to kick her to the curb.

beebella · Answer

Yep. My problem was that I let them get away with their shitty behavior for way too fucking long. It took me a long time to get over them, but when I finally did, I started feeling better about myself and I just felt like I was getting back to who I was before I let this person ruin my self-esteem.

Blueeyes81 · Answer

I had a friend who after her divorce we became Incredibly close. We both developed pretty strong feelings. Despite how she felt she didn't want to get into a relationship with. I'm a recovering alcoholic who had been sober for a couple of years at that point. She had a terrible childhood because of the men her mom chose, all alcoholics. She was afraid that someday I may start drinking again and she didn't want that. Anyway she would be hot and cold. She let her feelings for me rule for a month and we'd get too close to crossing the line and then she'd completely pull away, then miss me and the cycle would start all over. I was head over heels in love and naively believed that love would find a way. What did happen was a emotional roller coaster that lasted for 2 years. I finally got hurt enough that I had to walk away from my best friend and the woman I was crazy about.

Blackcosmo · Answer

Yes my (ex) best friend. She randomly asked for favours and for help one day then she would make fun of me and hurt me some other day. The cycle kept repeating. She was just using me but I was too naive and too much of a pushover to believe that.

RavVid · Answer

Well yes I have. She was 1/8 chinese and a had a beautiful builtin tan I really liked. Not many will know this but there are four pelvic structures (I am a very technical perv) and she had my absolute fav - the platypelloid pelvis. Wider than norm with a flaring pelvic crest that oscillated so delightfully when she walked.

She was also the best lay ever. In fact I have made every girl since her replicate her little tricks. She would be all over me at times and then just stand me up at other times.

melanieeeB · Answer

Yeah, my very first guy was like that, that's why the on off and all but I did grew stronger cause of that, with time I realized even more my worth and I learned to let go and work on me and etc etc and still today I'm grateful for him and the experiences.

I even low key miss him sometimes, cause the good times were really good haha but he isn't worth my time and energy tho

ChiTown33 · Answer

If I felt they were inconsistent like that. I wouldn't be with them. I might have accepted that when I was younger but not now. It's probably a big reason I'm single. There's NOBODY in this world that I can't live without.

NNWSSEnew · Answer

Never been in that kind of experience but I kind of used to be that kind of guy that puts women in those positions a little advice women don't take in and give out and make each other feel good and keep going and hot and cold will go away your relationship will stay one temperatur

Andres77 · Answer

Hot…until they have your money. then cold…. oh yeah

Juxtapose · Answer

It feels like a very common occurrence I'll say that.

Waldoe · Answer

if you do not feel any "pasion" coming from them "Walk away" you can't create passion in a cold heart

sage2021 · Answer

Yes. After years of a worthless relationship with him, I packed up everything and moved 3,000 away from him. That worked!

muncher717 · Answer

or the person could had been busy and wasn't feeling well

ThoseCognacEyes · Answer

Yes. It was fine by me. Easier to filter people that way.

1GoldTwins · Answer

Yes. As soon as they turned to the worst I put an end to it. I have no time for games.

pizzalovershouse · Answer

1 ex liked to get mad about anything thn when they upset me then hrs later wanted sex so I would not be in the mood

Still-alive · Answer

Im not sure. Once they act cold i just assume they aren't interested and move on lol

MrPickles13 · Answer

Thankfully no, and honestly I hope not that sounds pretty painful to have to be put through.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

What are some more examples of a confused Man

NathanDavis · Answer

nope, not really...

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Yeah; f*CK those people.

Hush97 · Answer

Yep! Just left that relationship!

Wise4myage · Answer

No, I haven't met a girl like that yet.

TallAnon · Answer

Yeah, pretty annoying.

Jerre · Answer

I never have experienced that.

Zolly99999 · Answer

Omg a few times.

LavLavLuv · Answer

I have met some

moonpie89 · Answer

Never have actually

legalboxers · Answer

my ex..

EaterPeter · Answer

Yes.

Je0706 · Answer

Yeah my ex

eagle1951 · Answer

yeah

Slim57 · Answer

Oh for sure

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